4 days on counter
Went to bed far too late yesterday as was gaming
Up far too late today
However I watched another video in the reforged man course
Included getting a life vision in order to quit ■■■■
The concept of buying into your own vision, buying into this commitment
Pros and cons of using ■■■■ and pros and cons of quitting. I.e counting the cost
My list of pros and cons:
PROs and CONs Re: P0RN USE
Pros: (reward of not quitting )
Makes me feel good in the moment
Little effort required
Blocks out emotional pain
I get to fantasise about nude women whenever I choose
The ultimate Easy button for feeling better in the immediate short term
Cons: (cost of not quitting)
I feel worse in the long term
I stay trapped forever
I never move fwd with my life
I continue to live with internal conflict and social anxiety and shame
I stay double minded
I continue to be desperate and needy around girls
Time wastage
No motivation
Life wastage
Life ruined by it if I don’t change meaning long term unhappiness and misery
Remain single, remain living where I am and I really want to move out not getting on well with the other lodger…
Remain unemployed potentially
Never have the life I wanted because didn’t try hard enough or smart enough and didn’t believe I could change or achieve
Cons of quitting = The Cost
Will be difficult maybe really difficult
Will take a lot of effort
Will be painful maybe really painful at times
I won’t be able to get a quick fix instead I will have to face what I’ve been avoiding (that’s a good thing!)
Pros of quitting = The Rewards
Will become the man I want to be
Single-mindedness no more internal conflict
Possible dating in the future
Feeling confident
Feeling good about myself
Not feeling ashamed
Brain working better, no more brain fog
Success in side projects, part time work maybe full time, a successful career perhaps
Moving forward in all areas of my life: relationships generally, finances, meaningful work, exercise, physical health, brain health, spiritual progress, more peace, more joy.
Enjoying self discipline
Just achieving so much more with my days and feeling good about that
So discipline still seriously lacking at the moment but must move forward with what I am doing better at and stay positive
Thanks to those who respond to these posts as not getting much response in the other (Mark Q) community at the moment
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