Urgent Help Needed

i was on NO-porn mode since 2 months, I’ve been successful in that, ocassionally i used to masturbate.
in this 2 month time, I made a gf for the first time in my entire life of 26 years. this happened in last 15 days.
i used to get hard, & boner while taking, cuddling and kissing her
today we tried to have sex, it was a first time for me.
I did get hard but after a minute or so, I got soft and even during shower with her I couldn’t sustain my erections for more than 2 or 3 minutes.
I fear I might have developed Erectile dysfunction.
It might be a plateau phase acc to hormonal disbalance. I don’t know but I need to get my sexuality and sex drive back.
I feel embarrassed in front of her and this has never ever happened to me before. I used to masturbate 3 to 4 times daily easily to porn before, 7 being my highest record during school time. I had a hyper sexuality but now It seems to have been lost, I don’t know why and how?
pls help in getting me my sexuality and my hardness back.


Hi there! First off, congratulations on your new found relationship! 60 days of no porn is incredible.

Okay, let’s cut to the chase here. You are probably in the flatline phase of your nofap journey. This is where your mind is truly rewiring itself. Erectile problems are very common during this phase. However, you need to be open with your girlfriend about this(If you haven’t been so already). Not to worry though. These problems are to be expected and they won’t last very long. I say give it another month. Workout, take cold showers, meditate. If these problems still persist, you can visit your local physician. Also, if I may, I really insist you do not masturbate at all anymore. It’s a slippery slope and before you know it, you might just end up in square one again.

Have a nice day!


Do Hard Mode for a Month and get a Boner which can do sex whole night & if required… in the morning too.
That being said… Your dick never goes flat during the Act.

I had pied and erectile dyfunction due to too much masturbation and after a month on hard mode… i got my feelings back… i had become a sexual beast.

I had performed 4 hours continous sex without orgasm called Tantra… one time.
My normal sex duration is one and a half hour.
Recently… i practised Tantra for 2 hours.

Cheers @ashwath

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Don’t stress yourself. It doesn’t need to have something to do with nofap. It’s the first time you have a girlfriend which also means a lot of stress when it comes to the first time with her. Stress is an absolute killer. Just relax. Let it happen. If you get a boner, fine. If not, fine too.

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