Greetings to all the members of the nofap community,
Basically, I wanna share a small experience. I just wanna say for some people like me.
“If you win against P, then you won the battle”
- Surrounding Triggers
P was not a problem for me earlier, It was just some places which where triggers to me, whenever I lay there or be around there, such as bathroom or my bed when I was unable to sleep.
Most of my relapses, were on my bed. But soon I realize that my mind has started to give a lot of excuses to me like you are on nofap, you are not allowed to ejaculate but you are allowed to watch P these are two completely different things. All those shitty excuses you can give to yourself. Then I decided to quit porn and in one go by the grace of God it’s going well, I still can’t say that completely but I know my mind now, I did many experimentation to realize when, where or what led to relapse. Finally, with the help of my brother @YOUR_TEACHER I blocked all browsers since I cannot switch off my phone due to online studies. But Yeah it’s far more better and rather than counting days I am analyzing my productivity and starting using forum from my computer.
I urge everyone to find there weakness please analyze your weak point, what led to relapse, when at which point of the day you relapse. Basically, there are some triggers in our surroundings, which led to relapse.
Hunt them down and eliminate them.
- Don’t Pay attention to your streak at all
Whenever I used to watch my streak above 7 days I get way too excited and in the excitement, I let my mind wander off. When then lead me to hell !. What am I trying to say here is for some people not all it can be a problem. Don’t pay attention to it more than required and focus on your day, work and especially I urge everyone to stay around your family members, chill with your brother. Whenever urges come do not ever go to the bathroom, get up and go for a walk with you brother or talk to someone in your house. You will forget about it. And You can go for a walk if you like. Basically do not ever go to those places where you can masturbate.
- Doing the Hard Things.
The last thing I figured out is that whenever I did something hard studying, my mind is wired to go back to the comfort zone I will go back to youtube or lay on my bed. And If I controlled somehow and managed to keep then my evil brain decides to play the master card and remind of something related to P and I would go to the bathroom, thinking I use it and come out quickly but I remained there until I relapsed. Basically I want to say in the initial few days do not try to do hard thing. To fight with this I always keep something to do which I really wanna do in my to-do list , I already download anime or game of thrones or some episodes of series which I really wanna watch, and whenever my mind plays the master card, I too say here you go evil friend , I immediately open those anime and start to watch and then the whole day, I think about it, analyze and appreciate the twist of the episode and discuss with my brother. It might sound odd to you but it’s really good for those who cannot go to 7 or 8 days streak even. If you can be productive and stay on the streak brother you are awesome but not everybody is the same like you.
- Do the productive work.
I recently watched a movie named “limitless” and I am flattered by the concept of self improvement and I connected each and every thing with nofap and I somehow say to my mind do something that makes me great and the only thing which I can do right in this age is study. Even If I feel lazy or feel to be in my comfort zone, I fake my mind with the acting of having a lot of energy the way the guy
~walks in the movie I too started to walk being confidently and I too observe people noticing and I wonder what they might think who the hell this person think he is
~I started to clean my surrounding make my bed, and clean my room by myself and I do it every single day since I get appreciation from my parents as a reward.
~ when I get to the flow of completing simple tasks, I somehow complete the hard tasks too I complete my homework but If I brake the flow everything get ruined for example If i started to play game that would be a problem and not just that If you lost in that it will be a great problem. So, I uninstall all the games and kept a simple game which I will open if I will get bored.
~ When you will see yourself completing the tasks the satisfaction you get as a reward is just amazing.
I always wonder I need a reward system to make a habit, but I always thought what could be it.
But now I can say to you, You can make the satisfactory feeling as your reward.
You can make your deep sleep as your reward ask yourself when you get a good sleep, the day which you worked or the day you have been in your comfort zone.
I know It’s easier to say then to do it, but I did it myself and then I am writing it here.
At last I would say focus on being productive don’t count days, Make the days count.
I would like to thank my buddies who motivated me throughout my journey and helped me by giving useful advice, by spreading the good words and motivating me.
Thanks @Kaizen Yooo buddy you are the one that helped me a lot your challenges and way of making others aggressive towards the challenge is really appreciable.And the information regarding edging and peeking, Thanks buddy.
@Dean_Ambrose From the starting I related to you being on the same journey and having the same goal I felt connected with you. You read all my messages and kept motivating me.
@Ash_Matt Being on Nofap and preparing for exams, that confidence you feel while preparing that you are going to rock, I learned a lot of things from your posts brother and those forums which you created.
@Pandeybro Thank you bro for supporting and motivating me throughout the journey. You have a great perspective of looking at situation from a different way. That doing unproductive thing when urges come, excellent bro !
@valiant_warrior You are like my brother, thanks for helping me to do the right thing bro !, I sometimes wander what good I have done so I have found this forum having so much helpful people being around me.
And thanks to each and everyone present in this forum. Basically I have never saw such a helpful community " grow together" .Thanks to God each and every person helped me and I have learned many good things being here.
I am not going anywhere why are you thinking that I am leaving this forum, I haven’t wrote anything on the forum from a while that’s why I wrote such a big message.
never-the-less, Stay Strong guys,
Greatness is coming for us !