I dont wanna lose 50 euros so not gonna relapse. Not gonna count days either. I am gonna make my days count !
A Brahmachari does not count his days. It is his lifestyle. He and NoFap are one with each other.
While I do not know how long I will be able to sustain it, by God’s grace things are going fine now.
Although I still have YOutube addiction and Social MEdia addiction to kick out.
But I will take it slow. Let’s kill PMO first.
You can use technique called “Delayed gratification”
Put off social media use off until end of the day
@SincereDev Its okay man. Hop back in.
Also, let us try to be super comfortable with ourselves alone.
DO NOT RESIST the urges when you get. Sit with them and observe.
Easier said than done. But this is the only way. We have to become Rock solid and stable whether or not we have urges.
Running away and escaping them will just replace this addiction with another one.
Some days I am fine without social media but I crawl back into it. Years of habit to kick.
Will take some time
I beat my instagram addiction using the same technique. I used to check again and again to see if I get any new requests or messages.
But I used the above mentioned technique and decided not to open Instagram before 5 pm… It helped me greatly.
Also I dont use social media apps, I open them on chrome. You can do that too
Can you elaborate on your technique ?
Which platforms are taking most of your time?
Yes I have deleted all apps too. But when I work I open up youtube. So I am now slowly blockign all of them…
I have realized that social media is totally useless and my ultimate goal is to quit altogether except checking maybe once a day or so.
How much do u use at the present? Time
Youtube makes me feel I am connected with lots of people and am having human interactions when in fact I am all alone.
I REALIZED IT SEVERAL WEEKS AGO that ALL my addictions just stem from my desire for TRUE CONNECTION !
But then you become needy for people. I see some people constantly trying to meet people because they cannot stay ALONE.
THE GREATEST people feel CONNECTED when ALONE ! That’s where GREAT IDEAS come from.
Hence I am all in for isolating myself. I seek CONNECTION with GOD !
The single best advise for any addiction is connection to YOURSELF OR THE GOD WITHIN you.
And spending time ALONE.
This is the only PERMANENT solution !
Not sure if everyone would AGREE. BUT I HAVE FOUND THIS TO BE THE ULTIMATE SOLUTION and will be Heading in this direction.
For this reason I am and will be spending minimal time on this forum as well.
EVERYTHING I HAVE WRITTEN IN THIS MESSAGE IS LIFECHANGING AND IS THE ONLY THING THAT CAN FREE US ALL. BUT IT IS ALSO THE HARDEST THING.
BE ABSOLUTELY COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF ALONE WITHOUT DOING ANYTHING.
Even if you are doing something… dont distract yourself iwth NEtflix porn or social media
Easier said than done.
I am reducing. The past 3 days I did not use at all
Now I have wasted several hours again on Youtube
Il get straight to the point.
Solutions
Good advise.
I think the blockers are a temporary solution because they are easy to bypass !
A long term solution is to have a sense of urgency about your goals so you dont have time for this shit
Smart people don’t ban. They regulate. Use pomodoro for starters
Why not fully ban though ?
Abso-freaking-loutley
True it is actually harder to keep the apps on and regulate it. But if the apps are useless why not throw them away. Call your friends directly.
You knw balance is the key. Human minds are dynamic. Human brain doesn’t like monotony. So in order to break that you could regulate your usage.
As i said my social media usage was 10 hours. Now it is less than 4 hours. Soon it will be 1.someday 0
Humble beginnings mate
Im a loner. I don’t have many friends. After my breakup I decided to find peace within myself. But i do interact and socialize. Bcuz balance