What really keeps a person from relapse?

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I know many of you already know me and a little bit of my Journey in nofap, and to be honest, I don’t intend on doing an extensive autobiography to get my point across.

Last year was undoubtedly the worst year of my life. Basically what happend is that I lost my streak of 300+ days on december 2024. Prior to that everything was amazing, I was getting strong mentally, physically and spiritually, everything was going great untill I started getting desire for real sex, and got frustrated because I couldn’t get it, and that’s when I messed up everything; I relapsed.

After that, it was as if I had fallen into a dark abyss — a kind of hell. I lost myself there. I tried over and over to climb back up, but I couldn’t. The light above was too far away…

I got addicted to phone; games, YouTube. I almost didn’t sleep, overweight, chronically depressed , almost never left my room, socially awkward, overthinking and mentally weak.

I would constantly get yelled at home by my parents either for doing things wrong or for not going the things I should be doing (mostly the latter).

Now I am probably on 9 months on nofap (thanks God), and lately I have been feeling urges, but deep down inside I feel something weird; something tells me that If I fall one more time, I might never be able to get back up again. I know this feels terrifying for many of you, and it is also for me I confess.

But I also know that not even these feeling can stop me from relapse, and that’s even more terrifying to me.

And lately I have been wondering after struggling with some urges: What really keeps a person from a relapse? Is it knowledge? Sheer willpower? Mental strength?

Maybe… but I realised that I am none of that above. I am weak, don’t have strong willpower, and I am not that wise either.

So what keeps me from relapse? Maybe just being humble and beg for God to keep me from sinning.

So, what about you guys? What keeps you from relapse?

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Think of it as just a stupid useless tingling sensation that last literally 3 seconds.

That’s it, it’s so dumb, cheap, and disgusting.

I’m yourself from the future:

It’s not worth it!! As soon as you release a mountain hits you hard, why the fck did I do it? I wish I could go back 10 minutes earlier.

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Reminding oneself helps a person and a strong sense of responsibility and self determination. Losing ones Manmood.

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Yes. That’s probably the one thing I can say for sure that had kept me from doing it many Times.

Just think of what comes next, and you’ll realize it’s not worth it.

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Being the opposite of What You should be. For example, If You relapse because You are being passive, It’s time to be more Active.

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Did your social awkwardness and leaving room go away now? I still have same issues like those but I try to exercise.

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Yes, now I am actually very chill in in public spaces. Most of those stuff went away

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Keeping a clear goal helps, always keeping in mind the reason for your journey, it can anything but ut should fuel you to do good and stay away from unproductive habits.

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