I plan to start this post to contain important information which may prevent someone from relapsing. The objective is that if someone is facing urges, he/she may refer to this post and get motivated and try his/her best not to relapse. I request everyone to feel free to add anything important which can prove to be very helpful for someone. I hope this post becomes a motivation for us and provides us with compelling reasons as to why we should leave porn as soon as possible.
I start this by listing some of the facts related to porn so that we can understand how bad it actually is. (Source: Most of these things have been taken from EasyPeasy book.)
→ The beautiful truth is that all porn does absolutely nothing for you whatsoever. Let me make it quite clear, it’s not that the disadvantages of being a user outweigh the advantages, it’s that there are zero advantages to looking at pornography. Most users find it necessary to rationalize why they use porn, but the reasons they come up with are all fallacies and illusions.
→ The porn trap is similar to wearing tight shoes just to obtain the pleasure of taking them off. Non-users don’t suffer empty feelings of needing internet porn, or panic when they’re offline. Non-users can’t understand how users possibly obtain pleasure from two dimensional videos with muted sounds and abnormal body proportions. Eventually, users can’t understand either.
→ Continuing the previous point, porn is a bit similar to heroin addict. Heroin addicts deprived of heroin go through misery, but picture the utter joy when they’re finally allowed to plunge a needle into their vein and end that terrible craving. Try to imagine how anyone could actually believe they get pleasure from sticking a hypodermic syringe into a vein. Non-heroin addicts don’t suffer that panic feeling and heroin doesn’t relieve the feeling, it causes it.
→ Porn isn’t habit, it’s drug addiction! When we start to use porn, we have to force ourselves to cope with it. Before we know it, we’re escalating into increasingly bizarre and shocking porn. The thrill is in the hunting, not the killing, with dopamine rapidly leaving the body after orgasm, explaining why users want to ’edge’ (delaying orgasm) through flicking between multiple browser windows and tabs.
→ Get it firmly in your mind that there’s no such thing as ’just one peek’. It’s a chain reaction that will last the rest of your life unless broken. The myth about the odd, special occasion keeps users moping after stopping.