Where to from here?

Currently on day 12, around day 3 I watched some porn and started touching myself but stopped before orgasm. Call it a relapse or not but as a recovering PMOer it’s progress. Although I have not been getting urges, it’s hard for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Unlike working out where you can do workout more or harder, not PMOing is not something you can do more of (irony is that you’re supposed to be doing less of it haha). That being said, it’s only something that time will heal but what is this inbetween phase? I’ve been working from home for the past 5 months due to covid so maybe it’s time to pick up a new hobby or spend more time in prayer/meditation.


Welcome to the community!

Congratulate yourself that you are on the path of self-improvement. But Nofap is not the only thing here…It’s just one of the many awesome things that you should be doing in this journey.

If you really want to become the best version of yourself, then start working on building other good habits as well, such as exercise, yoga, pranayama, meditation, reading good books, etc. which will also help u to transmute your sexual energy.

All the best for your journey!:+1:


Brother, please don’t. This is called edging and it still damages your brain and gives you worthless pleasure. You won’t heal fully if you keep indulging in porn in this manner, even if you don’t orgasm. This is basically cheating yourself. To recover, you need to fully and completely stay away from internet pornography, remove the P and the M. Right now, youre just staying away from O.

It definitely is progress, but you must conquer this as well, remember, there is only a few moments between edging and total catastrophic failure.

Time will heal. Your brain needs time to revamp all the neural pathways, to rediscover new habits and interests, to establish proper dopamine receptors. You are basically demolishing a horrible lifestyle and building a new one, right from the foundations. Of course it takes time! Be patient with yourself, with all of us. You WILL see the light in the tunnel, sooner or later. Just keep walking. I’m basically crawling towards each day, and every single day I add to my counter, I start to see more and more light. It might take us 90 days, 30 days, 1 year, 2 years, it doesn’t matter. The goal is to build the strength to stay in the light forever, to never need to go back into the darkness.

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Thanks brother, I really needed this. Rather than waiting for things to happen and change from nofap, now is the time to seize the bull by the horns create something new. Part of the reason why I want this to work so badly is that my partner and I are getting married in a few months and I want to be the best husband I can for her. But this damage from PMO feels like something that’s been holding me back.

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