KarmaYogi's Last Battle

[_KarmaYogi]

I just wanted to talk my mind out… I have been quite stressed from last couple of days.

I work in private sector in an Indian metro city. I am 29 already. My parents are looking for a match and this entire process of arranged marraige is so depressing to me, I feel like I cant take it anymore.
Firstly, more than half of girls are already committed, and hence for arranged marraige one is left with very few options. To make matters worse, in my profession girls are hugely outnumbered by boys, which further narrows down the choices available. Also, families preferring arrange marraige are too orthodox to even let the boy and girl talk before marriage, let alone meeting with each other. Though my family has selected the match for me, her family does nt give us any update on time and we feel as if they are still looking for better ones. This thought is so depressing because, we have been lookng for a girl for over an year now. My all future career plans are going down the drain due to this ever postponing wedding.

I try to find out the reason for this misery of mine. I believe its all because I turned out be an average private sector guy who seemed to have nothing much to offer, hence he gets average girls and they too seem to take us for a ride. Rather than blaming her parents or my parents, I am the one to be blamed. I deserve the blame for not working hard enough and not making a mark in my industry.

The only way out of this seems to be working really really hard, whats the point of living a life full of anxiety every day. Its like dying everyday.
The only way out, is to work hard no matter what happens… work hard even on the worst of days… work hard even on the best of the days. No excuses. Wake up finish your morning routine and start working…Work work work… forget everything. no regrets of past no worries of future, just work. Set a target for a everyday and work towards it as if you survival depends on this.

[_KarmaYogi]

Another incident, had an argument with the neighbour yesterday. He is planning to get the road repaired and wants everyone to contribute. But he doesnt share the bills or the plans or anything for that matter, he just wants us to pay a random amount. Basically he is planning to earn handsomely through commission. I opposed him and asked him to share the plans he refused, we had an argument but I didnt back off.

Lesson learnt:
Be polite, be helpful but as they say: love everyone but never sell your sword.
Avoid all confrontations but sometime a confrontation is really required, and then fight bravely.

[Dean_Ambrose]

Just tell your parents you don’t want to get married right now and want to focus on career… A man can marry in his late 30’s also… Focus on career and work hard … PMO is the biggest problem that decreases our focus and will to work hard towards our goal, so it’s important to eliminate it first.

[_KarmaYogi]

Thanks a lot brother, but I guess you are a bit young to understand that there is a biological cycle associated with age… read about fertility and pregnancy issues in late 30s … especiallly for women the biological cycle deteriorates rapidly post 30.
“for marriage age is just a number” this is the biggest myth being sold by the urban dudes… the same dudes who say “PMO is just fine”.
I believe as our ancient texts preach, brahmachrya till 25 and then marraige is the best model to follow

[Tagore]

Hey brother @_KarmaYogi marriage at 34 to even 35 is also ok for men. At that age your sperm quality won’t reduce. Researchers only say that your sex drive may reduce, but that also .5% or 1% which is very less.
It is nothing to worry much about bro. I suggest you give your 110% of focus on career and purpose in life. Just forget about marriage or girls or fucking chics for the next ,5 years

Trust me, in 5 years a focused man can do impossible things. There are thousands of examples before us. As you said, commit 100%, focus on your life, get disciplined, wake up at 4, do yoga or workout and work as if your survival is dependent on it. Your parents should look at you with wonder due to the changes that you are making.
You can do this bro
Girls will run around you, when you become successful. They are all attracted to successful guys.
We have one of the greatest actor in Kerala called Fahad Fasil. His life can be a great motivation for you bro.
He acted in his first film at age 19-20. It was the worst film ever made in malayalam and his acting was horrible!! Everyone hated him; when we used to see him in TV we will change the channel suddenly

But he didn’t gave up. He went abroad to study and was in America, living alone for the next 8 years. He studied acting and took a philosophy degree from there.

Then at age 27-28 he came back to Kerala and started trying hard to get into films. At that time, he also lost his hair; his head was in a fully balded condition but guess what, he didn’t care.
He worked hard. He saw directors after directors.
Did small roles in different films
And after some years he got his break through.
Now he is considered as one of the greatest actors in malayalam film industry and he has earned National best actor award multiple times

Also, he didn’t marry till age 34. And while acting on one of the all time highest grossing film (Bangalore Days) in Kerala, one of the best female actors - Nazriya proposed him (she was only 19 at that time) and they married and he will soon become one of the Greatest actor in India. (Already he is very much recognised all over India in film circles)
Two things made him successful bro. Perseverance and hard work.

Fahad Fasil at age 20, when he acted in his first film which was the worst film and acting performance in malayalam film industry

After his come back. Becoming one among the best actors the industry has ever seen

With his wife; the cutest and one of the most amazing actresses in the industry whose age is less than 10 years compared to his

Brother @_KarmaYogi , I said all these; searched and uploaded his images here just to pump you up. With 100% commitment anything is possible. We have hundreds and thousands of examples like these in front of us. We are together in this bro

[_KarmaYogi]

Thank you so much @Tagore for putting so much time and effort in putting up this reply.

Though I generally dont compare myself with these people born with a silver spoon.
But yeah I get the message that I need to focus on my life and rest everything will just follow.

Thanks again brother

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#4

17/June/21

An unexpected engagement, nothing much could be done

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#5

18/June/21

waking up at 3:30
Exercise + Yoga
Gayatri Mantra Jap - Twice a day (and affirmations)
6 Hours of Study (3 Hours)
6 Hours of Work with full dedication
Kegel Exercise (3 sets of 5)
Drinking 3 +L of water
Sleep by 10:30
Breathing exercises in evening
Reading a religious/ethics book
Maintaining a time logger

Better at tasks than the previous day
More Vairagya than the previous day

[_KarmaYogi]

Completed a week !! .,…

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#6

19/June/21

waking up at 3:30 (slept late)
Exercise + Yoga
Gayatri Mantra Jap - Twice a day (and affirmations)
6 Hours of Study
6 Hours of Work with full dedication (holiday)
Kegel Exercise (3 sets of 5)
Drinking 3 +L of water
Sleep by 10:30
Breathing exercises in evening
Reading a religious/ethics book
Maintaining a time logger

Better at tasks than the previous day
More Vairagya than the previous day Getting lot of urges and distractions

[Strong_one]

Don’t give up bro. These daily tasks will help you in most amazing way possible.
Keep doing these .

[_KarmaYogi]

I am getting terrible urges right now… Heavy breathing as well… Seems like withdrawal symptoms

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#7

20/June/21

waking up at 3:30 (slept late)
Exercise + Yoga
Gayatri Mantra Jap - Twice a day (and affirmations)
6 Hours of Study (2 hours)
6 Hours of Work with full dedication
Kegel Exercise (3 sets of 5)
Drinking 3 +L of water
Sleep by 10:30
Breathing exercises in evening
Reading a religious/ethics book
Maintaining a time logger
Reading Nofap success stories before sleep

Better at tasks than the previous day
More Vairagya than the previous day Getting lot of urges and distractions

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#8

21/June/21

waking up at 3:30 (again slept late)
Exercise + Yoga
Gayatri Mantra Jap - Twice a day (and affirmations)
6 Hours of Study (2 hours)
6 Hours of Work with full dedication
Kegel Exercise (3 sets of 5)
Drinking 3 +L of water
Sleep by 10:30
Breathing exercises in evening
Reading a religious/ethics book
Maintaining a time logger
Reading Nofap success stories before sleep

Better at tasks than the previous day
More Vairagya than the previous day

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#9

22/June/21

waking up by 5:00 AM
Yoga
Gayatri Mantra Jap - Twice a day (and affirmations)
6 Hours of Study (4.5 hours)
6 Hours of Work with full dedication
Kegel Exercise (3 sets of 5)
Drinking 3 +L of water
Sleep by 10:30
Breathing exercises in evening
Reading a religious/ethics book
Maintaining a time logger
Planning for next day
Reading Nofap success stories before sleep

Better at tasks than the previous day
More Vairagya than the previous day

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#10

23/June/21

waking up by 5:00 AM
Yoga
Gayatri Mantra Jap - Twice a day (and affirmations)
6 Hours of Study (2 hours)
6 Hours of Work with full dedication
Kegel Exercise (3 sets of 5)
Drinking 3 +L of water
Sleep by 10:30
Breathing exercises in evening
Reading a religious/ethics book
Maintaining a time logger
Planning for next day
Reading Nofap success stories before sleep

Better at tasks than the previous day
More Vairagya than the previous day

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#11

24/June/21

Hair Care:
Shirshashan
Balayam
Detumescene Therapy

Physical and Mental Well being
waking up by 5:00 AM
Yoga
Gayatri Mantra Jap - Twice a day (and affirmations)
Kegel Exercise (3 sets of 5)
Drinking 3+ L of water
Breathing exercises in evening
Reading a religious/ethics book
Sleep by 10:30 (Online class)

Professional Growth
5 Hours of Study
6 Hours of Office Work with full dedication
Revise 3 problems
Maintaining a time logger
Planning for the next day

Better at tasks than the previous day
More Vairagya than the previous day

Core Value : Do it now, do it with full focus, do it with full strength, dont stop until thats finished

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#12

25/June/21

Hair Care:
Shirshashan
Balayam
Detumescene Therapy

Physical and Mental Well being
waking up by 5:00 AM
Yoga
Gayatri Mantra Jap - Twice a day (and affirmations)
Kegel Exercise (3 sets of 5)
Drinking 3+ L of water
Breathing exercises in evening
Reading a religious/ethics book

Professional Growth
5 Hours of Study
6 Hours of Office Work with full dedication
Revise 3 problems
Maintaining a time logger
Planning for the next day

Better at tasks than the previous day
More Vairagya than the previous day

Core Value : Do it now, do it with full focus, do it with full strength, dont stop until its finished

[_KarmaYogi]

Day#13

26/June/21

Hair Care:
Shirshashan
Balayam
Detumescene Therapy

Physical and Mental Well being
waking up by 5:00 AM
Yoga
Gayatri Mantra Jap - Twice a day (and affirmations)
Kegel Exercise (3 sets of 5)
Drinking 3+ L of water
Breathing exercises in evening
Reading a religious/ethics book

Professional Growth
5 Hours of Study
6 Hours of Office Work with full dedication (holiday)
Revise 3 problems
Maintaining a time logger
Planning for the next day

Better at tasks than the previous day
More Vairagya than the previous day

Core Value : Do it now, do it with full focus, do it with full strength, dont stop until its finished

[Tagore]

@_KarmaYogi

Balayam
Detumescene Therapy

Bro what are these two?
You are doing great. Just keep going. We are all together in this.
Discipline is the key brother. I have seen that on those days I stay undisciplined and waste time I get extreme and powerful urges. But if I wake up at 5 or 4, work on my goals, do yoga, meditation and live the day in a structured manner the urges are very less and even if they appear they are weak and goes away without making a lot of problems.
So whatever happens, stay disciplined everyday bro. That is the key!