I have no experience more about others,but find the answer of this questions …
1)doing regular exercise for nofap ?
2) daily cold shower ?
3) meditation ?
4) a strong collection of data on nofap?
5) daily motivation , affirmation??
6) powerful password to lock devices?
Count howmany yes in this 6 questions??
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Thanks… @anon13059885 @Prox @_TIGER
Yeah… I am lacking in exercise and meditation… Also I will read easypeasy…either 30 min…but I will read.
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I want to know what do you do for fun or relaxing yourself?? @neo_150
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To be honest… I have thought about this many times… But I did not find anything which relax me… I never had a hobby… I like to play chess in my childhood but I left that also… From some years only… I started playing it only becoz I knew that dome game should be there which I should play or enjoy… You can say it is also a step after those thoughts when I started thinking about something which I like to do… So I observed my past and I remember this chess game that I used to love it… Only that’s why I started playing it.
I don’t know…if it happen with others here… But I really don’t enjoy anything for much time… Not listening music… If I listen music then also after some time I get bored and that starting irritate me… Even I don’t have a favourite food or meal… I eat everything… some of the things I like much…some not that much… It ia like… If you ask me what I love to eat and I say burger(for example) and then If I eat burger 2…3… times then I loose interest in that too… Then I need something else…
It is kind of instability… I think you got my point now… @drago
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Our brothers here have given you good advice already, I’ll add my own thoughts.
You can quit masturbation in the same way as pornography, brother. They are both addictions that cause nothing but pain and misery in our lives.
The beautiful thing is that no one can make us do it against our will. We always have the ultimate say. We can decide to be done with it and stop doing it. We can choose to say No to trading our happiness, peace of mind, self-esteem and appreciation for five minutes of fake dopamine-driven pleasure and then days of black depression, guilt and shame. We can be done with it for good when we choose to be. Isn’t that wonderful?
You are in control of your thoughts. You can choose to stop fantasizing. The only reason why you forget everything and start masturbating to these fantasies is because you still think masturbation is a pleasurable activity, and you are trading that fake pleasure for everything else in your life. You don’t need to do that anymore brother. It will never be pleasurable. It will always ruin your life.
I’ll share a line that my friend likes to say and apply it to this - on your deathbed, you aren’t going to wish that you spent more time masturbating. You’re going to wish that you spent more time LIVING. Following your passions. Connecting with loved ones and fellow human beings. Spending more time on what’s important to you, activities that make you happy and that give you genuine fulfilment.
You’re talking about not enjoying many things. This is a direct result of the addiction. In our childhoods, our brains were healthy and we gained a normal amount of dopamine from activities, enough to find them pleasurable. Now after years of addiction, it is harder to experience those natural pleasures of life, and we crave the artificial ones which destroy us even further. But don’t be afraid, the human body is the most sophisticated machine on the planet. It has an incredible ability to heal itself when we stop consuming poison. Within a few good weeks you will be free from that damage and experience the natural joys and peace of life again. Stress will be easier to deal with, the highs of life will be higher and the lows of life less low. The instability will go away as we stop engaging in addictive behaviour.
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Enjoyment will return with time away from the addiction. Even just walking past some trees and looking up at the leaves will be enough to bring a smile to your face. Life is so much more beautiful when you’re no longer an addict.
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Hey @neo_150 sorry to see you in this situation. Please try going to this place and spend few days, if possible spend a month. I too want to go there but due to office work I cant…if its possible for you go there …do anything you can to get rid of this loop.
I have been following Agnidev Arya Ji he has literally changed lives of many extreme addicts.
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Thanks @_KarmaYogi … But thats not possible… You can understand why.
Whatever… My relapse count is so high… First I should focus on dec that any how.
Thank you very much guys… For replying…
Thanks bro for asking…
I am not doing so good…but yeah better than when I posted last time here.
Last time… I was completely broken… It was like I cannot stop this and this will destroy everything.
I really thank everyone here…who helped me to build that confidence again.
I passed 10 days and then after 2 relapse… I am again at 3rd day… BUT I know right now my motivation is different (I am not sharing it…don’t want to trigger anyone).
In those 10 days… Many things happened with me… Sometimes I really felt so good and wanted to posted something here…but I stopped myself… Becoz there was a feeling inside me that I want to showoff by posting (which is not my nature)… I lived that feeling and tried to realise myself that completely…
Also sometimes posting here…made me feel weaker… It is like I am telling others…so thag they know my situation and help me… Thats why I didn’t posted anything.
This is my fight… Others can motivate us…but at the end I have to control myself… Etc etc.
Thanks again bro… Hope you are doing good.
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THIS REPLY TO MYSELF FIRST BEFORE ANYTHING I AM TRYING LIKE YOU NEO
You will be fine neo I sure
because you are strong , you know what you should do and I will not count this like a help it’s sharing and this sharing is useful for all me and you , be kind to yourself
I will talk with you about ( 2 points) I will not out of it because me too i am someone try to learn from my fantasizes… not fighting it but accept it and go after your day
1- what is fantasizes it’s a *** scence , memorize in your brain when you are confused come because you are not good and because your brain does not know what is the best way to calm you now , he send this msg , thinking that it will be good but it’s not and you lost Everytime you response to this fantasizes.
believe me it’s not a fight “it is acceptance” continue what you want to do after ( what plan for your day )
Even while your sleeping I know this time is the best to have some fantazise thinking that it’s only one time but it finish by blaming yourslef and not out of this maze .
we should not watch ■■■■ .
yes sure , and we have not to blame or fight this:thinking: yes too
but when this come I have to be ready 
I know this is lot of Informations , but i am sorrry if i make you bored .
you are smart and I know you will be free from this someday .
Don’t stop to explore
, of course you have something you have a passion about of course you have many not only one too , believe.
We are not here to do what you are our parents talked us no we have to explore because we are alive .
Try to learn how to manage
**I suggest to read the book of **ATOMIC HABITS****I don’t know if there are the podcast of it or not you can search , it’s so super to open your mind in something and this book is the best to understand and to deal with small steps and you will understand correctly how can you accept this small steps that lead you to your big goals and to accept the concept while reading .
If you like music , think about how about podcasts and you will enjoy …just put this title to your paper what do want to explore for today .
Look about The ideas and searching for hoobies no limitation for it just focus on Yourself .
If you are a man who see that to express your bad feelings here is a weak thing
I will tell you an idea to record what you feel , and listen after that and like this you did (2in1 ) it all about playing with your mind by intelligence , you expressed what you want and you can put your hand on what you have to do ,
if you can’t stay calm and still feel this
inside you .
so you have to know that this time you need to listen much more than talk , just choose the best to yourself (meditation- only classic music-listen for praying or pray to god and talk and be sure he is listening and it will be not shame to say what he already know about -or you can choose your best friend to share on phone to pull down all this bad feelings) .
Fantasizes is a big issue
yes
2- ask yourslef , how about the people that they are nature ( this people that don’t know anything about ■■■■ fap all of this ) , how about babies if they fantasize too:thinking:
yes of course ,
They fantasize and have big and crazy dreams 
while sleeping .
you can see them smiling while sleeping and you don’t understand what he saw I this sec.
but he is in his fantasize and this good but where is the mistake is what we do to ourselves that we opened the door without any caring and with high level of curious and no limitation we don’t understand the bad effects or where we will going for .
but practice yourself to put
" limitation "
Put this like "a stamp " in your mind and while walking in this journey of no fapping :
“Everything in my life have to have a limit”
If you can’t do or control and I know it will be hard specially in the begging is so hard
so remember to
Change your position always , talk to your friend by phone not chatting , write a journal if you like to write and it’s boring , try to record to yourself .
We walk in the safe street not the comfort but in the same time not to hell .
Fantasize it’s an *** image come to your mind and it’s ok to come but our action thought it differs if you will relapse or not.
If you stop it + by putting a limitation to your mind every second it comes , you will win sure and your days will go with peace .
You have to skipe everything make you remember your ex if you still have anything from her and pray to god .
Yes neo praying differs and this calm of feel no one can give it to you but god sure he can .
Live your life that you deserve it not what you are usual with it .
i hope that you will find your peace today not tomorrow neo.
Take care.
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Thanks a lot @NhTbH
I got some new ideas after reading your post…
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I have analysed myself a lot… My PMO cycle… Where I fall… Even I know how I feel on each day in the first week…
I know there are so many things I should do… And also I should leave… Obviously if I do nothing then there will be no improvement for sure.
Thins week… I will try to reduce my phone usage time…
I use my phone only for 2 things… Chess and youtube… I don’t play pubg… No fb…insta etc.
This week… From tomorrow I will post everyday about this challenge…
I will use youtube only when I really want to lnow about something related to my work or exercise etc… But I will limit this time too… to Say 30 min.
I have played my last chess match now…
Lets do this.
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I was watching a video… I liked following lines by RAVAN… Thought to share it here.
Jo beet gya, budhimaan uska shok nahi karte.
Bhavishya ki chinta karmyogi nahi karta.
Iss samay, iss chhad kya karna h, uska hi nishchaya avashyak ho jata h.
The wise do not mourn what has passed. A karma yogi does not worry about the future. It becomes necessary to decide what to do at present.
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I tried to leave chess and youtube… But failed.
Obviously I have reduced time spent in both a little bit but it is not satisfactory.
Just want to write something… So that I can feel better…just random thoughts.
Yesterday I was sitting in park, usually I talk to.my friend or my mind is thinking something continuously but yesterday I tried to feel the nature… I was Observing everything…people, trees, dead leaves etc.
Then my brain focused on my life… I thought what am I doing actually. I am not enjoying my life… Not going out for a vacation etc just because I have to work… I have to complete my masters.
When my friends, go out for a vacation or to a bar etc…then I thought I will go after getting settle and completing masters… It requires hard work…bla bla.
Most of my friends (who enjoy, going in to bar etc) are doing job(not that big) just after graduation they joined some job and doing it. That salary is good for them now but in future they have to suffer. That I know.
And yeah… I have to hard work now… and I will get benefits in future obviously.
But I asked this question to myself… WHAT AM I DOING? Am I studying as much required? Am I giving my best? Am I using my time efficiently? … NO
Then those friends are better than me… atleast they are enjoying their life… They are using their time better than me… I am not enjoying not studying not learning anything then what the heck am I doing.
I have learned that… I should do whatever I want but I have to make sure that I do it properly… If I am enjoying then just enjoy and then get back to work and do that work properly… It needs focus.
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You already know you’re doing this investment on your future. But it is important to find the balance in life and save some time for yourself too. This will help you on the quality of your studies and focus.
I think that it’d be quite nice to be in touch with friends. In case you can try seeing them personally or at least be in touch with them.
Friends are one of the feel gifts the universe gives us for free, sometimes unexpectedly
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I have taken charge of my life… Made TT and did other things.
Today is the first day of September… I was fully motivated… Used my time quite efficiently.
No youtube watched… A few games of chess in evening only.
No urges for PMO. But have to be careful in night.
FIRST THING… Now I take this addiction as a drug addiction …even worse than that… Others people can see a drug addict and know why one is unstable and destroyed his life and also can help him…but here no one knows about this addiction of ours… We cannot seek help from our family members etc.
This is more worse than drug addiction… @Forerunner I thought you wrote this thing somewhere… Taking this as drug addiction HIT ME HARD.
SECOND thing: I take MO as unnatural thing… GOD haven’t made our genitals for this thing… And if we do anything against nature then we have to face the consequences…and those can be very bad. I try to remind myself this thing.
These things helping me…to develop a sense that this is not needed… And I don’t enjoy it.
Thinking about benefits and after effects of PMO were not helping me… Or it can be said my brain got used to about those thoughts.
I will try to be disciplined on these new thoughts… In some days I am also going to change my location… These changes obviously will help me to take fresh start and give my brain a signal to change and more careful.
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You’re right brother, I did say that. I was quoting from the EasyPeasyMethod book. It truly is a drug addiction. And what you said is an important reminder - even for drug addicts, at least people in their lives are aware of what they are going through, but the drugs we have taken are a very private activity. We could do it for decades without any of our loved ones knowing we were suffering.
Completely agree with you. The great thing is that it doesn’t benefit us at all and we don’t gain anything good from it anyway, which makes it even easier to escape from.
Glad to see that you started off 1st September in a good way. Keep up the momentum!
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A new journey
From today… I will watch a video or read about some great personalities weekly… And follow those good habits in that particular week… For the whole week I will keep reminding myself those things.
#change your habits… Change your life.
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Week: 19/9 - 26/9
I will follow these quotes by one and only Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam.
I will focus on learning only… And acquire knowledge.
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