My Life Rules and Affirmations

Winnerarman · January 11, 2025, 9:09am

**RULES TO AVOID TRIGGERS AND TACKLE WEAK MOMENTS**

Let’s See how I can make it work for me.
My Addiction is not p*rn but actuall addiction is masterbation and the virtual attraction with my ex who dumped me then fatasize and relapse, Even in p*rn I imagine her. She is such a bitch, Never cared for me nor soothe me in hard times but always tried to get my time to solve her problem.
She was one the biggest mistake I have ever did in my life. I hate her so much but whenever I feel aroused don’t know how I go reminding previous days and imagining her and relapse.
I am very ashamed of this but not able to stop. Let’s figure out how to make it workable.

NAMAZ :- Solution of every single problem in this world. Let’s focus mine. Agar Namaz parhoge to strech wala exercise ho jayega alag se nahi karna hoga. Phir meditation bhi ho jayega then the best thing is ki devil ki taraf se jo temptation aata hai usse protected rahoge. Angel tumko save karenge usse aur tumko bas nafs/ Qareen se hi larna hoga jo ki easy ho jata hai. So Ye tumhare sabse bare dushman ko nikal bahar karega zindagi se. Jadu tona bhi isse dur ho jayega jo tumne dekha tha ki hua hai, phir rizq ke darwaze rahmat sukoon izzat sab mil jayega. So sabse zyada Namaz ki taraf focus karo.

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Quran:- The book of guidance for entire human kind. Isse madad hasil karo, dimag ki kamzori ka ilaj, sukoon aur maza isse mil jayega. Isko parho.

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Now Let’s break the things into chunk to understand it further.
I will split days into 2 part, DAY and Night. In Day time if I only open the door that’s enough for me to come out from P*rn and Masterbation but for the NIght I really have to follow rules because in Night I sleep alone.

So the night and fight starts from 10 PM when I come into my personal room and it last between 10 to 12 pm nowadays as after heavy relapse I feel very tired and rest on bed for so long.

So,

Night Rules are
1> Android always close:- Benefit (No P*rn access easily )
Android is the core reason of easily assecible of p*rn in bed. So Not only remove it for night but also in days because at night I feel shy to put it in parent’s room and due to this sometime I miss it or due to any reason or arousal I deliberately take it to room . So for now till I achieve 90 day’s or till marriage I don’t use it. I don’t think I am missing anything after removing so just remove it and use 2g phone.Because the whatsapp is accesible in my laptop and I have 2g phone for call so I don’t have to use android. For the bidding even I will use net banking and for bank purpose also laptop is enough.

2> No Laptop at night:- Benefits (No Prn access :- )
The reason is clear, Through laptop I can access P*rn easily and other filthy stuff. Right now I don’t have any self control so I must have to remove it from my room at specific time of night. As for this also I feel shame so what I am thinking is to play a series on laptop so family can see and I won’t bring it back.
Job??? I know it will effect my productivity and my job aswell but I can’t trade my health for the job. Why I am doing job?? To get money and why money to health, right??? So if I have money wihtout health then no use of that money also how marriage will work if I won’t cure from these things??? So trade the night time of productivity and earn less or no money for now to get health. Also ALLAH SWT will provide you somhow if you show sincerity. He is most merciful how will he abandon you while you are trying to please him and follow his command???
Indeed He gives far better than previous to those who left any bad for him. (Hadees)

Now no gadget in room and you’re alone. The thing is lonliness will lead you to masterbation which is one the hard addiction for you. Nowadays you relapse so much even yesterday night that it’s hard for you to stop yourself on bed even without gadget. Now what??? How???

3 Read Quran meaning before sleep:- It won’t left you alone and the verses will impact on your heart, so you will start learning haya and unlearning shameless things.Go for it specially for a week after relapse always to stop continuos relapse.

4 Don’t go to bed withour feel sleepy:- Else your urges and bad thought and the enviroment will make you relapse.

5 Wear tight cloth or regular cloth instead of night pant at night for sleep:- So you won’t be access it easy and somehow stop from relapse.

6 Read AyatalKursi and Mulk and 4 Qul specially Falaq and put hand on yourself. then 4th kalima and then mukhta till sleep. :- It will make you busy and your brain won’t sit idle. Make sure in starting days don’t think you will make it easily.

7 If you Wakeup early by 6 am at any cost you will end up early sleep and everything will be best. Health, Job and all So Focuse here more.

Here I ended the Night Part. Now the Question is did I missed anything??? I remove gadget and then to counter alone read meaning then when feel sleepy go with same cloth and then read till sleep. Now about early morning which is also a bad time or relapse time for me.

7 Read Morning supplications and rub eyes:- The first thing so you won’t feel sleepy anymore. You need to prepare for job so do it.

8 Then if you’re on bed then La hawla , astagfar till on bed but I suggest don’t stay there late as it will lead to relapse.

9 Open the door as your eyes open, no matter wakeup more or sleep :-

After wake up doesn’t matter whatever time go for it.
Early Morning Time Table of 1 hour

Quran (Meaning ) 10 min

Diary (Emotions, Doubt, Gratitude) 10 min

Affiamtion with Manifest ( Manifest means imaginig it’s happening right now) 3 min

Meditation 10 min

See Pic 5 min

Writh about ex and manifest of freedom 10 min

Read diary relapse notes and rewire

Day Schedule 5 min

Learn Dua (Dropbox)

------- Gratitude Guidelines -------
Time :- 15 min per day or 3 times a week

Write down upto 5 things you are grateful for.
NOTE:- Don’t only imagine about it but write it with hands.

Be spcific as much as possible
Go for depth over breadth
Get personal :- Focus on people whom you are grateful for than the things.
4.Try substraction not only addition :- Be grateful for the negative outcomes aswell, which you avoided, escaped or from where you came out.
Write Regularly on same time

NOTE :_ WHAT WE THINK WE BECOME, SO VISUALISE YOURSELF

Winnerarman · January 25, 2025, 1:21am

My Diet Chart 13-Jan-2025

Will update time to time. Till now I have spent almost more than a lakh rupees on myself but still I am here. I never learnt that the cure is not only in Diet but avoiding and stopping the realapses.

Problems
Spermatorea
PIED
PE
ED

Recovery Steps

Trust that it is curable and you will be cured.
Phycology Healing:-

* Meditation
* Book Reading 
* Creativity.

Physical Strength :-

Exercise (HeartBeat & Sweat based)
Stretching
Cardio
Sports (Competitive will build your testosterones).

Balance Diet
Complex Food
Medicine
Confidence :- Good Clothing and good company

Not to take 1 month to cure spermatorea naturally

1. Garlic
2. Chutney
3. Tea
4. Coffe
5. Chocolate
6. Onion
7. Curry (Sauce, Spices) 
8. Chillies (Hot Spicy) Food
9. Meat
10. Pastry
11. Excess Sweet (Sugar)
12. Fish
13. Fast Food (Worst)
14. Soft Drink (Kills Sperm)
15. Lazyness
16. BPA Bottles

To Take 1 regularly

1. Eat at day time more than night
2. Clean your stomach
3. Early Wakeup (Boost Metabolism, Good Sleep and Build Testeron)
4. Early Sleep (Less Stress, Good Digestion and good health)
5. Take more water
6. Do Streching Exercise
7. Eat Light
8. Amla (To Cool your body)
9. Beans (All types)
10. Breathing to calm down and remove stress

My Diet Plan

Dates, Fish Oil, Vit D, Almond, Cow Milk, Raddish, Massage (virgin coconut or virgin olive), Daily undergarment change, puberty area clean, Green Tea, Good Sleep, Berberihe Hcl capsule (Metabolism), Pumpkin Seed, Pomegranate, Chia Seed, Low (Stress and Obesity), Exercise, Good Protein (Meat), Good Fat (DryFruit), Curd, Ghee, Cashew, Zinc, All Seeds, Gym, Anjeer, Orange and Pomegranate Juice (Fresh) , Pelvic Muscle Exercise (Kegel Exercise), Medicine

Table with Weekdays and Food

Weekdays	Foods
Monday	GreenTea	Pumpkin Seed	FishOil	Milk	1 Date	Almond	Sunlight	Ghee	Anjeer
Tuesday	GreenTea	Pumpkin Seed	FishOil	Milk	1 Date	Almond	Sunlight	Ghee	Fresh Pomegranate Juice	Anjeer
Wednesday	GreenTea	Pumpkin Seed	FishOil	Milk	1 Date	Almond	Sunlight	Ghee	Anjeer
Thursday	GreenTea	Pumpkin Seed	FishOil	Milk	1 Date	Almond	Sunlight	Ghee	Fish
Friday	GreenTea	Pumpkin Seed	FishOil	Milk	1 Date	Almond	Sunlight	Ghee	Fish
Saturday	GreenTea	Pumpkin Seed	FishOil	Milk	1 Date	Almond	Sunlight	Ghee	Fresh Orange juice
Sunday	GreenTea	Pumpkin Seed	FishOil	Milk	1 Date	Almond	Sunlight	Ghee	Fish

Winnerarman · January 25, 2025, 1:44am

How Masterbation alone is destroying my life.

Once I relapse the whole next 3 to 5 days I feel bored. The next 5 days will be wasted, no focus study, no happiness, no energy . Feeling lost , sinful, low confidence and then miss my all targets whether job goal or my health goal. Become more skinny, loss my facial to body mass, looking like a cave man. No peace in prayer, NO focus aswell and the chain goes on.
Waiting for 3 to 5 days to pass to do really good thing for the job but before it pass relapse again and the same chain goes again. That’s how I wasted my entire 2 years relapsing and waiting.

Even if I need to do work I don’t feel any energy to do so. That’s what masterbation is giving me, constant, regret , pain , loss of health, work, relationship, real world dissconnection, anger, short temper, Spermatorea, PE, ED, PIED. Poor, no money and mostly waste to gain reenergy which I never gained.

And all this the devastating effect of only Masterbation, What about edging for hours and then po*n??? then many more bad things. Like late night sleep to leate wake up, poor diet and all.

I need hard reset , I really wasted my life, it’s 29 years and I am jobless , no marriage, no girlfriend, shy, skinny and many more to count.

Yes, I am in trouble and I have to focus on it it’s already too late.

Depleted energy and fatigue
Low libido and reduced sexual performance
Inability to experience sexual pleasure or orgasm
Negative impact on intimate relationships
Emotional detachment from partners
Increased stress, anxiety, and depression
Impaired cognitive function and memory
Difficulty concentrating and making decisions
Negative impact on sleep quality
Increased risk of addiction and compulsive behavior.

Winnerarman · January 25, 2025, 2:09am

Small Affirmation for Myself.

I am choosing not to relapse because I want to be more energetic and engaged in life, feel confident and alive, and create a meaningful and fulfilling future for myself. I want to have a better performance in bed, find my way into heaven, and avoid the torment of hell."

Winnerarman · February 11, 2025, 12:03pm

ALL TRIGGERS

Popup, Ye wala dekho kya aata hai, isme maza aayega, bore ho to chalo dekhte hain, tumko dekhna hi hoga.

Zara sa, thora sa, only a little, last time

Sirf ek minute dekh lo relapse mat karna.

Kuch din nikal gaya hai ab to thora theek ho gaye ho karo

relapse kar gaye ho streak tut gaya hai so ab new streak se pehle khoob dekh lo.

Android in bedroom at night and laptop as well. Easily accessible on desktop

Emotional turmoil, Gussa, khud ko kosna ek relapse ke bad

Ex with other emotional pain

Negative thoughts

Mindless use of gadget / surfing

Not tracking the progress at initial stage

Leaving a momentum and thinking I don’t need any thing now after a week

NOTE :- FOCUS ON YOUR NIGHTS AND THE WORLDLY AFFAIRS AS WELL WITH HEREAFTER.

My Decision of 2nd June 2024

Uninstall browser form android due to trigger . Use laptop for search
Telegram uninstall, Not very important for me
All Shopping apps uninstall
Notes:- Stop looking for cheap things and cashback as it leads to too much surfing, which waste time and if dissappointment comes or any trigger you will relapse. Also you need browser and other trigger platforms aswell.
Playstore block always so it won’t be easy for you to install apps.

NOTE :- DON’T CHANGE IT AGAIN AND AGAIN JUST STICK TO IT.

Winnerarman · February 25, 2025, 1:50pm

** OBSERVATIONS ON RELAPSES**

In 3 to 4 Days Energy level increase so tackle it?
Ans :- Discipline is the only answer and then keep yourself busy.
In 3 to 4 days discipline breaks??
Ans :- Mark the close date on calendar with a reward / treat which you will give yourself. Like you will eat your favorite snacks or learn to cook it and then enjoy. And yeah discipline breaks when you forget why you started the particular discpline and the another reason is something else comes in your life where you focus more than your current Goal.
Fuck your emotions, Be heartless.
What is your single word WHY?
I am not a slave to my desire nor I want to, If I let me slip into this silly images then how will I manage my wife??? She will never respect me nor my children. I won’t do this anymore. I will build self contorl.
Stomach bloatware solution?
No Digital Detox but Block app
Whenever I use digital detox and escape it or somehow i manage to escape any restrictions like Android slip into my room instead of parents room my brain starts feels like it is an opportunity and should not miss it. Then I end up indulge in haram and filthy content but when I use block it’s motivational quote helps me not to indulge in filth.
Once I relapse my brain trick me that this is the last time and I should do it again then again till I have no energy left and also whispers today you got opportunity but will not get tomorrow so utilise it.
Ans :- Bypass there restrictions is not any opportunity I have a mission to do in my life, and it is not last time. I am doing for my health not for days count.
Feels like without PMO is prison but in reality PMO is prison, outside world is awesome

system · March 27, 2025, 1:51pm

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