I need help, I can't stop fapping! 😭

I feel trapped in this vicious circle of fap, I can’t get out even with good intentions, even resetting the counter every time I fall, I feel bad if I don’t do it, because I’m in love with a woman much older than me, madly in love in a long distance relationship.
She gives me little attention, she doesn’t make me feel loved by her, the little attention makes me fear that she is cheating on me and the anxiety is so great that I can’t not fap to unload it.
I’ve been in free fall for months and I always reset the counter but that doesn’t work.
I need help. Being in love comes with more stress than normal and I need an alternative to relieve anxiety without fap.
She brings me extreme sexual arousal, like she has never brought me any and I’ve been thinking about her for days with every fap to be able to ease the psychological pain. I also suffer from OCD.
With a normal woman in maximum 2 faps you lose the desire to think about her and think of someone else in your mental catalogue, instead of fapping thinking about her I never get tired and the more I do it and hours later the more I desire her. HELP ME! :sob:

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Only you can help yourself, be focus and stay healthy

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Brother you’re simply stressing yourself, this is something that you’ll decidevto stop on your own…do you have a good reason to stop it, if you do then focus on that reason, you’re killing yourself while she’s out there having a good life and you’re here fapping to her, think man…this shit has made us silly for so long…if you’re stressed find an alternative stress reliever, watch a movie or do something or rather just replace it with real sex with a woman…think

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When one is in love, even sex with another doesn’t work.
As for finding some other outlet valve, I have to put some effort into it.

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You’re not even sure if she loves you back, i am not discouraging you but this shit really makes us do crazy things…just hook-up or do something else when you feel like fapping… fapping to someone who you’re not sure is in love with you sounds weird…that’s what this addiction does to us…it makes us crazy

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I literally fapped anywhere, i even fapped outside while watching porn outside…i mean outside my street at night…i was lucky there was no passer by… escape this addiction while it gets worse…

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Red flag

Bigger Red flag

Biggest red flag

Dude, I’m gonna tell you in all honesty and from my years of experience. Long distance relationship is a scam. There I said it. Before you solve your fapping issue, you need to cut ties with her and find someone you can actually meet and talk to in real life. And if she gives you so much stress it’s not worth it in the first place, long distance or not. You are saying fapping is the problem. I say it’s a symptom not the cause. The cause is the woman. Get away from that and then the symptom should fade in time

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This is a pretty useful message.
Falling in love is an ugly beast when you have to fight against it, but I’ll try.
As you suggested I will try not to write to her until she does and in the meantime I live life as I see fit, even knowing someone else if that happens.
Meanwhile I focus on what’s important in my life, my job, home, car, family, friendships and above all what can change it for the better: nofap without edging.

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Not necessarily bro
It takes more efforts but there are many that have succeeded

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Few. Very few. Long distance relationships are a losing game from the beginning itself. If you were once together but then had to move for work or education or whatever, then it’s a different case. You’ll have something to work on. It’s still not good if it’s a permanent thing. But if you start off as a long distance relationship, then it’s a losing game for sure. A person who you talk with online has no chance against a person who you can meet and talk to and be intimate with… The odds are against the online boyfriend

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I completely agreee with what u said …

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