What if I told you that the way we approach sex in modern society isn’t liberation—it’s addiction? Imagine quitting one destructive habit, like smoking crack, only to justify replacing it with another, like cocaine. That’s what stopping masturbation just to attract casual sex feels like. Sure, it might seem better, but the damage still adds up, leaving you chasing a temporary high that will never satisfy. Casual sex operates the same way. It’s a cycle of short-lived gratification, leaving you emptier and more unfulfilled with every encounter.
Today, many divorces cite “lack of sex” as a primary cause, as if “sexual needs” are a fundamental part of human existence. But let’s pause and question this narrative. Do we talk about “aggression needs,” “junk food needs,” or “alcohol needs” in the same way? Just because you have a throat doesn’t mean you need alcohol, and having knuckles doesn’t mean you need to punch someone. Why, then, do we assume that having a body equipped for sex necessitates acting on it endlessly? This belief might not be natural but rather a symptom of an unchecked societal addiction.
Marriage offers a countercultural truth often overlooked: the decline in sexual frequency over time isn’t a flaw; it’s a feature. Once the honeymoon phase fades and sexual attraction diminishes, couples have a chance to refocus their energy—on personal growth, on healing, on building a spiritual connection. Far from a setback, this shift can be a gift, one that challenges the destructive narrative that sex is the ultimate source of fulfillment.
Sex, like any addiction, isn’t inherently bad, but it becomes dangerous when it takes over your life. If you find it impossible to stop, it’s a sign of dependency, not empowerment. And like any addict, what’s needed isn’t judgment but compassion—recognition that you’re struggling and that your struggle is valid. But compassion doesn’t mean normalizing the addiction. To truly heal, we must stop pretending that insatiable sexual desire is just “human nature” and start treating it as the societal drug it’s become.
Acknowledging the struggle is the first step toward healing, but healing requires rejecting the narrative that insatiable desire is normal or inevitable. True freedom lies in breaking the cycle and reclaiming control over your life, your body, and your energy. It’s not about suppression—it’s about liberation from the forces that keep you chasing a satisfaction that was never meant to last. (Video Source)