Internet porn flashbacks

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#1

Hello to you all, hope you have been all strong and keep being happy and enjoing life without porn its been 11 days for me now I think im strong but flashbacks are always there, i know you cannot block memories from internet porn but at lease put them aside and never go back, anybody have any good ideas, im drinking red wine at night helps me sleep better but not good mentally, not to get drunk but to relax and chill out after work.

Thank you in advance


#2

Hey reboot-rewire, I’m having sort of similar struggles - not porn flashbacks but strong sexual fantasies that come with my urges.
What helps me first and foremost is to be well-rested so the mental energy is there to handle the flashbacks. I don’t know about your sleeping habits but maybe you can improve them.
When the flashbacks strikes or I know I’m vulnerable to urges I usually turn my mobile phone off and try to distract myself somehow (sport, reading a book I like, taking a walk) - it’s important to activly plan this in advance though otherwise it doesn’t help.
Hope this helps!


#3

Hey Reboot-rewire, this is the most important part of the rewire. You dont just want to get through the urge. This is of course good to do and necessary but you want to replace the urge with the way you truly believe going forward. For example. Last night i watched a movie that had a love scene. In my head i repeat “i will not lust, i will not covet”. Over and over. It helps difuse the urge and bring me back to my core belief. Its been just about 4 months for me so far without PMO. Over time your brain starts adjusting and the urges become less. I dont ever think you will not have urges because we are men and men find women atractive. I think the key is building good healthy parameters. I hope this makes sense. By all means get through your urges in anyway you can but make sure on an ongoing basis you are correcting you thought patterns for the future.


#4

Thanks for your help keeping my brain busy has been helping.


#5

@reboot-rewire
That is normal part of process of recovering. It’s been a while since I had last porn flashback. Key thing is to forget flashback as fast is possible and DON’T surf on him. To beat addiction, you MUST defeat a brain (yourself).


#6

Hi Everyone. On my part I was able to stay away from porn for more than 90 days. Well now I’m back to day 0. The bad is that images in your mind never go away. I had some difficult days when I was watching porn inside my brain. You need a lot of strength and motivation to be able to switch off the images when they appear in your mind. I still don’t know if it’s never possible to erase all the bad things I watched. Eyes are doors to the mind. When images go in they remain. Maybe in time images become less strong but you need to be watchful and alert everyday :muscle:


#7

Thanks eveyone for your thoughts.
This is helping me when i get flashbacks, when a flashback come into my mind i stop and count to 8 then think about the best thing in my life for example relaxing on the beach in fiji or when my children were born etc, it has been helping me.

But think about the most happy time of your life and imagine you are there by counting to 8 i usually breath up though my nose 4 times then out 4 times through my mouth do this twice and it works out to be 8 seconds can be longer if needed.
You could think about the most amazing person that gives you happiness or something funny or a holiday that was unforgettable.
Hope that makes sense im looking at every avanue to follow to stop flashbacks i believe that flaskbacks are triggers and this is our worst enemy, i want to help others like everyone is helping me goodluck my friends and be strong.
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