Thinking about girls you know

Have you guys ever had times where you fantasize about being with girls you know and it gives you boners? Like you would stalk them on FB and it would only fuel the fire. I am giving up social media and trying my best not to think of girls I have crushes on because it feels like mind porn.

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I have had that problem before, but that is what porn and mastrobation does to us, It makes us objectify women, which I doubt is what you want to do to someone you like. The only way I was able to overcome that was and is to ask God to give me the strength and love to look at my friends and girlfriend the right way. Only he can change the heart and mind, we can’t on our own, only with his help. I am praying for you brother :slight_smile:

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Like levimorris said is because of porn. Sadly I’m struggling with this. My advice is not look that girls in facebook, instagram, etc .

Thank you bro. Yes, you are right. As of now I am in full objectify mode and I am trying everything to stop this way of thinking. Hope your journey goes well

Yes there are too many triggers around us.

Objectifying girls is kind of natural, there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you have consent from her. Your girlfriend would actually want you to think sexually about her.
Part of no-fap is learning not to give into temptation and building self control. The emotional impact is very high and it changes you. Stalking of any kind, porn, etc are bad habits that you should get rid off.

Good luck

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You’re in loss
Thinking about Opposite Gender leads to thinking about sex, Thinking about sex leads to watch some x-related pictures, X-related pictures leads to pornography videos, Pornography videos leads to masterbation, And masterbation leads to relapse.

That’s how all it works. Stop thinking about girls and sex, There is many enjoyable things other than that.

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In a relationship about sex it is natural to objectify the other person, however a relationship about just that is just as unhealthy as pornography and mastrubation and can lead to mastrubation and pornography addictions because if all you are looking for is the pleasure and thrill you can find that in both places. But the way God intended it sex is not about you, if your love for your partner depends on sex than you have a unhealthy relationship, sex should be about the other person, and about two becoming one.

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I need a gf, soon to be wife pls

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Is thinking about sex equal to porn? Please tell, does it effect the rewire.

I remember been a small child and thinking about girls I fancied long before I ever saw porn or even a picture of a naked lady.
I really don’t understand why people think sexual thinking is wrong. Porn is really bad as it numbs you. But when you’re not numb anymore you’ll have feelings. Enjoy those feelings and when the time comes express them with your woman. Until then enjoy how you think and feel.
The aim of nofap is to get you in the real world with real women.
Having feelings for women shows you’re a healthy man.

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@Oggyboi08 I believe sex is real and it’s where two people enjoy a healthy relationship… whereas PMO is addition and just creates a temperamental joy which is not real and you are beating yourself up and becoming weak !

so I think sex not equal to porn ! most of us here, I think, trying to rewire our thoughts and trying to get out of porn addiction so that we can enjoy when we are you real person !

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@blackbull thanks for your reply​:slight_smile::slight_smile: best of luck for your journey.