So … I am a master student … PMO addiction has decreased my ability to set and study dramatically … i used to set long long hours to study when i was in my teens and early 20s:muscle: …before this addiction … now i am 29 and for the last 2 years ( studying my masters) , setting to study was a very very big thing to accomplish … !!
So … thing is i am a semi-pro athlete … i find no challenge to workout at all or run …because i feel the instant reward or bec workout sessions is like 90 min max.
But setting to srudy …OMG …i can barely set like 20 min and then i get distracted or i interrupt it
Because, unlike work where u get paid hourly or workingout where u do it for 1 h or so, study requires much more continues work and reward comes like after a semester ends where is like 6 month
So idk …idk if there is a solution …??
I mean ok …it comes days where i quit porn for like 20 days …but i used to watch movies, youtube, go out with friends…etc
I thought ok …when u quit porn u will gain some ,idk how to call it maybe “mood” to study
But nah … even after 10 days or so of quitting i am not in the mood to study
So idk?
I am quitting facebook and instagram for 1 year btw
Shall i quit utube and everything and even going out and just force myself to study ?
Hey brother
Look if these things like instagram, you tube, Facebook leads you to a situation where you find himself relapsing again and again.
Then you must quit these things.
Don’t end your real world social life, though try to limit it.
N one thing is that you can do study for 20 mint then take 5 minute break, ( in these 5 minute break do meditation for just 2-3 minutes, drink little amount of water and most not go to access social mefia sites) then again do 20 minute study… So that increase your time slowly.
Well … i think u kinda gave me a new prespective to look at my 20 min max duration of study
So instead of looking to it with shame …NO …it is okay …20 min is good …take 5 min break and then do another 20 min …like use it as my study building unit
Thanks bro ! … i ll try this next time i am studying
This is an interesting topic and it differs a lot from person to person. Maybe sharing my experiences helps you a bit…
For me, instant gratification creates a sense of shame, just like porn. So when I PMO, I feel like a terrible person, “Oh, I never keep my word”, “I’ve failed myself again” etc. and although I do not beat myself up over relapses, I know it’s not the person I want to be. So no PMO. In that sense, it’s the same with youtube, instagram etc… I might say “I’m going to watch just one youtube video” and then waste hours on that website. Afterwards, I feel out of control, I feel like I’ve betrayed myself, I feel like a failure for falling into that trap again. Hence, I keep youtube blocked just like porn.
I guess the bottom line is: if consuming something makes you feel out of control, feel shame, feel bad overall… then don’t do it. It can be related to food or things on the internet.
… i used to set long long hours to study when i was in my teens and early 20s:muscle: …before this addiction … now i am 29 and for the last 2 years ( studying my masters) , setting to study was a very very big thing to accomplish … !!