Hi everyone who is here to have a natural life back. A life in which you feel good, in control of your self and unrestricted by all the bad habits.
For everyone who is scared because most of the people in this forum are telling you hardmode is the only mode, orgasms are bad and only by force you can get free. Here is the right place for you.
I don’t wanna cure one restriction (porn) by placing 10 others on my self. I wanna be free!
In fact, I think that hardemode isn’t the right mode for most of us.
Why am I here?
I spent about 3-4 hours each day watching porns while edging. I have a girl friend and felt like I constantly betray her. I as a man started to feel like crap and wasted so much time every day.
What is my goal?
I wanna have a natural life back. A life how it should be. I don’t wanna be in the death grip of porn, I wanna be a good husband, I wanna spend my time every day for the things I like to do. I wanna enjoy everyday, I wanna enjoy being outside and enjoy all the beauty nature made, I wanna have an eye for that again.
How do I achieve that?
By behaving naturally!
Why shouldn’t I have orgasms (having sex with my beloved)?
we are MADE to have sex. Just because you don’t have an orgasm doesn’t mean that your sperm stays in your bag. Our body destroys and reproduces them! We don’t gain energy by edging while having sex!
Also, sperm is healthier if it is used. (there are many studies supporting that)
I wanna learn how to have sex with my beloved. How to really appreciate the nature of our bodies and the act. I don’t wanna be abstinent! I wanna learn how to have sex in a healthy and natural way! So, I do have sex but I try to figure out how it is meant to be.
If I have an urge I “meditate”. I go outside (also inside possible) sit on a bench and at first do nothing. this sorts my thoughts. It removes all the stress from the everyday life and lets me calm down. Then I look around (or just listen or smell) and appreciate all the beauty of the nature.
But i have heard only hardmode works??
I haven’t watched a single porn in over 52 days. I don’t even feel the urge to do so! I feel free of all this shit because I know myself better! And this with three simple restrictions:
- No porn
- No Masturbation / edging
- Spending much time on figuring out how I wanna be
My girlfriend asked me just yesterday what happend with me because I seem to be so happy and energetic.
I have so much free time! I can go outside and enjoy my life.
Why do I think that hardmode is the wrong mode.
For me, hardmode is as if you are fat due to an eating disorder and everyone tells you, that you should make a diet. So, you force yourself to eat less, you create habits which help you to eat less and to suppress your urge to eat. And it works. You will see your weight drop. probably you will even feel “good”. But you never cured your disorder. Staying abstinent of porn is just a small fraction of your way and putting too much emphasis on how can I stay abstinent, how many shackles can I apply which prevent me from relapsing is just not working in the long term (or it can but it isn’t healthy at all. You can’t tell me that you are healed just because you are abstinent for 1 year but you still have to force yourself everyday with the same shackles you needed on day one). You NEED to get to a natural life.
So, my thoughts for hard mode? Good for the first two, maybe three weeks. But afterwards you need to learn to LIVE.