Why are we here? Are we here to fight each other? To be better than your companions? To compare your streak with the streak of others? To loose when we relapse?
Way too often we see people relapse and get dropped. Either by aggressive questions about how they dared to relapse or by dropping out of challenges, by loosing, failing dropping out.
What would I expect from a companion? Someone who helps me when I feel down. A companion shouldn’t only be there when your streak goes up but mainly when it drops down. He should pick you up and care about you.
I don’t need someone who tells me that I failed. I know that on my own. I need someone who tells me that he believes in me. That I can be strong, that I should keep going.
I tried one thing on my own. Instead of counting days I started to write sentences. I tell my self “keep going” every evening I write down one more letter on a piece of paper and place it on my desk and I will continue like that until there is written “keep going”. Within 9 days I have this small little sentence which additionally builds my confidence
If a true companion of your fail, instead of bringing him down by focusing on his failure, you could build up his confidence and honestly telling him for example that you believe in him.
If you wanna have a challenge, you could give him an idea for a new motivational sentence to write
Just as an idea
I just feel like all this negativity and focusing on our failings doesn’t help at all.