is social anxiety specifically the physical symptoms not fixable?
i have fixed most of my anxiety related problems, i had severe anxiety few years back and i feel good that i have been able.to tackle it preety well.
about social anxiety i have improved quite well but i really hate the physical symptoms that never goes away, such as racing heart, shivering in social situations, tightness in chest and not being able to speak properly.
i face these kinds of symptoms in specific situations. and i am not able to get the pattern. i socialize well with my friends but when it comes to elderly people amd strangers i get triggered.
thats the reason i couldnt go for a date two times.
i even know that my childhood was the reason for this. some events that took place. and its verry hard to let them go
i would be happy to know your views on this
That will too disapper. Improving social skills is like brushing teeth. If you dont talk to people alot , no matter how u call urself an extrovert , you get social anxiety.
I suggest u to not hesitate whenever u are given opportunity to take leadership roles. I am an introvert in general to I do get social anxiety frequently. I then became the leader of the class. Now I am forced to talk to people a lot to get things done , By Gods grace I have no problem with that. But when I take like 3-4 days leave that anxiety come back again.
Unless u are totally fine being an introvert , never hesitate to take part in social gathering like sports , party. But in this situation try to balance out with ur productivity . I meant keep a balance.
To contibue a conversation always ask question. If u think ur unable to continue a conversation , try to grab as much as information from the previous conversation ,
To strike a conversation , have a topic that can be answered by everyone. For me , its movies. So if I have to start a convo with my classmate. I’ll ask him / her. Have u watched any movies recently. Once the person replies , you can either talk of the movie u watched recently or grab info for the next question.
I beleive once u are comfortable with eye contact , u maynot have problems like heart rate ig. For that , think 2 eyes and 1 nose are 3 points of a triangle. Make sure atleast one eye is inside the area of the triangle. Ik its strange but it works .
So is social anxiety fixable ? Yes but u must polished it everyday.
I also feel a racing heart in situations where I know I am not a good performer, for example running(sprinting to be exact). May be it’s because of social expectations that I know how I will look while doing so. It’s because of adrenaline.
I used to shiver or feel like gasping for air when speaking in public but it’s totally improved. I don’t shiver, or have any racing heart, I got used to it.
So comparing both the situations, I don’t sprint much, but I speak in public alot. Both situation in start caused anxiety, for the other one it’s totally improved because I practiced.
All in all, the more you get used to those situations, the more it is easier to not get anxious.
I think it’s all depend on the person. Sometimes they respond good and sometimes they hurt us with words and they show superiority meanwhile…
I just end up the conversation, thinking they may have ultimate mood swings.
I too had social anxiety since childhood , but not that bad . Eventually my confidence peaked and those heart racing symptoms were no more . Later , when I lost my self confidence and damaged my self image , I started to face these problems severely . Like you , I too faced some events which were hard to let go but they eventually healed with time , after some months I started to come out and speak . What I understood from it was that , I just had to try , most of the hesitation and judgements were in my mind . After that I separated my anxiety from myself thinking that they are just a part of my thoughts , overthinking and not really true . I still had racing heart and some shivering but I kept myself focused outside and that helped a lot .
You need to engage more , and do it regularly . Sometimes , you may get into situations where your talking freely may feel unpleasant or people deny your perspective but you don’t have to judge yourself too hard at that time , because its natural . So the best way accor to me is don’t think , let your thoughts aside and just do it .
I was always an introvert but in the past 4 - 5 years , I discovered that public speaking , engaging in conversations and being in public actually energized and motivated me more instead of making me anxious . Even now , I mostly face negative thoughts and doubts when Im alone , but feel clearer and confident when I speak to someone .
You can find out such thing too , which will help motivate you more . For ex : explaining concepts to your friends , deliberately asking doubts to teachers , voluntarily participating in any leadership etc
i can understand what you guys are trying to say, but i have tried these things a lot, but these symptoms are still there.
reason is - most of the times i had negative outcomes.
I’ve dealt with social anxiety for the majority of my life and I’d say it is mild now but at one point it was severe. When I was 15 I got diagnosed with autism so socializing has been difficult and caused me great fear. The only way to reduce anxiety long term is to put yourself in scenarios where you have to practice social skills. If you want, you can start small but something that helped me a lot was working service jobs because you have to interact people. The first weeks were hell but your future self will thank you.
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