(23) Simon's journey to quit porn and masturbation forever

June 11: Today i feel alot better, so in the afternoon i was able to work on some university stuff. I had no urges as well.

It was a good decision to fully concentrate on the recovery from the vaccination. I slept as long as i needed and didnt set an alarm for waking up.

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June 12: I woke up at 7:45 AM and meditated. Unfortunately i was not very productive today due to prioritising less important things over the things that actually matter.

But i didnt have urges which is good.

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June 13: I overslept a little bit and woke up at 9:30 AM. I was fairly productive today though, gotta keep this up tomorrow.

I had very small urges in the afternoon, not really concerning.

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June 14: I woke up at 6:30 (!!!) AM and i was extremely productive today. Even though some things didnt work out well for me today, i am happy with myself.

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Alright i have to be honest to myself. Monday was great, but Tuesday was the exact opposite. I woke up at 8 AM and relapsed at noon time on Tuesday.

Since then i havent been very productive. I really felt ashamed of myself and couldnt understand how i did up relapsing even though i was doing so well before.

Wednesday was very unproductive as well. I bssically didnt do anything and i overslept, waking up at around 11 AM.

Today seems to be a better day already though. I will give an update on today later.

All i can do for now is take it easy and make little babysteps to put myself back into fight and progress.

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June 17: I overslept a litlle, waking up at 9:30 AM. However i was able to do most of the important things that i wanted to do for today.

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June 18: I overslept againā€¦ I was very productive in the morning, but lost my motivation in the afternoon and felt very bad, because i didnt do anything.

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June 19: Guess what? I have overslept another time. It is so frustratingā€¦ I was semi-productive, but yeah, i dont want to start the day at 11 AM. I really need to find a way to wake up early and on time again.

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June 20: I was finally able to not oversleep for once. I woke up on 8:10 AM and i was able to workout and do some mandatory work in the household. No urges today.

So lets recap. This week was really horrible. I basically didnt meditate, i overslept alot and i was only able to workout once. I couldnt concentrate on university and i was feeling really bad on many days. I think things can only get better from here on.

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June 21: I was able to wake up at 8:30 AM and i was able to be relatively productive as well. Later on the day though i i lost my motivation to do stuff.

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June 22: To the people out there that read my journey. Yes, right now it really looks like i am not progressing. I relapse once per week on average and many things like my sleep schedule dont work at all. And yes, i have relapsed again today.

BUT, i wont give up. There is alot of valuable information that i can draw from my relapses and i always try to reflect on what went wrong. Additionaly, because i recently changed my nofap goals to ā€˜hardmode rulesā€™(no sex, peeking or masturbation), i will naturally have more relapses than before. The thing is: I know i CAN overcome these urges. It is just about finding the best strategy that works for me.

If somebody can come up with some advices/suggestions that can help me, i would really appreciate everybody posting them in this thread. I will try them out and give you an update on how they worked for me.

I will keep learning about my addiction and i will keep fighting until i have reached my goal! And to everyone reading this: keep your head up, you are doing great! We can beat PMO together!

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June 23: Feeling alot better after the relapse. I was was productive as well: i did a workout and some stuff for university as well as some stuff for organizing.

Tomorrow is my birthday and i will spend some time with friends/family.

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June 24 and 25:

I had a great birthday and alot of fun! Not much else to say about the 24th.

Today i was less productive than i wanted to be, but i think i can find a rhythm again. I started to have some urges today and i think they correlate heavily with me not enaging in doing something. Which means if use too much time on the day with getting dopamine by watching videos or playing games etc. i tend to have the most urges as well.

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June 26: I overslept again, but i was able to do some stuff for university. I also read chapters of the EasyPeasy book when i was getting urges. It helped me overcome them. I still want to do a workout this week, but wasnt able to do it today.

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June 27: I overslept again. I also wasnt very productive. I was mostly thinking about what needs to change for me to live a better life.

I didnt have urges today.

I realized that my entries in this diary are very short and kind of repetitive. Maybe i can make future entries look more interesting. I also updated my first post on this thread. I basically wrote down some notes that i made from reading the EasyPeasy book. They are the same notes that i posted on May 17.

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June 28:

Waking up at 6:30 AM: :x: (9:30 AM)
Meditation/Yoga: :x:
Workout (every second day): :x:
Time spent for university: none
Time spent for side job: 5 hours
Urges: none
Masturbated?: no
Peeked?: no
Streak: 6 days

I had to do some organizational stuff today, so that i can go on my new therapy session tomorrow. I will share my experience with it if there is something worth sharing. I will try to wake up at 7:30 AM tomorrow and then slowly try to get to my incentive.

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June 29:

Waking up at 6:30 AM: :x: (7:35 AM)
Meditation/Yoga: :white_check_mark:
Workout (every second day): :x:
Time spent for university: 1 hour
Urges: none
Masturbated?: no
Peeked?: no
Streak: 7 days

My therapy session went well. My therapist asked me alot of questions about myself and we arranged another meeting for the next month.

The night before i had a rather erotic dream, though i didnt have a nightfall or anything like that ( if i am understanding the definition of a nightfall correctly). This hasnt happened in a long time.

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June 30:

Waking up at 6:30 AM: :x:(8 AM)
Meditation: :white_check_mark:
Workout (every second day): :white_check_mark:
Time spent for university: around 2 hours
Time spent for side job: 2 hours 15 minutes
Urges: some medium ones in the morning
Masturbated?: no
Peeked?: no
Streak: 8 days

I am starting to get out of a vicious cycle! The last weeks i was never able to resist my urges for more than seven days. I also finally worked out today which i am happy about. I couldnt start the day early, however. I still have to work on that.

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July 1:

Waking up at 6:30 AM: :x:(8 AM)
Meditation/Yoga: :x:
Time spent for university: 1,5 hours
Urges: none
Masturbated?: /
Peeked?: /
Streak: 9 days

I travelled to my parents today and i had an appointment with my dentist. Before that i worked on my university project. At night time i met up with a friend which is why i will probably wake up later tomorrow.

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July 2+3:

I was very busy in the last two days, spending alot of time with my family and friends while also being productuve on the other hand. Which is the reason why i havent made an update just yet.

Waking up at 6:30 AM: :x:(8 AM on both days)
Meditation: :x:
Workout: :x: (couldnt find any time)
Time spent for university: 1 hour in total
Urges: none
Masturbated?: /
Peeked?: /

Even though it looks like i didnt do much on the first glance (no workout etc.) i feel very satisfied and happy about these 2 days. I, for example, felt alot more comfortable in social interactions and i honestly felt like i am improving in many different areas of my life.

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