Ankit u read Gandhi’s auotobiography … he was way more horny than normal people.
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There is nothing wrong with soft mode if you are married. Whatever I have read about rebooting, they all say to avoid artificial sexual stimulation. Sex with spouse is natural. So I don’t find anything wrong in that.
Again this is my personal opinion. After all, whether you do soft mode or hard mode, it’s all personal choices. I have just expressed my view. That’s all.
Peace.
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Resurrection, I am sorry but I agree that you should really consider changing to soft mode. You see, hard mode doesn’t bring anything else than soft mode. This whole soft mode concept was created for guys who went to prostitutes to have sex while being single and not relapsing. That is why they created hard mode.
I don’t think having sex with your wife should be considered as a relapse for you. It is very natural, and most importantly you deserve it : you have got a wife and she agrees to have sex with you.
Addictions only come from pleasure you get without doing anything for it. That is not your case.
So I understand going on soft mode for a single is humiliating, because it means he has undeserved sex, but soft mode for married men is quite normal I think. There is nothing wrong in that. Anyway you are absolutely free, just sharing my opinion with you.
Have a good 2019 
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Brothers pls help me…i m feeling very misreable these days… though i m completely out of PMO or fapping effortlessly however on 31st i had sex with my girlfriend and released my sperm after 48 days streak… current streak is 3 days but still feeling i lost everything and feeling very low…no.motivation at all…no confidence… unable to talk properly… feeling like crying alot after seeing my counter to 3 days now…pls help.me brothers i seriously need your support and motivation… feels like there is no joy no enthu in my life after i released…pls help brothers
Brothers,
You had a wonderful streak of 48 days before you relapsed. Ohmg… that’s one and half month man. You should be proud of yourself for it.
As I always says, you are not always back to a complete zero when you relapse. It’s just the counter says that you are zero when you relapse.
But through out the journey to those 48 days, you have achieved a lot. A lot.
You have made good habits.
You started looking at your health well.
You started being more productive.
And other n number of positive things happened. And there are some other things which even you can’t quantify. Which you just felt through out the journey. The peace of mind.
How all these things happened?
Only because of YOUR effort. Your complete dedication.
One failure doesn’t mean that you lost all of that. Never ever. You may have lost the counter progress. You may have lost some other things at that moment.
But a lot of those positive things are still lying dormant in your brain. Just a wake up call is all you need. Because you have trained them in all these 48 days. So all those positive things will obey you. They are waiting for your call.
Go man. With all your immense need, call your heart out. They will come faster than you think. Because you have already won this battle one time. 48 days is not something silly. You are already an established winner. Just a set back you have experienced now. Don’t worry. You will come back. Believe in yourself. Look at what you have already done. And look up at what you can do more. And untie the beast inside you.
Btw, I wrote all these things with a mind that you have relapsed. But you had sex with your girlfriend. I don’t even count that as a relapse. It’s just a normal sex. But it’s up to you and your discretion to consider it as a relapse or not.
Anyways all the best to your journey.
Stay happy. Take care.
Peace
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See, this happens even in normal mode. That is why some married people go for hard mode. We should respect them (if they succeed 
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Bro, he has done enough of it. He is tired of s. 
Try to understand his point of view also. His intentions are okay but strength to make things real are not. That is why we get disturbed. He needs strength of mind like you to make it real. 
Bhai kab tak chudai karega, saas to lene de bhai ko. 
We should not keep saying “It is okay… It is okay… Keep fucking all life because it is naatuuuraalll.” 
#Lust is not everything.
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@aapoorv75 @pierretomas18 @Aragorn & all those who thinks sex should be done regularly in a marriage.
You all guys are singles and thats why you dont understand my side of story.
Whether it is sex OR masturbation… we lose our life force and i am facing huge consequences of that.
I am sick of all this shit.
I am ready for NIRVANA
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People in general are captivated by lust. 
So, their mind will try to justify everything normal, even against evidences and people reporting experiences and seeing people crying vigorously; they want to cry themselves first. They will not even dare to like this post. So don’t worry about that. Just make yourself strong. That will make us happy.
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Brother… i am happy for you that you realized what you have lost. Most of the people doesnt even aware of their miseries. They are just lost.
Now… you will RISE AGAIN even higher than before.
Smile … not every day is the same day.
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Thanks Ankitk for being my strength.
You understand my feelings.
I am glad to found you in this journey.
CHEERS to hard mode 
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Jyada khush hone ki jaroorat nahi hai
I will be happy with you only when you will cross 35 days. But I am happy with your thinking. 
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Bro need some clarification on why sex and masturbation are same in terms of losing semens. I mean… how can you put them on the same page ?
Humans are supposed to be have sex then what’s wrong in it ?
Please elaborate your perspective .
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Many people are doing nofap solely to become better at real sex. But your logic will put them in dilemma
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I am not a Scientist
I am a Observer
I put sex & masturbation on same page on the basis of my observation.
Thanks @Aragorn @Resurrection and my brothers on this NOFAP journey…the support of u guys really mean alot to me…i will surely come back stronger and rise again more than i hv ever imagined, time to bounce back… thanks my brothers, cheers to our NOFAP journey and our brotherhood!!
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Who said you do sex in regular basis. Married bharmcharya means sex in month 1 or 2 time .but if you don’t want that’s ok . It’s all up to you .
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Urvasi urvasi… Take it easy policy
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@Resurrection: may be your words are inspiring but still you are one of the dumbest person I have come across !
M to P is bad and addictive habit I agree and people should be on hard mode for that. Real sex with your partner is not sin to my knowledge. Behind a married man Hard Mode is pointless.
To my basic understanding period for " Brahmacharya" is up to 25th year where any person should work towards gaining knowledge. later comes " Grihasthashrama" where a person should enjoy his life that includes S*x. Which might go till age of 40 to 50.
Later is " Vanaprastha n Sanyasa" thats where you need to think of Nirvana.
I read an article about practicing Bramhacharya being a household man. It was mentioned that occasional S with wife is fine. By that you no need to consider as relapse.
It also said you got to thinking your wife as your sister and break the relationship as husband and wife and develop relationship of brother and sister. Well if this thought might help you in your ‘Hard Mode’ journey.
also duties of householder includes “Husband who does not have s*x with her at the right time is to be blamed”.
sorry am not as learned man like you… these are just my thoughts!!! you knowing much about Vedas n Puranas you may be doing what’s best for you.
All the best !
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