Went out with a group of friends. Had one girl inside the group ask me to go party with her, had another girl in a different group that we know asking we wanted to go see her do “something”.
Basically I had an opportunity to go to either, or maybe even both, but rejected both and went out on my own to a club that I like.
The music was good, but nothing special regarding attraction. Certainly not revolution, smiles eye contact all good, but just no bites.
All in all, mixed bag today practically and emotionally, but still far beyond than what is normal. I do need something else tho, maybe more meditation.
Things are really heating up now, and since Valentine’s day is coming up, women are coming out of the woodwork.
If you can’t set a high standard for the woman you want, at least set a high standard for how much effort she has to put in, which might keep you out of trouble.
That the thought on my mind, and also how powerful it is to create pressure from self denial. It doesn’t have to be anything massive also, apart from SR itself, which is a huge undertaking, but you can also just deny yourself that chocolate or beer you were going to have, or don’t play that video game.
Indulge in the pressure of self denial and discipline, feel the struggle and observe it.
This is a girl I already knew. Before I came over she sent me a text about being on her period, implying there won’t be any fun, but she changed her mind while I was there, and it was a lie, but my energy must have been so high she couldn’t resist.
I had a feeling this was all true before I came also.
Pretty proud of retaining, it was easy too, but may not be the case next time.
This was a girl I already knew, but the planets still kinda aligned for us to meet, and for this interesting experience to happen. I’d notch it up there with interesting SR “sh*t”
My ex got in touch with me. She’s gone away on a holiday for a week and said she is keen to meet me after, let’s see how it goes.
My energy has been a bit scattered. Still struggling with self denial. I can avoid bad things by not having access to them, but if they are there it is hard for me to say no, and if I manage to say no I tend to bounce back with a vengeance the next day.
I can feel the power of self denial tho, as well as forcing yourself to do something you don’t want to. Will keep going.
I’m writing this after getting a blow job in a car from a girl in a club.
I can’t entheaize how out of the ordinary this is for me.
The girl wasn’t a 10 by far, but she was an 8 at sucking the d, and basically dragged me out of the club.
The club night was interesting too. Was a mix of women getting turned off, perhaps because the energy was too much for them? And literally a girl dragging me out.
I am not offending you my friend,I don’t say that quitting ■■■■ is bad,but what I am trying to say is don’t make up another addiction in the process of recovering from an addiction.
So here are my reasons(don’t worry I will simplify),
When you watch ■■■■ ,overtime the reward
systems baseline dopamine increases
which means you need more dopamine to
feel satisfied.
when that happens the categories you are
used to see get conditioned so you
need more hot categories such as
gang bang,threesome,foursome,cheating
spouses,swinging, and in worst case
scenarios gay ■■■■,transgender,cuckolding
(if any gays reading, this is worst case
because the morals would change
completely from how they started and how
they have been changed to something they
never even imagined.
the second reason might happen definetely
if you lack consistency in an addiction,like
how many times you could do in a day or
week,month.
what you are doing is ,you are slowly
getting out of an addiction while giving
your brain another way to cope ,where
before the only high
stimulus,supercharged dopamine
was available in ■■■■,but now the baseline
drops to the level of sex addiction
slowly(you may know when you started
watching ■■■■ you f****ng didn’t know this
might turn into an addiction 100%
sure),trust me now you are going just thirty
days in right now, it just takes a couple more
weeks or days to create a habit ,if you are
consistent.
let’s say you successfully got out of your
■■■■ and masturbation addiction which
was a habit ,but now you get to fool around
with many consistently,look you are no
immortal, at one point you might old OR I
mean
get less frequent these kind of things,and
there comes it,you might find even less
attractive,and cheap or you know shit type
of girls or even your close relativeswhome
you have seen before with respect just to
fool around,you are not
special mister this happens often
commonly for almost 80% to 95% of sex
addicts.if you think you are in the 5% then
keep dreaming.
if you try to say you just need to have fun
around since you have just got one life and
after marriage or just till you find the love of
your life and then stop having sex from
outside,sadly your brain won’t allow it, just
like it won’t let you go nofap for 365 days.
the most who has hate this kind of mindset
and open relationship kinda things are not
the ones who haven’t even tried it.trust me
I have seen things,I just think to myself at
the end of the day it was their choice.
do not underestimate your brain mate,it
could rationalize shits over a bit of
dopamine,just like this before ■■■■
addiction did you ever thought to fuck
someone else’s wife, don’t lie haven’t you
even watched even a single those kind of
videos.
good luck for your decision for whatever it
is,at the end of the day it’s yours.
In case you need a bit further no
simplified
explanation or help dm me.
one last thing if you think just one last
time kinda thing or from tomorrow fresh
start this is the mindset which kept you in
the ■■■■ addiction for literally years or
maybe year, there’s no way you are here
because of months of ■■■■ addiction.
just in case you may ask,just because you
read a book on how to swim doesn’t
mean you could swim sir,even though I
study about psychology and stuff and
read books ,I get professional support for
my ■■■■ addiction to boost up the
rewiring process,another example if not
convinced,a doctor can’t do himself a
heart surgery sir but sure if he is a heart
surgeon he might know how to do it but
could he?
For those new to this thread, it is like the title suggests. I list my experiences on SR in regards to female attraction, and last night was incredible.
I’m by no means a guy that has women dragging him out of nightclubs to give BJs to.
Anyone wanting to “help” me should know tho.
I don’t subscribe to that book that a bunch of Jewish people wrote about how awesome Jewish people are.
2.I see sex as incredibly beneficial, mandatory even, with zero hangups on it being anything other than a beautiful, loving experience (when done with consent and mutual understanding)
What I experienced last night was a fun, loving experience with another concenting adult, and I believe, created through my SR retaining.
I still retain currently, and looking to do another clubbing experiment tonight. Will keep you updated.
No clubbing update, because I found out the event finishes way too early, my bad.
Still riding high on last night’s events.
Really pushing heavily for self denial of other areas tho, chocolate and video games specifically for me. I have a bunch of chocolate looking at me right now as I write this, wanting to be eaten…
I want to be absolutely honest with my reporting here, so after the walk I did end up going to a club Afterall.
I had a great time dancing, however, the one girl I made a move on gave me a definat “fuck no”
As far as I felt internally, everything was aligned. After the rejection, I easily stepped back with no ego and continued to dance and have a good time.
I even felt the flow of the club, and felt the exact time the night was winding down. Soon after I left the dance floor and set down, everyone else started to clear out.
I didn’t go home with anyone, but I did go home with my own strength intact.
SR is not a guarantee. You are still under the hand of circumstance, social dynamics etc, but man, you really get that feeling that even if you walk away, you’re taking the best part with you, yourself.
My biggest tip would be to go to a place where you actually enjoy the music. The place I’ve been going to and having success is passionate about the music I like, so I’m going with an attitude of having fun regardless of meeting someone or not.
At the club, I dance when I want to, I don’t dance when I don’t want to. I never force myself to be moving for the sake of moving, but also never resist dancing if I’m feeling it. If the dance floor is empty, and I feel the best, I will be the first dancing.
While not ideal, a bit of alcohol could loosen you up, but obviously never rely on it.
Also, take care of your basic hygiene! Brush / floss, shower, dress nice, it will make you feel better.
I use bi carb soda as a natural, and non flagrant anti perspent.
Do this a few times and get back to me. Find a good venue and go out to dance there a few times, with no attachment to female success.
Cheers mate. I like Deep House but where I live it’s there isn’t even a normal club with eltro music. I hate the type of music that they usually play here. Gonna move but it’s gonna take a while before my jobs permits it.
Gonna have to learn Day Game haha
Yo dude r u serious !? What r u even saying boy ?
U got blow job , still retaining !!
U had sex , without release. Still retaining !!
U met ur ex , had fun. Still retaining !!
Do u even understand what r u saying ? U r counting multiple days streak while doing these things . I have never seen something crazy like this before.
U can do whatever u want , post whatever u want but don’t say still retaining after doing these things.
But I am still retaining. I never orgasmed and still going strong, still have all the benefits as far as I can tell, and still having wild experiences happen to me.
I’m not celebrate like some people, but I am NoFap and SR. How would you define retaining?
