I’ve been practicing NoFap for an year now, with my highest streak about 120 days (Before using this app). I’m single and never had a gf, but have attracted lot of girls in the past but I’m forbidden to date because of my religion and society. The reason I relapsed before was when I felt that my life before NoFap was almost the same as before.
I don’t think I’m a porn addict, as I used to find masturbating more pleasurable as doing it without porn. Any kind of sexual material is arousing but using it for masturbation was disgusting. I see so many people reaching day 50, 60… and discussing how strong their urges are, thus demotivating the ones who are on day 10, 20… which will lead them into thinking that they will have to face these urges for a very long time, and they end up relapsing. Porn has no pleasure in it, even according to EasyPeasy. The pleasure they get is from fapping and orgasm, but they get tricked into thinking that porn was responsible for it. After that they get another dose of regret as they have ruined their ‘streak’.
What is a streak? As ridiculous as it sounds, it’s basically the number of days since a person has last ejaculated. This culture literally creates a social hierarchy based on these streaks instead of curing and getting rid of porn and improving the well-being of people in general.
I tried going full complete abstinences of various lengths like 60, 30, 20, 10 days… and but the benefits I got were not as satisfactory and my life instead became worse than usual. Every relapse made me more addicted to sex than usual.
Today, I did an experiment. I watched TV while eating lunch and then I ate food without TV when I was hungry. Despite the TV programme being interesting I didnt find the food pleasurable and after watching I felt dissatisfied as well. But for the 2nd case, eating became more enjoyable and I felt I had motivation to carry out other tasks as well.
My conclusion here is, that if your ummarried and unable to have a partner, masturbation done in moderation is healthy and essential but watching porn is sinful as well as detrimental to well-being.
Here, people even consider porn as only ‘online harems’ but porn is rightfully classified as all sorts of 2D graphic images or videos that induce some sort of supernormal burst of dopamine in a person’s brain. But they don’t even know that dopamine is basically a reaction to the shock content on the screen, and our poor limbic system will percieve that as sexual arousal.
By going on full ‘hardmode’ abstinences and take pledges to give up our natural god-given desires for sex, people start percieving porn of some sort of high value forbidden fruit and luxury and when ever they feel like they want to relapse, they make sure they relapse in the most ‘proper’ way thus going into full PMO mode even when they do not like it.
I’ve read so many articles, many stating that NoFap is best for improving intimate relationships but it is not the best option for self-improvement. I know so many of my friends, toppers as well popular guys who masturbate regularly and improve their life through building crucial life skills and habits like doing deepwork, socialising, taking part in competions etc.