Yesterday I read a very interesting article about the reason behind the unrealistic content of porn. (I will attach the article later if I don’t forget it. It doesn’t really describe it, so it should’t be triggering at all)
It covered following ideas.
Why are there few porn where it is about situation where, in real life, actual love is involved like in the wedding night or stuff like that.
Why is the scene with the plummer on the door working?
For a normal human being it would be weird to see a sexual organ in real life without any sexual content. It would be nothing attractive. We need to be in a horny state, so that seeing a sex organ is attractive. I guess we all know that. The first time we saw the typical plummer seen we thought “what the hell??” why should she open the door naked? That looks just weird. If I think about it nowadays it makes perfect sense. She is horny anyway so she wants sex. Why shouldn’t she open the door naked. My brain tells me that this is a legit situation which could happen where in reality, the chance for that to happen is absolute 0.
Porn wants to break our sense of what is reasonable and what isn’t. It wants us to be horny in every situation of life so that we always remember porn. I personally see that in my own life. I’m at the doctors waiting room and the thought is in my head (not an active thought but I feel that a tiny hornyness) which asks, what happens if a hot female doctor steps in and a porn image pops up. I’m in the train and see a hot girl and the thought appears, what would happen if we were alone in the train?
The reality in the train is: The girl is not horny at all and I should be neither. She doesn’t wanna have sex right know and that is what every person who is not influenced by porn would think. But for my porn attracted mind, it would be perfectly reasonable if she came over and we would have sex even thought that doesn’t make sense.
I guess that this is what causes a huge increase in raping (like the people from Yale. We don’t even think about the possibility that a girl is not always horny. That they don’t wanna have sex everywhere.
I hope this post doens’t sound like gibberish. This article showed me how far I am still away from a normal life and that it still makes sense to continue with nofap. I’m not yet where I want my recovery to be!