Need your advise brothers

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Need your advise brothers

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Would you be comfortable sharing the exact number of days of Nofap you are stuck with and keep going in loops?
Like whats your average streak?

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Hmm alright then
Not a bad streak comparatively
But try to do a 20 day challenge this time
Have you tried the butter fly yogic exercise?
Do it
It hugely benefits the pelvic region and helps in ED

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Hey brother,

Firstly, it’s great that you’re opening up about what’s been going on — that’s already a step toward healing. Many of us have experienced something similar at different points, and it can really affect confidence and overall well-being. What you’re describing could be connected to various factors, both physical and mental, and the good news is, you can absolutely get through this.

Since you’re able to get erections in certain situations (with your wife, while watching videos, etc.), it shows that physically, things are working well. The issue seems to lie more in how you’re feeling and what’s going on in your mind when you’re not in those situations.

A few things to consider:

  1. Stress and Anxiety: It’s clear you’ve been worried and tense about this for a few months, and that stress can directly impact your body’s natural arousal mechanisms. Anxiety often shuts down spontaneous erections, so the more worried you get, the less likely you are to experience those natural, random erections. Focusing on reducing stress could be a game-changer for you.

  2. Physical Health: Since this has been going on for four months, it might be a good idea to check in with a doctor or health professional. There could be underlying factors like hormonal imbalances, changes in blood flow, or even certain medications that affect your sexual energy.

  3. Rewiring Your Mindset: You mentioned a lack of joy and happiness—this could be tied to how you’re mentally framing the situation. Rather than worrying about what’s not happening, try to shift your focus toward building up a connection with yourself in ways that don’t rely on external stimulation. Meditation, breathing exercises, or even trying practices like Kegel exercises (which strengthen the pelvic floor) could help you regain that “aliveness” in your lower area.

  4. Break the Habit Cycle: If watching videos has become your go-to for arousal, it can numb your natural responsiveness over time. Consider taking a break from that and focus more on intimate connection with your wife and yourself. Learning to tune back into your body can help restore those natural vibes and sensations.

  5. Building Confidence: Don’t let this define you. Your manhood and worth aren’t tied to random erections. Focus on what makes you feel confident outside the bedroom—hobbies, work, physical exercise, whatever gives you purpose and satisfaction. That confidence will spill over into every other part of your life, including your sexual health.

Lastly, don’t go through this alone. Keep talking to people you trust, whether it’s your wife, friends, or even a therapist if that feels right for you. It’s not a quick fix, but it’s definitely something you can overcome with patience and the right approach.

Stay strong, brother. You’ve got this!

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It’s not ED brother don’t worry about it , ED means not getting erection while getting physical with spouse , those who suffer from it can’t get hard during intercourse with their wife and other stimuli .

Regarding random erections and low energy, do streching after sitting for long hours this will increase blood circulation.

To fix low energy , do workouts regularly, eat balanced food with healthy fats and high protein and all the essential vitamins and minerals ( especially zinc magnesium) and take sunlight.
You can also do kalarisutram and Ashwini mudra most effective kegel, this will enhance your performance. And I am saying it again it’s not ED so don’t let it affect your confidence. God bless you and your wife :pray:, be happy together forever.

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Bro, go and see a doctor before its too late. Help is available. Nofap etc is a different thing, its an addiction that you have to overcome. But its not a magic potion that’ll solve all your problems. Go to the doctor, follow his advice, have better lifestyle, sleep well, eat well, exercise well… I can give you some tips based on a few research papers that I have read, but it can be trigerring to some people so hiding it. Click on the button to read it.

Trigger Alert: Advice for OP, others click on it on your own risk
  1. Do not think of penetration as the only way to find pleasure. Foreplay is an important aspect and can really keep your partner satisfied. It’ll also boost your confidence and help you in the long run to have better erections and last longer.
  2. Start running. During a research, scientists divided 40 men suffering from PEED into 4 groups of 10 each. First group was told to engage in yoga for a week. Second group was asked to visit gym and do strength training. Third group was asked to run for 30 minutes for 5 days a week. And fourth group was told to carry on with their normal lives. The performance of men from fourth group became even worse. Those engaging in strength training (gymming) reported better erections and increase in timings by and aberage of 30 seconds-1 minute. In the group performing ashtang yoga, average increase in duration was by 2-3 minues. And then those who ran everyday for 30 minutes reported increase in sex timings by 5-7 minutes, which was phenomenal. Now, you can either do a combination of three or atleast just do running.
  3. Lessen your stress levels. Do not think toouch about what has happened in the past. See everyday as a new opporntunity. Physical intimacy is not the only thing which will better your sex life. Love and emotions for each other are im general very important. Embrace and kiss each other to just show affection and care. Meditate. Read good books. Disengage from pornography, vulgar shows and talks or even movies, limit your digital media usage and sleep well. Also eat healthy instead of eating oily spicy shit that you keep buying from the market.
  4. Start experimenting and doing new things that might bring excitement. Such as some dress or act which can spice up your sex life.

P.S. I’m sharing this based on sound medical advices from research papers that you can easily find on google scholar. None of what I shared here is from my own experience, hence I cannot say how efficient they are, but these papers do claim them to be very efficient.
If you have any physical injury or disease or anything, consult your doctor before begining an exercise regime. When you are begining an exercise, always start small, eg, if you are targetting to run for 30 minutes but have never ran in your life, start with 1-2 minutes and keep increasing it little by little, till you get there.
Also, medical science has progressed rapidly. Help is available. So, I’ll really encourage you to see a doctor because its not only your issue, it is something which is affecting the life of your wife as well.
Good luck.

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Rohitash, mere bhai, you have to go longer than 7-10 days clean to give your body the opportunity to heal.

When erectile dysfunction is caused by pornography and masturbation, instead of other factors like heart disease, diabetes or hormonal issues - p-rn-induced erectile dysfunction - the cure is to quit watching pornography and masturbation. Patience is required, as the process usually takes months, but the body will heal itself. There are hundreds of success stories of guys who cured their ED by quitting PMO.

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Thanks a lot my brother @Forerunner … rightly said :blush:

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Thanks a lot brothers @The_EnlightenedOne @drago @PrDr @Sholt_Tenkerrot. That’s truly motivating… :pray: Thanks

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