I want to quit porn and need help

I am chronic porn user I have been using it as long as I remember my life. I tried to quit many many times but failed longest streak 34 days 4 years ago. It is affecting every aspect of my life. I want to quit but on every third or fourth day it’s either porn or jerking off and on next third or fourth day cycle goes on. It’s has been now 14 years of addiction and 4 years of failing to quit. It’s not the surrounding but it’s my mind images which led to relapse. please help me as I have tried everything. I need help

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I think that there is little they can help you with, if you have 14 years of addiction and 4 years you are trying to quit it and nothing works, then most likely you need to see a specialist, for example, a sexologist. all that can be useful here is to form healthy habits, that is, start reading books, drink the right amount of water a day, go in for sports, learn something every day. I can advise you to take a shower during the urge. I understand you, when I was just starting life without PMO, it was very difficult for me to restrain myself, I had a lot of relapses and it was very difficult to cope with them. good luck

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See if you are watching porn nd etc
Then I can tell you some apps which will ban porn from your mobile
Nd regarding urges
My advice is that your determination works the most. It’s your responsibility to control your body. Your mind must be stronger than your emotions.

Hacks can help you when you have urge like having cold shower, going on a walk , doing pushups till you get tired , holding breath till you feel urge to take breathe , talking to friends nd all
But these are some temporary hacks.
The main principle is that you have to be conscious when urge rises. You must have felt that when you have urge you go into autopilot mode and being unconscious you relapse. This occurs due to dopamine

So you have to be present with yourself at that moment. Consider fap as drug nd try to control it.
Further if you want the name of apps which can ban porn
Then msg me

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Hi!
You have to change your approach - completely change the way you’re trying to quit porn. Otherwise, you are stuck in a vicious cycle.
This is an addiction, not as severe as a drug addiction, but a pretty severe behavioural addiction nonetheless.
Therapists are very clear that willpower is not a good way to quit an addiction. We are not the masters in our own houses, we can’t force ourselves. Willpower method creates suffering, urges, feeling of deprivation and then, due to some distraction, tiredness, boredom, stress, frustration, etc. one cannot avoid relapsing…
I suggest a new twofold approach that is working for me: (1) belief therapy - which consists of reading the Easy Peasy Method to quit Porn and (2) learning how to use mindfulness in order to quit the addiction.
If you read the book and practice mindfulness (by mindfulness I don’t mean only spending 20 minutes or so meditating, but specially adopting a mindful attitude towards life on a daily basis), you will improve and eventually quit forever, no matter how addicted you are. By being mindful I mean observing, and thereby detaching from, the thoughts and sensations. Observe and accept the thought (even those excuse one often makes that start the process of a relapse) as your experience, as something that is not intrinsically bad, but that is an illusion, your mind, your dopamine addiction tricking you, then feel with neutral curiosity, even with a smile, the feelings in your body. This will interrupt the tension accumulation. This works better along with the belief therapy, because you will be at a place where you know your addiction, how illusory the pleasure really is, how you don’t need porn in your life to be happy and you observe the thoughts from a freedom point of view (i.e. it’s easier for u to detach from the thought). You’ll see that, by using these approaches correctly, you will not even suffer while quitting, it will even be fun.
If nothing works there are S.O.S approaches (1) using accountability software, like Covenant Eyes and NetNanny and (2) sex or behavioral addiction therapy, which is no shame.
But it is possible - the most important thing is to remain VERY SERIOUS about quitting!

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