PIED Religion Self-esteem & Kiegals

[Abraham28]

Ed or PIED? Here is the background info in case you didn’t know. ED is erectile dysfunction which can be caused from a range of issues that come from a more natural source. PIED - is because of watching porn. How does it work? The first time you watched porn you probably looked up something very vanila (just softcore porn) after a while, it wasn’t interesting so you needed something more exciting, and before you know it, your watching things that are 100% un natural, these scenes release an un natural amount of dopamine (more then hard drugs). Then if you see a beautiful women, you can’t get a hard one anymore, since the dopamine rush isn’t nearly the same.

If you are religious (Christian, Muslim, Jewish etc) real life sex is dicouraged, so we are left in a catch 22 situation, we feel unconfident about our ability to perform, your suposed to get married and make your Penis work no experimenting. Very Black and white.
Spilling seed is a big no no as well,but everyone does it and despises the fact.

Then you have the social aspect of this (this may vary) my version was guys calling you a faggot for not having sex, or bieng social with girls.

My epiphany was when I read a post about casual Sex, and wondered how unrealistic have we become? What do we expect of ourselves, what if I can’t last as long as I wish I could what would that mean?

The secular world (if you will) might tell you, try masturbating, do kiegls, try casual sex with some foreplay see what happens.

One time I was clean for 90 days, when I did Kiegls, I had a relapse. Masturbation and sex isn’t an option.

So it seems like our only way out is extreme. Don’t do anything.

In my religion, God wants us to procreate. How can I go on a date and tell the girl, look I got PIED are you co with that? yes, very lame unfulfilling sex and all… What am I missing?

[monkme]

Hello! I see you may be facing a big question now, but to help you more I would really need to know more about you.

But I can tell you this, extreme solutions usually isn’t the answer. Probably there is a way, and you didn’t saw it yet.

As a start: you may be really stressed about this matter, making your ED worse. So trying to not overthink it could help a lot. Practicing meditation daily can help.

I don’t know where you live and if you have access to psychologists, but if you can, go see one. In religious circles this is usually rejected; they say the bible (or your holy book) is all that you need. Don’t listen to them; psychologists can help a lot with porn addiction and ED. (Not all of them are good, though; you may have to sort and experiment with some before finding one that works for you).

Same with doctors. One may indicate some medicine and treatment that can really help.

On the religion side: you seem like someone who takes this seriously, and it’s ok. But try to loosen up a bit; itll do no harm to talk to some girls, hanging out etc. This may eventually boost your confidence, and help a lot in the fight against PMO addiction and PIED together. You have to thread this way carefully though; having too much frustration when things don’t work out can blow it all up. But, if you never get to talk or interact with girls, how you are going to marry anyway? (Again, I don’t know where you live and what social rules you abide. So I’m saying from my own experience and perspective)

It may be a short or long way against it, but I hope you can get better from these problems all the best regards!

[Abraham28]

Thank yoi for that reply. You sound like a wise person.