Please help me to control my urges

Hello brothers,
I am a 19 year old over masturbating since 3 years.It has affected me a lot since it became addictive.It has affected my confidence,self respect,physical strength, memory and concentration on studies a lot and most importantly I lost my will to not give up by failing so many times to stop masturbation after Everytime I masturbate.
I cannot talk with girls, I cannot talk with people watching into their eyes, my voice has lost its deepness all because of masturbation.

I usually watch YouTube , Instagram and other social media in my free time and sometimes whenever I see any hot girl or heroine something will possess my mind completely and I completely lose my control over my actions and start masturbating, this is happening for so many times that I just cannot stop it.

Please as a final try I have started using this app to get some help, Bros please comment to this post so that it can help me to stop masturbation.

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You are not alone, I am so bad at my nofap journey too. Whenever I see a hot girl on facebook, instagram and youtube, I usually lose control of myself. My longest streak is 34 days so far but when the time comes that I get an urge and relapsed. I can’t control my urge anymore and I usually ended up relapsing every two days. My advice for you is I think you should get rid of your instagram app and limit yourself to facebook and youtube. Open facebook warily just once in a day. If you get an urge, control and embrace it. Say this to yourself that you are a warrior and warriors do not fap. Warriors uses his strength and time by defeating his/her enemies. Ancient warriors do not fap cause ancient time does not have a spaceworld called internet.

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RULE No.1: Uninstall all the unnecessary social media apps from mobile phone and laptop.

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I know it’s not easy, but just know that porn is the fuel to masturbation. Avoid any nude content and start looking maybe for new activities to indulge in so as not to think about naked content. Also look for more social events to attend so as to get comfortable with talking to people, you shall win the fight if you believe you CAN

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@vishnu9999 Try not too muddle things up,
but focus on one thing at a time and slowly practice them, making everything into a kind of experiment.
Can you test yourself? Can you give up Facebook for a day, 2 or 3? Or a week? Why not try it?

Or YouTube?

Instagram?

Again, don’t muddle stuff up.
This is a good way build up some mental muscle, just give up one thing and put some effort in, and be glad of your achievements :+1::wink:

Personally, I’m 36, so I kinda gave up Insta and Facebook,… But very very rarely use them anyway.
My struggle is with YouTube, because there is interesting and educational things, but if I start to get bored… :thinking::zipper_mouth_face::sweat_smile: It can be a dangerous place. Just “nah, not today”

So yeah, focus on simple stuff, like start looking people in the eyes more. You’ve got nothing to be ashamed of, I’ve looked at P for 20 years.

The more you seperate goals,
the more you can start to see results.

If you think to give up Insta, fb and YouTube,
Really Really give them up, at least for the week.
“This week I’m giving up social media” :fist:bosh
‘No question! No debate! Just a decision’

But if it seems too much,
be completely honest with yourself and start smaller, and make up your own managble plan.

Eg, “okay, today I won’t watch YouTube in the morning or before bed, and definitely not alone”

Give up pmo the best you can, but be honest about it, and always be kind to yourself.
It’s okay life can be tough, but we can slowly get tough stronger day by day, every time we try,
and every time we fall but stand up again.

To really NoFap/NoPMO, you need a strong mental commitment beyond everything.
“today was tough” so fap
“she is hot” so fap
“want to be alone” fap
“lonely” fap
Happy, sad, I’m a loser, I’m a winner,
can’t control, can control. Fap fap fap

Any situation can give a reason to Fap.

We just wanna feel comfort, feel good and it’s completely okay.
I love feeling good. What makes me feel ultimately good is a relationship with God, NoFap, exercise, Tai Chi, dressing well, smelling great and using my mind on music - but I too want to have better concentration/focus, and reading would be a good start. So I challenge myself to read regularly for the rest of this week
At least 30 mins @srubio :sweat_smile::+1::wink: starting tomorrow as its too late right now.

To NoPMO truly is to simply ‘push that boat out to sea’ - its not a feeling or a thought, just a decision that deserves my commitment and my sincere acknowledgement.

Only having 3 years and being 19yo,
You’re in an extremely strong position, you have soooooooo much power right now.
You’re also not a douchebag, humble, maybe a little bit broken which makes you a real tough guy - being broken and imperfect means you’re more able to help other broken ppl. You have some strong qualities which you should feel proud of, never ashamed.

When things are tough, find some quiet time, find some space for you without electronics and without other ppl, and focus on breathing slowly, deeply in & out. Feel it move through your body, through your spine and through your brain.
I also visual my sperm doing this :sweat_smile:

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Hello there. I encourage you to fight and enter hard mode. You are young so any damage done by porn can be healed easier if you just cut out of the sources of porn and make good habits insted. PM me if you want some detailed instructions.

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That’s great! @Aoshigreen it will help you a lot :smiley::+1:

[/quote] We just wanna feel comfort, feel good and it’s completely okay.
I love feeling good. What makes me feel ultimately good is a relationship with God, NoFap, exercise, Tai Chi, dressing well, smelling great and using my mind on music - but I too want to have better concentration/focus, and reading would be a good start. *So I challenge myself to read regularly for the rest of this week. [/quote]

I am 100% in agreement with what you said, that’s why when we have such a high streak we feel so good, but what I think it really happens is that to overcome pmo, our lives must be in complete harmony in all its fields, and the nofap is the result of our personal efforts.
I thought it was very good your idea of ​​challenges, we must not let her die! I think this is the basis for overcoming the pmo

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