I live in maharashtra… typical maharashtrian family… so many restrictions for girls… so i always felt that im living in some kind of jail. Recently i started chatting with one of my frnd whatsapp but then for some reason we shifted to snapchat… as snap is safer so we started talking about adult stuff… also he started sharing some adult pics and videos. Initially i was hesitant but i liked what i saw also his attention…
He asked me to meet… i said no one time but 2nd time i agreed… and one thing led to another and we did it… then we met for another 5 6 times. But after that he started disrespecting me… he started to treat me like a sex doll only… when i denied some of his requests he said some nasty things and stopped talking…
I was depressed for a month but thrn started talking with another frnd and im afraid that same cycle is repeating. What to do
If u are fine with this cycle
Nothing to worry about
I cant give u suggestion because its ur journey and u need tdecide the course
But if it would be me
I would have stopped it
Reason: im in committed relation for 5+ years
And we did make out for more than 10 timesbut never lost virginity or had sex
Because we didnt want to do it now
Even when we were high on hormones we still didnt give in to urges
Plus if u do want to stop this
Just delete the social media and stop interacting with strangers
I understand being in prison because i too was in same situation due to which its difficult to be friendly with girls
But then we need to be responsible for our actions
I know some people who’ve been through similar cycle, you won’t even realise what happened and you’ll keep falling until you get completely depressed.
I like the fact that you’ve acknowledged this so you are already aware of what is happening.
What I can suggest is to start working on some positive habits so you can realise your value, and if you want to date as well just keep people around you as friends and judge them after spending a lot of time with them, get to know people, you’ll actually realise who is genuine and who is not, and when some genuine person is also interested in you, be with them.
Strictly refrain from dating sites and all, because you’ll meet only stupid people there, like 1 in a 1000 chances you’ll get a genuine person there but it’s not wasting your life and mental health on so less chances.
Meet more people in real life rather than online, don’t givein to instant attraction, take your time to judge people without filters.
And more importantly you should know that there’s nothing wrong in staying single as well, you get a lot of time for self develeopment when you are single, take that time and put it into positive habits.
I hope God takes care of you and doesn’t let you get hurt further.
That’s a lesson to be learned. If a man only has sex in his mind he sees women as objects for entertainment. Period.
In most dating sites or people trying to find “love” online, most of them are not
Reread my brother @The_integrous_one’s post cause it pretty much answered the whole topic.
I hope you find someone who truly loves you for who you are. You can only do that by making friends and interacting with each one and test. You can know that with their eyes, behavior around you and not around you. If you’re not interested in this topic I just wanted to point it out cause it’s really important.
Now back to the subject.
Don’t hold the past with you it’s too heavy. Carry on and forget about it. All the best sis
I have deleted snap. but i feel lonely. i watch web series i play chess as well. but at the end feel need to be connected with someone and all this lead to snapchat thing again
I never used dating sites. and when it comes to meeting people, i live in a village area. I did my graduation a city but after that they called me home. so here not many chances of meeting new people. im working on being ok with myself
I’m a marathi mulagi as well so i can understand your pain. and i know u must be hating all men right now. but not all men are dogs. You’ll find someone one day. but till that day u have to control yourself. you might be thinking what i’m talking is very old school but if u keep doing what you are doing then chances of finding a good guy is very less.
As a fellow woman i can confirm that our feamale urges are strongers than male ones thats why we have to be more in control. and keep yourself busy. read some books. just stay away from mobile majority of the time. all the social medias are triggering the urges. Be safe
Thats great u deleted it
Currently u need to focus on urself plus connext with people without the intention of getting hooked to them
Just my suggestion
Why dont u connect with ur cousins
?
They can be really helpful
I’ve met many girls and to me it seems many of them have the exact same problem i.e. loneliness.
Even when you have friends, you cant talk to them all day. They have work and you have some work too.
So, you can try to eradicate loneliness with online interactions or just find some reasons to get you to a corporate world or any other social environment like post grad.
it is good that you addressed this because this is the time to fix yourself. i am saying that this is not your addiction but your dirty mindset to get sx, don’t get me wrong but this is the issue. you are forgetting your purpose and going towards sx. why is it that you are feeling lonely, don’t you have a job? don’t you have people around you? if you are a student, don’t you have a goal? first question yourself. whenever it comes to your mind, remember your parents, would they want their daughter to go on this path? think. think that you are a queen and a queen will only belong to a king. my status is the highest, i don’t get involved with any random people nor will i get involved. i have a status and i will maintain it. always.
As a post grad rn I can say yes it can help you increase your social skills a lot. But it just comes as a byproduct of work done there. Like I meant its not a good idea to get into post grad for the sole purpose of socialising. Because socoalising is learning in post grad. Otherwise its a waste of time imo.
You must have passion or willingness towards the thing ur learning . That will give opportunities to talk with people who are much smarter than you to get ideas which can help with projects , seminars etc.
Never been in any relationship and all so I will not talk in that angle.
Yeah totally agreed…final goal of socialisation should be to have something meaningful. Probably a job or so, depends on her family whether they permit so or not
