Will this forum become a dating site?

I seriously want to talk about this issue with you all . I had a discussion with one of my friend on this forum and he was also shocked by what this forum is moving towards . On the message board and on Forum also people asking how to get gf desperately and behaving like they will die if they didn’t get a gf…It seems they have taken the meaning of nofap wrong as it’s a self improvement journey…

I hope admins will take some action @neveragaintw @Taher as it’s disturbing the environment of forum

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Well that’s true everything that you have said :frowning:

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Can you share some topics where you saw this?

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I guess you mean things like that which I don’t think is a desperate post. In this forum, we are talking about masturbation, sex, fapping and so on. One natural part of all of this is the question how does a girl / wife fits into the whole story. I personally see nothing bad in asking about how to approach girls. With porn, we unlearned what a normal relation to the opposite sex is. Thus, I think it is an important part of this forum to also be able to ask how to talk and interact with the opposite sex

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Il just give my thoughts (you may disagree) @Visionary_18

Hes asking for advice and hes not bothering anyone personally here on forum. Replying to him is your choice. Or you could just ignore

If you are referring to @Roads_to_puritys post, hes been going through some stuff. And atleast few people would relate and might help him.

I neither find it weird or wrong asking advice relating to women and relationships. As you can see nofap, women, relationships etc are interlinked. Sometimes helping someone with one aspect might indirectly solve his/her problems.

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Yes also different people have different goal in their life. If someone feels that he is doing relatively good with his carrier and want to explore other areas of life.
What’s wrong with that?

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PMO brings solitude. That’s why people ask for relationships advice. If they do it wrong, just flag them.

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Well it’s good to seek relationship advice in the forum , no doubt . But tbh I have seen thread with name how to get a gf literally 3-4 times here . If the dude has got the advice what’s the point of opening the same topic again and again .

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Yeah if it’s true then surely asking for same thing again and again is not doing him any good I guess.

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2 topics have been closed and 1 is still open on the same topic .

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Please, no dating here guys. Online dating is like porno, just more clothes. Pictures with sexual context. Please, not here.

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I think he has come a long way since he joined this forum. He has got benefit from this forum that’s why he asks the questions. He is on 30 day streak. And he really want to improve himself. Also maybe the title of the topic is same. But contents are different in each question.

I would ask people here to be less judgemental and more forgiving. Instead of making a new thread and making jokes on him you can politely point out the same thing on his question. He will listen you more then. There are different ways to accomplish the same task.

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His topic is not at all about online dating. He doesn’t disturb anyone. He is not texting girls in this forum specifically.

Then, you are saying that there are already topics with the same title. Please count the number of topics with titles like “is peeking a relapse” “what is semen retention”, “are nightfalls a relapse”

That is the nature of forums. People will ask the same questions again and again

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i think he means to say that same person is making same topics again and again not by different persons. And plz im not being judgemental i just clarified what he wanted to say. so dont judge me quickly. thanks! im neutral about this topic.

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Thanks brother for your understanding… I might be troublesome to somebody,I apologize for that if I am being so. I really really want to change myself and emerge as a successful man. Trust me,man. I’m very alone, I don’t have any good friends to talk to. I opened this apps almost 100 times each day. Every time when I’m not focusing on studies or goals,I open this app to learn theirs experience. I consider this community as my sole friend circle, that’s why I tend to ask whatever comes in my mind.

Yes you r right I never messaged any girls here. I know it’s not a dating site,so I don’t bother girls

Before stepping out to date anyone,I want to change myself completely so that I can make myself worth for the woman I love

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I agree with @anon65589122 and the rest. @Roads_to_purity isn’t bothering anyone here. He asked a genuine question didn’t he. I don’t see anything wrong with it! Absolutely nothing. Isn’t nofap meant to improve all aspects of our life? Isn’t dating and relationships an important aspect to a happy life? He could have asked this question anywhere, but he asked it here expecting to get good advice from us, just like all the advice on nofap. I’ve talked to him before about the same topic and I’m happy to do in the future. If anyone is bothered somehow by his threads, then they can simply ignore it… Why make a new thread questioning his thread? In my opinion this thread is more useless than his original thread.

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Actually, due to our help , he changed so much and is a freaking awesome guy now . @Roads_to_purity .
I remember calling him a creep and he absolutely proved me wrong which is a good thing. :sweat_smile:

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Hey man, you are not alone.
I have been alone for the past few years and know that the friends I’m making in college are not worth because you know it right when you speak to them.

Don’t feel alone, you have yourself and your goals.
That’s all you need to stay on the path to a better self.

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It was a general statement bro. Not targeted to you specifically. :slight_smile:

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I do not understand how it can be disturbing to anyone, if one does not pay attention to it.

There are many guys who just wants to hear other’s opinion and get some help. As long he/she is not instigating on dating and personally disturbing someone, I do not understand what is wrong in that.

There are often times we hear about the benefits of no-fap and other things, its good to communicate freely sometimes off topic.

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