Now I am not sure if the forum is divided in this topic or they are about to accuse me of peeking.
But 2 days ago I was searching something sane on YouTube. Came across a video where a female was showing MMA moves maybe she was a trainer.
She was choking a man and doing moves which are done in MMA. Comments were like someone was commenting about her @$$, some were saying either way he is winning and shit like that which was expected because I know how comments goes these days. She wore more than decent clothes might be something to do with her tight yoga pants but in no way it was anything sexual in that video.
But still I was like, should it be considered a peek when it’s related to a fight practice video?
I was also not thinking like that until I read comments. There might be dozens of videos related to sports and shit were women will wear shorts and shit, so just because the clothes are short it becomes something sexual?
Because I know myself well and I know my mental capability is there to see the talent and the work being done without giving a shit about what they are wearing. I am not an animal that the first sight of skin will provoke something in me. I have a much higher thinking capacity than that.
So, at what point it is peek? Does the first sight of skin actually a peek even when the video is not about anything sexual?
It’s not a peek because You said you were not thinking in that manner until you read comments.
Yes, sometimes the video makers intentionally present the female in provocative way to hook simps so that they keep coming back for more in that case you can certainly feel that kind of skin show vibes from the video so stay away from that but if you keep coming back to watch that type of videos then it’s certainly a peek. So if you intentionally search for that kind of materials it’s a peek and we all know that peeking always leads to relapsing.
I peeked too man, but I turn away. eventually it’s going to catch up to us. We have to be vigilant. It’s up to you to count relapse, but I don’t because I’m not engaging in it intentionally and turning away when my brain says stop. We need to not even peek even when our brain tells us it’s just a little.
Peeking is when you consciously choose to look at something that is either designed to arouse - the producer intentionally created the content to stimulate the viewers sexually - or something that you know would be arousing to you - it may be okay for someone else but you are going there with the wrong intentions; such as looking at a news broadcast to stare at a particular journalist who sparks sexual desire in you. It is news, a completely harmless video but the darkness is in you.
I definitely would not accuse you of peeking, you were genuinely interested in the MMA moves she was displaying. But if I watched the same video, it would be peeking, because I don’t watch MMA fights and I was only drawn in by the thumbnail of the attractive girl in yoga pants.
Stop letting those ideas get into your mind
This is how you gonna relapse sooner or later if you remain to think like that
Don’t give it too much attention
Or it will eat your thinking and get greater in size until it control your brain
Last time
You took the same path and it leaded you to relapse
Stop giving this trivial paranoia it’s feed ( your attention)
Or you gonna get tired every time you face a situation like this , believe me
I was the same like you
But it ended up consuming my energy
You are free to count it like a relapse or not
This is your streak
But
Imo, i consider myself relasped when i masturbate otherwise i consider it a win
Because, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
If i opened incognito and and i am ready to fap and opened the video and started the process, but suddenly i stopped it
This is me winning the fight, bro
This is ■■■■that couldn’t affect me enough to fap
Yes , it did made me peek but at the same time i got out from the fight as a winner
In fact , if i were to consider a day without a peek or urges and i passed it clear i would give myself a point
But if the day was full of urges to the extent that made me start the process of masturbating but i stopped it at the last moment i would give myself 2 points
Because this was the real fight there
And i got out winner no matter the costs or losses but i won
And this makes me get a buff effect
That i am stronger
But as i said
It’s everyone and his thoughts
That decide whether to consider it a relapse or not
What led to asking this question in the first place? The intention for looking at the MMA video was not unclean. But if a voice inside your mind is saying, “Perhaps you’ve peeked, your commitment has slipped, you may as well peek at something else if that’s the case…” now that’s a different situation.
The real fight for the vast majority of us here is pornography. Almost all of us have watched ■■■■and stopped ourselves before masturbating because we haven’t been addicted to masturbation. When we cut pornography out of our lives, the masturbation dies on its own.
It is tempting to think that we are winning when we stopped ourselves from completing the whole P->M->O cycle but this is a trick of our brains to keep us feeding the system with dopamine. As long as we are engaging with P, the brain is happy to keep us there, it doesn’t want the M or O as much. The urges we get are not to masturbate but to go and watch a video or look at an image and so on.
So true man. Dreams also traumatize us a little and then we start to think like, can we actually eliminate P from our memories?
But my new method is playing the percentage game because I know if I ain’t sitting idle, I will barely have these thoughts and even if I do, it will take 1-2 minutes before it is gone.
1-2 minutes out of 24 hrs is not too much of a fighting I guess.
Absolutely, I’m totally on board with that perspective. Cutting out pornography is key because it’s like the root of the whole thing, Once you break free from that, everything else falls into place. Our brains are wired to keep seeking that dopamine hit, so as long as we’re still hooked on P, it’s gonna keep pulling us back in. But once we ditch that, the urge to M or O fades away too. It’s all about rewiring our brains and breaking that cycle. So yeah, staying away from P is the real game-changer here.
Man i wish i had resisted that day,this misery is not ending on god!!
You are right the frequency matter,but i know my mind i’ll always tend to keep that, “yeah!!” “okay”! but "frequency matters"and will go on to masturbate,i am doing this to keep check on me.
