After everything im still not over her even though its been 7 years, alot has changed for us over the years, we both grew up, are both still single and both have things we are passionate about, we’ve been our separate ways for a few years following our own paths and figuring ourselves out. Earlier this year I reached out and apologized for the break up and how at the time she would hurting, doing this helped me move on from the regret of breaking up with her, I no longer felt guilt or shame. I stopped thinking about her for a few months and moved on, but then I started thinking about her again, but they were thoughts of wanting to catch up with her in person and see how she was, but another part of me was trying to avoid her as much as possible to maintain no contact, and I made no contact with her for 5 months. But then I had all of these relapses last month and felt lonely, all I could think about was her, so I subscribed to this coach to help me get back with my ex and he has been giving me helpful tips. I decided that my ex may be the one worth fighting for, no guarantees but there is that possibility, it was the only motivating me after my relapse and it helped me get back up when I was at my lowest, im going to fight for her. I know what you are all thinking that I should forget about her and move on, but the thing is its not that simple because I still have a thing for her. Whenever I’ve tried to get back with her ive always lacked confidence resulting in failed attempts, but new approach is to build on my confidence while working on self improvement and start talking to her again, in a way im going to make myself attractive to her or any other female out there without making it obvious. Feel free to share your opinions, but you should know, ive already made up my mind for now.
why did y’all breakup?
When I was younger I was confused about my feelings for her, thought I didn’t have feelings for her so I broke up with her, but I didn’t realize it was a mistake until months after breaking up, by this point she was no longer hanging out with me or my friends, and I grew distant from her.
Good luck Jared, girls like who make them feel comfortable as well as protected.
If your presence can make her feel not fear any situation, you will become irreplaceable. It need not be obvious efforts but your mere presence should do the thing.
I see. I’ve been in a similar situation before. If you really feel she’s worth it, I definitely think you should at least try. Hope that what’s meant to happen will happen for you.
You really loved her and most probably didn’t accept her absence in your life , have been there ! I hope everything gets sorted out , and if she is the one for you, you both reconcile and stay together forever. If she isn’t willing to be with you , it will be heart clenching and it might take time to move on , but someone more deserving is there , the one and only for you! Remember you have to fight for her not compete for her ! I really hope you both reconcile and you both see each other’s worth . May the best thing happen with you , Jared!
Thanks @everyone in this thread who replied, I realize now that this ex stuff all stems from loneliness especially when I was in a bad place, too many years have passed and she has most likely moved on, so it’s better I move on. There is plenty other fish in the sea. I’ve done the right and unsubscribed from the coach, I was in a bad place at the time, it’s better this way, otherwise I’m going to keep hurting inside and my relapses will get more intense, cutting ties with her is the best thing for all of us. I feel much better now knowing I’m finally putting myself first, that is more important than anything else. I’m going to find projects myself and keep myself busy so I stay focused on something.
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