Hi. I could not stop fantasizing about a girl that have been flirting with me for a while. We have insane attraction to eachother. No doubt about that, and it got so bad, that i had to let go of the pressure. The thing is. I do not feel bad. Is this considered a relapse, or am i still on a streak in your opinion? I have reset the timer just to be sure, but I honestly feel great. Not like mastubating to porn for sure. Give me your honest answer.
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Unfortunately, Yes that’s the end of your 6 days streak .
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Thanks for being honest with me. I feel like that is the case too. Here is how i would describe the difference: 1: PMO: You feel like shit, and is shamefull for at least 3 days. Confidence takes a huge hit for at least 4 days. 2: Mastubate with imagination, to someone you are in love with: You still feel alive. You still love yourself. And your Confidence and energy takes a small hit for a day or so, and you are in danger of full on PMOING.
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Bro @InspectorNorse it depends on your nofap goals. Different people have different goals.
Our ultimate aim is getting away from porn
Masturbation comes after that.
In hardmode masturbation with or without porn is a relapse.
But if you are doing Easymode you can still masturbate without porn, substitute or any kind of fantasy. You see, masturbation alone won’t do much harm to people; before internet came into being people used to masturbate and they didn’t spend most of their time pmo-ing like us.
In YBOP Gary Wilson gives us only 2 advices to get out of this addiction.
- Give up all artificial stimulation
- Do what works for you.
If you don’t have ed or any sexual problems like that you can still get out of this addiction by doing masturbation.
But strictly without any artificial stimulation and fantasy. But the frequency should be less than 5 atleast a month.
It depends bro. Most of us here are doing hardmode. It is the best way. You can go through the site YBOP to get more details.
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Thank You. Hard mode only from now on…
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To be honest. You did a worse job. Masturbation to porn is worst. You have already damaged yourself a lot with PMO. If you want better and quick results. Please abstain from this. Focus on your Goals. Fantasies are somewhat similar to porn only. The only difference is you created that porn yourself and not any Pornhub director. If you want positive growth do not repeat that again.
There are different stages in this Movement.
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Brahmacharya/Monk Mode - No Lusty Thoughts (Most Benefits)
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Hard Mode - lust. But can’t PMO
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Normal Mode → can have real sex
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Soft Mode → can masturbate without porn(Negligible benefits)
So the conclusion. More you hard on yourself. Better you will be. And more fast recovery.
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Just had a horrible nightmare. A girl i was fantasizing about at some point was at some sort of rehab center early morning party (wtf) . She told me she just smoked crack 2 times. Then i told her she was better than that shit, and then some guy came in an tried to rape her. She was screaming like hell. I punced the dude at least 1 time right in the face, but he was about 3 meters tall and it did nothing to him, and he knocked me out (im almost 2 meters tall irl lol). Then the girl told me how i dared to interupt her getting raped, and I woke up. WTF!! … Then i felt asleep again and got another lucid nightmare, where i just felt someone breathing me right in the face, and I was unable to move. Then i woke up, and I could hear about 30 crows outside.Creepy stuff. All this shit happend in these last 2 hours. That nightmare felt like a LONG TIME. going hard mode now…
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