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I also unfortunately relapsed, but it was 2 days ago. I almost relapsed today.

Q1. What is love to you?

Love to me is not necessarily a romantic relationship (though it often is) but rather two people so intimately vulnerable with each other at their weakest time. Love does not begin until you see your friend/soulmate/significant other in there weakest most vulnerable state, and show nothing but compassion and kindness. When you can trust that when you are totally exposed with no walls in your most unprotected state that they will scoop you up and hold you close… That’s love. Love is trust that they will do right by you

Q2. Do you think if anything is possible, it’s still possible for anything to be impossible?

No. I think that with the right skills passion and drive, anything is possible. There is always a way to get something done. But if you don’t have the passion for it, you won’t find that way and it will therefore be improbable.

Q3. What music would you choose to play every time you walk into a room?

Something that will get me hyped.

Q4. Do fish have a thirst for water?

No. They are surrounded by water. They only have a thirst for water when they are out of water. Similarly, you don’t truly thirst for change until you’ve experienced the feeling of taking risks. If you stay in the same place you will get what you have always gotten. Unfortunately, for the fish, it will die. Fortunately for the human it will thrive.

Q5. Who are you really?

A visionary who will bring unity wherever I walk. An admonisher. The modern day Henry Clay. The child of the Prince of Peace, and a lover of people.

Q6. If man developed from monkeys, why do we still have monkeys?

Because man didn’t develop from monkeys. That is just a feeble human attempt to explain the magnificence of Gods glorious creation.

Q7. If you punch yourself in the face and it hurts, are you weak or strong?

Actually you’re stupid. Why would you punch yourself in the face?

Q8. What do you usually think about while you are on the toilet?

If God could do so many miracles, why do I have to poop instead of doing something more productive?

Q9. Which superpower would you not want?

The ability to read thoughts. While I would love to hear the things women think about me when I’m not around :smirk::wink::kissing_heart: I like to walk into a situation as a purely unbiased person and help two people see eye to eye

Q10. Will someone ever be able to live forever? Explain Death.

Their soul will. Simply put, death is the beginning of eternal life

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@Rab_J @Ryanthelion
I am sorry to hear that. Can you please tell why and how did you relapse? You can DM me if you want.

It is too early to have any Mentor here but we are here to help each other. :muscle:

Ps: Also try to do your assignments, it helps on focussing the mind to other things.

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I don’t remember fully what happened, but here’s how I remember it: I was struggling with urges and ended up edging for a few moments. I was on my longest streak yet, but it didn’t feel like it because of all the urges. After I realized that I technically relapsed, my brain just decided to go full MO and I couldn’t stop myself because I was too tired. I didn’t have any willpower and logic couldn’t reason with my foggy brain. I don’t remember how I got the urges though, but I get them all the time. It is impossible for me to cut out the urges, so I need to learn to replace PMO with something healthy when I get urges. I think it would be a great idea to do the assignments when I get an urge.

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Thank you for your honest report.
What do you do when urges come? You can’t cut out the urges by resisting. You must first understand what is an urge?

It’s an increasing sexual energy or just energy building up in your body. When sufficient semen for the body is made, the energy in the body starts increasing. We are not accustomed to have so much energy in our bodies. This feeling of enormous energy accumulating in the body results in urge.

Your mind played you when you thought you could go complete MO because you already peeked… happens to all of us.

Therefore these assignments will help you to redirect your attention because where the attention goes, energy follows.

Next time the urge comes, see that as an energy not as pain or uneasiness. Spend that energy in other things. If you won’t, you will relapse. It’s nature.

I say every time, willpower works only for some days. You can only dam the water for enough time.

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I can’t seem to download the background

Why relapsed, Short story, I decided to take Sunday as day off, to relax and do Nothing related to work
I ended up doing nothing at all, and intirely alone the more I set alone and not work I feel bad and depressed, no friend was around,
nothing could make me feel better, work will distract me from this feeling, if I’m not working it’s there. so I relapse cause its seemed to me like the only thing that can make me feel better, happy. I didn’t have urges, only after watching porn.

Which background you mean?

That’s also the same problem with me. In our mind we have this notion that P*** watching helps release stress but it’s not so. Easypeasy book helps in this regard. But it will only help if your problem is only on mental level.
But if it goes to spiritual level, it takes more than reading books, to overcome the addiction.

Tips: Keeping busy. A new habit helps. Doing regularly the assignments would also help.

Don’t worry, your mind will start loving nee things gradually and then won’t force you to watch P***.

I hope it helps.

@The_integrous_one @SirTryHard How’s it going??
Anything new to share??

Oh I also forgot to tell, I also have relapsed yesterday, I am doing good now, don’t wanna relive the relapse by explaining why I relapsed :sweat_smile:. I posted it in my dairy tho

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Sorry to hear that. I am sure you’ll bounce back.
You can share here also what have you written in your diary. The Mentees here will also learn from it.

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Today’s attendance:

NA: yes
CA: yes
HA: yes

Today was successfully completed. It was a productive day.

Guys today’s attendance please!

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I relapsed 20 minutes ago. I lost all motivation to achieve my dreams.:sleepy: If you guys have any encouragement please share here because I feel like I’ve tried everything. I relapsed because I peeked at some images and thought it counted as a relapse. After realizing I relapsed I couldn’t stop myself from doing PMO. It was not worth it. Is there a way I can fix this? If I had a choice, I would stop counting every little thing as a relapse. It would help me not to slip so far. But if I don’t count something as a relapse I feel guilty, as if I’m lying about my streak.

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Stay strong man
Streak means nothing, u could just restart the counter if you feel very guilty, but what ever u do, don’t masturbate, if you noticed you gave up in a way, or relapsed on a way, doesn’t mean you should go full relapse. When you notice just stop it.

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Thank you, I will keep trying. I am going on a vacation to visit family so I probably won’t be checking in here for a few days.

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This guilty feeling is making you relapse my dear. Don’t beat yourself up and stop feeling guilty. As I said before, there is a emotional void we’re trying to fill. What’s yours? Only you know that. Sit with yourself with a pen and a paper…go deep into yourself and try to find why had this void arise?
Loneliness, emotional trauma… Where is the root problem? Also take a professional help to understand this.

Today’s attendance:

CA: yes
HA: yes
NA: yes

Today was a successful day. Kept myself busy. Listened to lots of good stuff.

Guys plz state your attendance for today here! To change you have to take active participation.

Has anyone started drawing Mickey Mouse?

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Today’s attendance:

NA: yes
CA: yes
WA: Not yet, about to work on it now

Yesterday’s attendance:

NA: yes
CA: yes
WA: no

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I drew mickey but it says that the file is too big

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You can compress it using paint software if you have pc. Resize it.

  1. Love is patient and kind. It does not envy it does not boast. It is not proud it is not rude. It is not self seeking. It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, trusts, hopes, and preserves.
  2. No, I don’t believe so.
  3. I enjoy most genres of music and would like to have a variety including hip-hop, R&B, Rock, and Jazz. However, if I could only choose one type I would choose hymns.
  4. No.
  5. I am a man named Joshua. I am a sinner redeemed by the grace of God.
  6. I don’t know how to answer this one, because man definitely did not develope from monkeys. Someone who is knowledgeable about the theory of evolution and who completely believes it (which I don’t) would say that monkeys and humans evolved from a common ancestor not from modern day monkeys. I don’t believe that either I believe that God created humans in his image from the dust of the earth.
  7. We cannot conclude whether or not a person is weak or strong by this. It would be possible for a strong person to hurt themselves in this way, but a very weak man could possibly hurt himself in this way as well.
  8. I usually have my phone with me and it could be about any number of things coming from my phone. Some possibilities are emails and business related things or something from YouTube.
  9. I would not want the power of King Midas, so that everything I touched would turn to gold.
  10. We live in a fallen world, when sin entered the world death came with it. Apart from the grace of God no one could live forever, but with the grace of God this is possible.
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