Part of my ■■■■ addiction came from having no girlfriend. I’m 21 and have poor social skills, anxiety, and being diagnosed with autism. I’ve dealt with a lot of anxiety and worked on my social skills so I know it will get better. The issue is that no girlfriend causes a desire for ■■■■ and ■■■■ makes me less likely to try to fix this issue as I used to use it as a substitute. It’s a bad circular effect and discipline and computer blockers have been the only thing that has kept me from watching ■■■■. I swim and go to the gym to soothe my mind and play games with my friends. I’ve made big improvements since I was 18 but I need to address this issue and if I remain single for the rest of my 20s, I’ll need David Goggin’s discipline to not relapse.
Getting a girlfriend is not a big deal bro .Now a days it’s very easy to get a gf.If you want no one can replace you then only work on yourself. Be a strong emotional Powerful man.
Don’t let your emotions control you.
thanks, have been trying to fix my habits. I just don’t want to be a lonely old man in the future.
Work on your skills and make money bro. You are 21 only .You have too much time .
I know sometimes we want someone who will take care of us and love us ,but this a TRAP. So don’t fall on this trap.
yeah, you’re right I shouldn’t become desperate.
Never had things like autism so I’ll not comment on that.
But regarding gf , Its not necessary to have a gf to go well with nf. I am 22 and single. But I’ve reached 100 + streaks 4-5 times and am not using hardcore p for like 6 - 7 months straight. If its possible for me , so can u.
There are men who have gf here and still struggle with p. Gf might be a temporary boost initially but in the end , Its not her battle. Its between you and yourself.
Mr. Toby, I’ll be 28 in like 25 days.
I used to feel like you when I was 21. But, I have never been more freed from these thoughts than I am right now. No, its not because of aging like many would think, but its because of finding completeness and fulfillment within.
Let me tell you a reality that you already know but what you avoid and forget very conveniently. You don’t really have a goal in life, or, atleast you are not committed to achieve it. Because if you were , then you wouldn’t feel this way.
If getting a “girlfriend” seems like your life goal right now, then I’ll encourage you to find someone who you’d like to see as your wife and spend the rest of your life with, rather than just a girlfriend who does “baby, baby” on your phone or helps you get laid. There are enough of resources available for free tbat you can use to work on your social skills and what they call “the game to get girls” (though I really despise it for how it objectifies living humans).
But before you take that route, I want you to give yourself a chance and change it around by yourself. Give aome time to yourself, write down your thoughts, let the discomfort stay with you for a few days, do what you don’t like, make a routine, follow it, read books, read, write, run, eat, cook, fucking do anything for God sake to know that you are alive. Once you feel complete, you won’t need anyone else. You’ll turn into someone who girls need as a boyfriend or husband. Choice is yours…
"Get busy living, or get busy dying… " - Andy Dufrense
yeah, you’re right I’ve gone from a daily ■■■■ user to a monthly so I can probably minimize it to zero.
yeah, you’re right I’ve been doing the bare minimum for a long time and have been a B student that works out around 2-3 days a week. I’ve got to turn into someone people can respect.
Your progress is commendable fr 
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If you are saying this to have &ex with her , then remember my friend, sex is lot easier than love. If you are gonna wait till marriage, because you don’t know whether that person be your future spouse or not , and if they are the one they will wait too and you will have lot to explore after marriage. Connect with them emotionally and spiritually .
If you are saying this thinking romance will help you then , it might help but only to a certain extent after that you will have to deal with those urges yourself.
Don’t worry wait for the right one , you must be worrying how will you be able to form connection and deep inside craving for connections . One advice will be the person you are gonna fall for that will be intense and choose the girl who chooses you everytime and who’s attached to you as you are to them ,(this won’t happen, just telling) else when they will leave you , that phase will be hard for you . Don’t worry good person who is meant for you will never leave you , and the right person will have the key to your heart 
, just choose the right person don’t jump into it too quickly.
I’m 71 years old and I had only one partner in my life and same, my wife is 69 years old and I am her only partner in her life . We both waited for each other , finding the right one is hard but the wait was worth it, even my son and daughter followed the same and they both are having great life with their partners , and in this era where people flex their multiple partners, me and my partner flex our geat life and shock them with our 1 body count. Trust me little boy you will have a great love life , god bless!
Find someone like her :-
Not like her :-
And don’t be like him:-
Haha, best wishes for you, may the best thing happen with good people! God bless!
Its ok man. Start now. Do not blame yourself, take the responsibility to change it around. Its your life and you deserve to live the way you want. Act.
Yeah, I need to find a girl like Ursula if I date lol 
. Thanks for your advice and giving me some more hope.
yeah, school starts tomorrow, It’s time for me to practice your advice.
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