Brothers and sisters. I am going to unwrap the most important and addictive part of watching porn. Only for people who made streaks above 30 days.
Now whenever we feel urge to watch . You feel the thing we are going to do is going to relieve all our stress and tension .
If you are on nofap you are clearly in regular danger of stress and tension(not depression) because you are declaring a fight against relief and joy (as assumed by brain) .
Your brain registers it as you don’t want to enjoy this forgetting the after effects(I don’t know why we forget the depressive effects). So if you fail your mind saved you want to delay the enjoyment of watching so that you can enjoy more.
Even if you are fully determined , you can only reach 100 , 200 or 300 days. But will stumble back to porn. Why is this. This is because of the illusion of porn as best thing in the world which gives us short time relief from our guilt,stress,tentions. And will free you from withdrawals. In actuality this is not true.porn is the psycho behaving like gentlemen.learn this truth repeat it many times until you fix this in mind. And when you will get urge you will realise your urge is just your test and that is also not very tough.
So do you wanna live a life of self torture , imagining you are leaving something which you enjoyed
Or do you wanna stay away by realising the truth.
Reference from easy peasy and many posts and my experience
I can agree with it. However I also can say our attitude changes as well against porn in our streaks. From say day 1 on our streak we are kinda how should I say scared and careful on what we do within starting our journey.
We kinda just give up in the early stages of our streaks since it is just too hard letting go. I mean seeing flashes of your favourite part of a recent video kinda makes you hungery and curious to go back and enjoy it again as it is easier o give in then to fight back.
In higher streaks I think one either gets too arrogant too quickly… I mean I know I have quit porn a few times and I have gone for 3 years and I just kinda stumbled back as I said to myself I left porn and it was easy I can do it again… so yeah a big trap we set for ourselves…
I mean it is easy to leave porn. With the right goals and ways you motivate yourself the easier it becomes. It is all in your attitude. The greatest illusion porn really is that it plays alot with your mind and it makes you feel like it is a normal thing to give in towards it… Don’t allow yourself to get fooled!
Yes this is also a hard part that’s why people try to forget their streaks.but feeling this is inevitable. It is just opposite of depression created by ■■■■. It’s also dangerous.
Another thing that porn can do though and I thought about it is, how can I say a thing that you get bored of… especially if viewed on a regular basis. So you need something stronger or venture to something new. Sometimes it feels also say if you go to hentai that is seems okay and harmless but it is the one thing holding you back on leaving porn since porn is a fake thing.
Everything about porn in certain aspects seem so perfect. The lighting, the nice features of the guy(s) and girl(s), the sounds everything of the video also looks so nice and good and beautiful you just can help yourself. And that is most of our obsessions too. We want that perfect time too… but we can’t have it… This fake “perfectionism” of porn brings us back as we want more as we crave it for ourselves and also we want to see new things and create new perfect moments to be curious about.