What you will learn as you continue this journey is that you make the rules. Decide on rules that you can follow and are achievable. Once you have done that then maybe you want to cut out another thing and the next rule is NO to this or it is a relapse.
PMO free traditionally means no Porn, Masturbation or Orgasm. You can be P, M or O free separately or in any combination. I recently completed 100 Days+ M free. I proved to myself I can do this, so now I am trying to be PM free. No more watching porn without masturbation!
Now comes a more complicated question: What is porn?
Many would say it is anything that is sexual that you consume from media that gives you a ‘high’. You know the one.
Some would say it is the traditional definition of porn; intentionally erotic material made with the objective of inducing sexual arousal.
The second is much more lenient as you can still technically watch insta girls, look up hot chicks on fb or google and consume lots of sexy music videos etc etc without it being considered a relapse. Only when you can see sexual organs or are watching sex or masturbation content will it be considered a relapse.
The first involves a lot of being self aware and honest with yourself that what you are consuming is giving you this high and if you consume it that you will reset your counter and consider it a relapse. This is essentially the ultimate ‘rewire’ as you are completely removing the habit.
I am currently going PM free under the tradituonal definition of porn. This is a realistic goal for me as it is achievable and still very challenging. Once I have proven to myself I can do this then I will define porn as anything that gives me that arousing ‘high’ in order to continue to cut out the addiction.
I don’t personally have interest in semen retention or going ‘O’ free as it means you cannot have sex or have wet dreams and to me they are both natural and important things so I am never ‘O’ free intentionally.
I am describing this in such great detail to encourage you to look at your options and decide what is right for you right now. Maybe only P free. Maybe only M free. Maybe you only cut down to softcore porn for a bit (Not reccommending this but its your journey). For clarity, ‘hard mode’, as it is coined in a very gamer-like way, is being PMO free. Best of luck If you want to try a gamer-y sort of challenge I am running a streak counting reward based thread, the “Challenges for 4/7/15/30…” etc etc, feel free to join if that would help