Looking for self forgiveness advice

I have a question that may be hard to answer. I have heard the phrase “forgive yourself” a lot. I believe that it would help me, but I guess I just don’t know how. I try to forgive myself, but then the memories and stress come back like before.

Do you all have any advice on how I can truly forgive myself?

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I think by practicing daily you can see the results… I was not into “forgive yourself meditation” but I know it is similar to other ones.
First, sit down and meditate on the past mistakes or sinful activities then repeat with empathy “I forgive myself for the deeds I have done because I was just a child and didn’t know the outcomes” do it for 10-15 min daily for few days and you can see the results…

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I would say, please don’t forgive yourself.


This is where you and me stands. Why to forgive yourself? It won’t be correct, if i count with streak but at this instance you and me badly needed to stay away from PMO at least for 100 days. Can you recall what is your last streak? I know i am kinda harshly stating. Sorry but no more sorry for forgiveness for your deeds. Everytime you relapse you tell yourself it’s okay right! But why? Why the hell you are saying your mind to forgive and compromise. No time for all these. Focus and priorities things which has value in your life. And make sure to keep moving.

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Bro you are right but forgiveness for the uncontrolled and guiltful activities gives some relief. Guilt when overloaded causes many problems .

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What you said is true and is applicable for new bie not for people like me who are addicted over years and forgiving. Someday will come, forgiveness won’t happen rather it will change to a ‘curse’ or a permanent pain for lifetime.

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@shinsusenju I hope you understand.

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Bro, beating yourself up, filling ourselves with guilt and negative emotions will pull us down.
Forgiveness without action doesn’t really work. You need to try your best and learn from previous fails and act, and forgive yourself. Don’t waste time on punishing yourself.

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@pingpong1 @wall-e @Rab_J

Thank you for all the inputs, I really appreciate it. This goes further than NoFap. I have many things in my life that I look back on daily and it kills me. That’s why I’m wanting forgiveness of myself. I know I need to be harsher on myself with NoFap, guilt is a good thing to have.

However, what I’m battling is a lot of shame, meaning I think I’m a bad person. This has destroyed my mindset and I have to get it out.

Guilt is a good thing to have as it helps recognize I’ve done something bad, shame just tells me that I’m not good enough anymore for anything. That’s where I’m struggling

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You’re absolutely right. I need to do better with this statement

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I recommend listening to Forgive You by Kelly Clarkson Kelly Clarkson - I Forgive You (Audio) - YouTube

The more you listen into its lyrics the more you are at ease. Thanks to this song I have discovered that not only do I have to forgive myself but also anyone or anything that leads me to relapse. It might not make sense, but whatever or whoever is in your surroundings that leads you to commit sinful acts, you should forgive that to.

But remember to not forgive yourself to much. Everything else I want to say, has already been said over.

I agree punishing do not work.but taking it as a lesson works. So we shouldn’t forget and excuse our previous mistake

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Don’t bring these thoughts to your mind please. You are the best. With time everything will be alright but make sure not to waste the ‘time’ by focusing on guilt and all. The more days you stay away from PMO the better and stronger you will become.you have many things which are beautiful around you. My apologies for being little harsh in my previous response. Be happy and keep smiling :slight_smile:

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@mphexpert that’s it? Again starting from 0 ? Motivation gone? Please tell me what’s next? Same pattern again? Climb upto 10 and lookback? You have been consistent over this, is not it? Tell me how long you will be make yourself weak by thinking you are not good enough?


It equally hurts when you relapses when you said you will fight this time harder. Keep that in mind. Do you think no one is watching you?
Let me tell you something this time, you relapse one more time before 30 days, I will stop bothering you. :slight_smile:

@wall-e understood. :+1: