The society we live in, in global scale, encourages the naturally extroverted, outgoing, courageous and ambitious people, people who strive for high achievement, who seek leadership positions at work, who like busy and stressful environments, who like to jump into battles without preparations and make split-second decisions, etc.
While, on the other hand, there are the more humble, reserved, collected, calm, calculative, cold, pedantic, with doing it by the book attitude to life, people who don’t express themselves very often, people who would prefer to carefully calculate some variables before acting.
The first ones are regarded as heroes, they are looked as the example we all should follow. While the others are treated as if they are mentally ill, as if they are deformed freaks who need help.
This is everywhere around us. Both of the types aren’t absolute. People change and have different qualities. If you have the qualities of the first type I presented, doesn’t mean you don’t have some of the qualities of the second type.
My idea is, that there are people, who aren’t high achievers, who aren’t ambitious, who aren’t talkative, who don’t strive for glory and high positions at work. You don’t need to feel extremely motivated to live a good life. You don’t need to wake up at 4am and work like there is no tomorrow to be happy. You don’t need to dream big to be successful. You don’t need to be “alpha dog” in order to make it OK in life. For some people such things are poison. Don’t feel guilty if you are not a top gun. Maybe you don’t have to be.
If I was a psychologist I would have described this phenomenon in clearer details. But I’m not.
