I need to overcome an obsession

Hello everyone, I am obsessed with a girl but this is totally unrequited love story…I am not able to concentrate over my work…I always think about her.
Further, that girl is suffering from depression too and I want to help her and be with her but the thing is I can’t…she loves someone else.
But I love her …so what should I do

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You must show your attraction and care for her firstly,so that she can know you care for her.try to tell her that you care then rest will automatically occur I think

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I know the feeling of constantly thinking about someone out of love for them. I know you would want to help her and I am sorry this is gonna sound a bit cruel, but if she loves someone else, will it help her? If she is in a relationship, she needs suport from her partner most. Ofcourse you can tell her that you care for her and you would like to help her, but if she does not accept you, than this means you have to let her go. I know it is hard and painfull. You will remember her for years if you love her.
If you want to stop thinking about her, firstly distance yourself from her physicaly and stop messaging her as well. You need space, and if she consider you a friend, she should understand it. And then go meet new people, and start to care for them, so she would not be the only one you think about, and without seeing her, it will fade away with time. Don’t be sad, I am sure there is a girl out there that will care for you as much as you do if you look for her. :wink:

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Hey thanks, but she is also my good friend and I can’t keep distance from her…by distance means messaging and all.
She is like miles away from me…and we usually talk every day.
So if I even want to remove this obsession, by not talking, I can’t.
Still thanks for your word!!!

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Let’s see how this all will change and now, I have decided to just control myself, and just wait.
Thanks

Brother, if she is loving someone else focus on your life. Don’t waste time chasing her. Don’t feel sad when I say this, but this is the truth : “There is plenty of fish in the sea”. If you are addicted to porn get out of it. Work on your self. Go to gym. Become successful in your field. At the end she will see this and will come back to you. Unleash the inner beast. Bring out the greatness within you.

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What you have to do with my age bro?

Hey brother thanks for your suggestion, no I am not addicted to porn and I do gym too :sweat_smile:.

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Hi, I’m a girl.
Tell her. It’s gonna be complicated, but at least you will know.

And @Feenax is right, you have to reduce communication if you want to stop thinking about her.

Good luck

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Hey bro, sorry if I sound rude.
Thanks for your concern. I am 23 years old btw.

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Hey thanks,
I’ll try my best!
Thanks for your suggestion.

Sad but true but I think alot of guys have a story similar where we loved a female friend…but she just doesn’t feel the same and we waste alot of time and energy on this female… I did it too for 3 yrs!! 3 effin yrs. I would take her out to eat. . Movies… drinks… I told her I liked her. But she starts seeing someone and literally stops talking to me completely. Like everyone says not to be harsh but move on. You will only realize you have wasted time

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Powerful post mate. Thanks for sharing

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Hey man, thanks for the suggestion.This is really motivating.

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Powerful post @strongwillpower
It brought up loads of memories, and I started writing a long post,… but I want to get straight to one point, when God is brought into these matters, things change for the better.
Thanks be to God :pray:

When you Love it is a verb - not a noun
If there’s anything worthy striving for, it is loving like God.

Love God above all things,
And allow him to do the rest. Amen

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