I’m sorry this post will be a bit aggressive since my shoulder hurts like hell since yesterday but I still have to answer to this topic
Guys think a little bit in a normal way!
Chr1s read your post:
You have a girlfriend and you find her attractive? Why is that a concern? It would be bad if you think about her in a porn way. Like I would like to take her in this or that pose or if it is the only thing you wanna do if you see her but it doesn’t sound like that.
Furthermore Causality does NOT imply causation. I DON’T become a genius because I don’t have sex. Take Albert Einstein he loved women and had many. If you take the real exceptional persons in history, they just were special and you see that already if you read about their childhood. other example Elon Musk would love to have a wife (he was married multiple times and has children) but he just doesn’t have time for it. Now what is it? Doesn’t he have sex because he is a genius or is he a genius because he doesn’t have sex?
Sure, you will get much more time if you don’t have sex which you can use for a good cause and you will be able to focus more on what you have to do but it doesn’t make you a beast nor a genius.
@nagate about fantasies. I guess it is to a certain extend just normal to think about sex. It is one of the main things that drives us forward. So, if the thoughts are just randomly popping up in your head then i would say that it is just normal and no problem. If you are sitting alone at home and deliberately think about sex for a longer time then I would recommend: Use your time better! there are so many good things to do.
I would recommend everyone: Go for a natural life first. It is hard enough to beat this addiction / problem. Don’t go from fapping every day to I will be the next super monk. Think about what you wanna reach in life. Do you wanna be abstinent of every pleasure just to get a bit more time to make yourself a bit more famous?
God made us to have sex! If he didn’t wanted us to have sex then he wouldn’t reward us with the pleasure the orgasm gives us. He wouldn’t have made men and women. He would have made us able of autogamy so that we can be better than we are