I need help in nofap. I’m failing everyday

I’m crying everyday when I relapse because of low energy. But I’m not pushing through it and not doing nofap. I don’t what I want. I don’t if I want nofap, but I don’t want depression. Or maybe I want it. Maybe crying is not bad. I don’t really understand what I should want. I just live like this everyday. I’m ok with it. Sometimes it feels not ok tough. Sometimes I feel I need a girlfriend, but then I understand that I don’t. …

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Yeah l know the feeling. It’s like a tug of war in your mind where one side is like l crave for release that pleasure but on another it’s like don’t do it and stuff.
Stay strong, keep busy and fight the urges as it will be worth it in the end. People say that they are more benefits when we continue the journey towards PMO free addiction and that’s what l believe and strive towards. Hope that can be you as well. If you need someone to talk to I’m always here - Sharing Code: ixngs2

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Dude firstly you don’t need porn to satisfy your urges
You are much higher than this shit
You have got great things awaiting you
You are fabulous every new day
And most of all you are a non user the moment you closed your browser of porn
Don’t stress yourself
Get out of your room and chat play be with real friends not with these two dimensional images

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Listen to @striving - good advice there.

This journey doesn’t have to be pain and misery, Vardan. Read easypeasymethod.org.

It’s a different approach to quitting PMO. It doesn’t involve any willpower or discipline. It works by removing your desire to PMO by the time you’ve finished reading the book.

When the desire is gone, you don’t even want to do it anymore. You don’t find it pleasurable or enjoyable, and it’s much easier to quit. Instead of the usual method where we want to do it, but we’re fighting against ourselves with cold showers and pushups and discipline.

This method really works, it’s being shared all over the community. Once you understand the lessons in the book fully, you are free. This is the easiest journey I’ve every had in many years of trying to quit. I want you to have that joy and freedom too. Life doesn’t have to be so painful. It’s okay to cry, but save your tears for things that are genuinely important. It is well within your control to beat this addiction permanently.

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Bro can you explain why not all people able to get benefit from this book, including me. I have read almost 2 times. Also there are many still in this community who is struggling with it even after reading the book. I am doing fine currently but not sure because of the book.

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@raushan Many people, including myself, did not follow the instructions given in the book, and so that’s why we relapsed. The book tells us that we won’t succeed if we don’t follow the instructions. I was stubborn, I had to read it 5 times myself before the lessons finally stuck.

Let me ask you, did you justify peeking to yourself? Did you say things like, “Just this time won’t hurt,” or “This is okay, it’s not as bad as what I used to look at.” Or did you still see it as a struggle and something that you’re giving up?

You’ll know that you followed the instruction when you feel happy and excited not to be doing PMO anymore, regardless of your streak. You get this feeling that the mind finally agrees with you that PMO is worthless garbage, and you don’t want it anymore.

Tell me about your experience.

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@Forerunner i am not addicted to porn so some of the chapters i couldn’t relate. But I am addicted of masturbation which i do using the past girl i had in my life or sometimes the friends i have currently.

But yeah i haven’t got that happy feeling you are talking about. I guess i have forgotten many of the things i read there. There is not much written there about fantasy or may be i have missed something there.

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@raushan I see. The same techniques in the book work for masturbation too, but you will have to tailor it for yourself. The book is designed to help quit pornography addiction. It speaks very little about fantasy or masturbation alone.

Still, the truth is just the same. You are gaining nothing from masturbation, your life is 100x better without it, and as long as you don’t decide to fantasise or give into thoughts of masturbation, you can be free. And the idea is to REJOICE that you don’t have to follow that old addicted lifestyle anymore. It is the happiness part that is essential to this method.

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@Forerunner Okay. I get it. I have seen your youtube channel. And it seems you are doing very well in NoFap. So I should take your advice. Currently I have exams going on but I will read that book 2 and 3 times again.

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@Vardan51878 I hope you’re doing okay. We’ve all been there, we know the pain that PMO causes. It doesn’t have to be that way anymore!

I’ve recorded a video sharing my experiences with the EasyPeasy book. If people haven’t read it yet, I hope this video will encourage you to do so!

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