I wanted your guys opinion on it. I heard it from both sides. Some people think you should start over by edging, some people don’t think you should start over, but edging can be bad because it adds up and you will eventually relapse.
When you edge, there is an intention of relapse, it means that you are not fully committed to your course. Sure, it will never be as bad as a full blown relapse, but it definively weakens your resolve and your mind. I think when you edge, you need to be honest with yourself and start the counter again with a better strategy for next time.
In my experience edging is a precursor to relapsing. Obviously relapsing is bad but edging is worse because it’s what leads to relapse. You give your brain a taste of that dopamine hit it was starved on and then it’ll keep tempting you till finally you give in.
I agree with what has been said, edging can lead you to relapse because ,edging make you think of what you saw and you want more … and more … and more and… relapse. I experienced this many times.
It’s not the end as long as you don’t relapse , but the goal is to avoid it at the best you can.
I don’t think I’ve ever edged without relapsing at some point in the following 24 hours. You might as well save yourself some time and reset. Resetting straight away helps you develop a habit on honesty, and will make you stricter with yourself in the long term. If you’re always thinking o how you can get around your porn ban, you’re never going to get clean, so learn to recognise those thoughts and don’t entertain them.
Thing is, isn’t any form of impure thought considered edging? So any kind of sexual thought is edging and can lead to relapse. Ultimately .the decision to do such is up to us. We are always or almost always tempted to view and such. As we ignore and deal with such temptations they become weaker. Always keep that in mind.
Here is my opinion, for what it’s worth. In my experience, once I start edging, I am absolutely going to climax at some point. Sometimes I edge for a bit, then stop myself. Even then, somewhere in my mind, I have already given in. It may take another day or two, but I always give in. Most of the time, once I start edging, I spend hours and hours doing it, then climax and feel awful for days or weeks. I binge, sometimes multiple times. It’s fucking miserable. For me, it is better to climax as soon as possible, so I don’t deplete my dopamine as badly, but once I start, there is no telling how long it will take before I hit bottom and start over. For me, it is best if I avoid slipping at all. I can’t stop myself once I do.
Relapsing is obviously worse although edging will 90% of the time lead to a relapse. I once had extremely large urges and edged a bit. I was less than a second from a relapse although a felt really good about myself for resisting in time.