I have never cared about anyone’s identity.
I felt left behind even within my identity.
I have never paid attention to someone’s identity while trying to build a friendship
Look for example
@Binocular’s identity is entirely different from my identity
Race, ethnicity, country, language, religion etc
Despite this he is my best friend in this forum.
So yes
Identities aren’t a hindrance in building friendships
I just long for atleast ONE genuine friend in my non-digital life to support me in my dark moments
I dont care about being single, not being committed to a girl, not having relatives etc.
But when it comes to friendship I just want one trustworthy real friend (not fake ones) in my real life (Of Whichever Race, Gender, Nationality,religion, class, sect, language etc which I don’t care)
I am ready to give whatever it takes to just find ONE damn friend in real life
Hope I’ll find one sooner
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You don’t need to change yourself, just don’t let your past affect your present and future connections that you can make here. And start engaging and interacting with companions here , everyone is ready to help. 
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Mera best friend kon h ? 
Me to akela hu 
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I can feel you .
These days it is so difficult to find a friend
We are not asking for gold, diamond, wealth, business, life partner, bungalow, rolls royce car or even an estate.
We long for a genuine trustworthy friend.
Wherever I go whether in metro or park or beach or temple anywhere, I see people of my age with their friends.
Last year in my birthday not even one person wished me a happy birthday apart from my parents. Not even one.
It pained me so much that I am bereft of any friend.
I don’t know why.
Hmm
Its okay
We have Shree Hari as our Best friend Bratha Shree @Brahmchary
Who would even be a greater friend than the god himself? God is our best friend
Lets find solace in his friendship and grace
He is always with us
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i can feel you bro.
but i have learnt to accept these things.
you gotta learn to accept that its only you who can care about yourself. no one comes to save you in the most dire situations.
only your family will care about you. rest of us are just strangers or a part of your life.
i think you read geeta right? we can take lots of teachings from there
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I am here right??
I am your best friend in this forum 
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When’s your birthday Pal?
I am not accepting the ones you think I should 
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But i hope you talk with them in normal way. I still remember our quick conversation which was kinda weird
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Well I think you have understood most of it now .
I used to be much like you too , though I was not always an introvert , but I had isolated myself through a mindset like this . It took me a lot of time to start seeing things clearly and find the flaws in my way of thinking .
I think you’ll do it too , just keep trying , keep experimenting . Find good people , even if you can’t find people like the ones you want , dont restrict yourself from being in groups , instead reach out and communicate , not only accept your flaws , but theirs too . You will understand people better and grow socially in this way . I used to keep away from talking to people because I had self demeaning image of myself all the time . I didn’t talk to anyone and remained isolated . Well slowly that isolation turns into barrage of thoughts longing for attention .
About the trauma factor , try to make peace with it , I know it can be heard but just try to move on . Whenever the anxieties roll in , make yourself believe that it was a part of your past but this is the present , and it can be different just by taking some brave new steps .
But in the end of the day , each one is for themselves . And people will know and reach out to you only when you go out to them . This can be harsh but no one is going to help you until you learn to help yourself . Nothing changes on its own , you have to make yourself strong and do whats necessary . I have felt what you are feeling too . But remaining to be like that doesnt help at all in this world . Now or some other day , you will have manage things on your own without expecting anyone to come for your help . But when there are , definitely indulge with them . And when you feel isolated , don’t let yourself down , be there for yourself at least , dont run away . Instead , stand strong and keep doing your karma without expecting something very great to come out at once .
This can be a very small thing to understand but big enough for people like me who took years to understand it and make peace with it .
Apart from that , you can message me or any of us whenever you want…Koushik 
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just add it on your profile and we’ll know whenever the day comes 
Thanks for asking man, by God’s grace I don’t need gifts. I just need God now. 
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Thank you for the long advice 
I will try to follow it
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Mine is 29/3
Hikoogssjkooo
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Well I was not serious when I wrote that. 
Btw I have only 1 best friend in my offline life but he also meets once in a month. I don’t care.
And yes you told right. Shri Hari is my only best friend but I worship him as he is my father.
Otherwise I’m going well. I’m not sad that I don’t have a friend circle who go out, chill blah blah…
I enjoy the company of my family ( maa , paa and bada bhai )
In online world I’ve many friends but still everybody is so busy these days so we can’t blame them for not talking to us.
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Only when we r successful or rich.
… I think i changed ur mindset thnk u.
