I haven’t masturbated for 5 days, I have really strong urges, how can I overcome them. I absolutely don’t want to masturbate… Help me please!
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If you want to avoid adult content you should try porn and app blockers.
If you have urges to masturbation you should go for a walk or do push-ups. Or you should meditate (if you have urges you can meditate with this app - it is a function)
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After using rewire companion leave the phone for a while and do some cardio or grab pen and paper write your thoughts or write a verse or grab a pencil and draw ghost rider jumping off the bridge or a scenerie or do sit ups or bicycle crunches or go outside get some fresh air and view of nature or talk to your friends
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If we tell you what to do,and how to avoid it, will you stick to the advice?
Hi,
I tried quitting my daily habit of masturbation many times, but everytime the urges would be so powerful that I wouldn’t be able to control myself.
I tried many experiments but this one worked!
The Causes:
Try and analyse what triggers masturbation for you. For me it was :-
- Being alone at home, believe me or not - Instagram (because of all the hot chicks i followed), Facebook even! (Im not including Porn here because I’m talking about triggers, if You are surfing porn, you have already being triggered!)
- Lack of motivation : Same dull work, no excitement in life, same old tv series, same old habits… everything was so dull that mastubation provided the daily shot of dopamine my brain so badly wanted.
- Low self Esteem : I wanted to get fit, run longer, cycle faster but due to this terrible habit of fapping every day my body was devoid of energy, nutrients. My immune system was down the drain… cold & cough were regular. Result of it all… Low Self Esteem (feeling good for nothing)
- Not being around actual females : this may seem whack, but masturbation takes you away from natural females around you and makes you want the photoshopped Curvy babes on your screen. My addiction broke my confidence in dealing with real females in real life.
- No Goals : Having no goals in life is equivalent to living life on auto pilot, You cant expect to change your life if you are not living it consciously!
Now the above analysis has being made over a long period of time, it is not easy to convince your brain that you are addicted to porn and masturbation, let alone tryng to figure out the root causes of it… So what did I do to get rid of it all? here it is…
IT WORKED!!
Setting the foundation for it : This may seem weird but I analyzed that whenever I masturbated 3–4 times in 12–16 hours (without sleep), I would develop a cold, feel weak as hell, want to continue sleeping, my stomach would be upset, feeling irritatable etc. So I would get through the day feeling like crap and finally get a good nights sleep!
But on the next day, due to my marathon masturbation session, I would not feel like masturbating again, maybe my body was just not up for it and my mind was still reeling under the shock of dopamine it got the previous day. My mind would be calmer, clearer and I could focus on other things!!
Then I went through my analysis and started keeping a firm watch on my triggers. because, without the triggers I could easily pass the day or even days without masturbation. (There have being days where I haven’t masturbated because I was to busy with something or just having a great time). So I checked on my triggers of :-
- Being alone at home : I started running and cycling in the morning to tire out my muscles and at the same time provide my brain with the dopamine it needed in the morning. I downloaded Runkeeper / Strava so that i could record my running and cycling stats and try and improve on them. What also helped was sharing it with my friends and getting their appreciation, which made me happier and content that I was improving. I tried to go home as late as possible to allow myself little time to lapse, I would go window shopping, call up friends and meet them, eat outside everything to keep me from getting cosy at home.
- Lack of Motivation : I uninstalled Facebook and Instagram and even thought of shifting to a black and white nokia phone for a while . My motto was :- Less of Smartphones = Less Triggers. Less Internet = Less triggers. There is an app/website called Meetup - where in I joined random meetups just to keep myself occupied. It actually was fun to meet new people and join in activities that I liked! It motivated me to improve my skills in the activities and work on my social presentation.
- Low Self Esteem : Due to my almost regular running / cycling I managed to get my body in average shape, but even that much was good enough for me. As now atleast I had the energy to do things and not feel like a soulless zombie! I looked myself in the mirror and liked what I saw, I wasn’t ripped nor did I grow big Muscles but I looked fit and athletic and I didnt want to lose it (gave me another real reason to stop fapping). I started eating fruits, nuts and other nutritious things that helped my body becoming stronger still. I joined MMA nearby to learn how to fight and improve my body co-ordination.
- Not being around actual females : Believe me, reality is totally different to the world we see on our screens, real women look quite different from the ones we see in porn. Their bodies are not that perfect either, but the feeling of real female attention, the feeling of flirting with someone can never be replaced by plain simple masturbation. Having joined various meetups and having a fit body gave me the confidence and opportunity to meet new females. Once You start becoming closer to some of them You will want to become even more stronger, more skilled, more sexier to get their appreciation and outdo the other guys. (Keep the competition healthy no one wants a bragging idiot with them) Think of the females as butterflies and yourself as an exotic flower. Your fragrance shall attract them automatically to you!
- No Goals : Its very difficult to keep long term goals when you cant even stop yourself from playing with yourself every morning… I started off with small goals like : Reading Books - I joined a book library and paid a certain amount as monthly fees, the plan allowed me to borrow as many book as i wanted but one at a time, so i challenged myself to read as many books as possible during the month. I targeted running 5kms at a stretch, then 7km, then 9km and finally 10km! Making sure I recorded all my runs in the apps so i could push myself to improve and achieve my target. I started learning about the stock market, wanting to invest my salary and savings and make them grow. I started dreaming about owning a Cruise motorcycle one day (And i wanted that day to be as soon as possible)
All of the above was a plan but I was able to execute it only because I of my marathon masturbation session which cleared my head of any urges for 2–3 days. During which I got a headstart on my goals and never looked back. Its not like I dont masturbate anymore but having abstained from it for long periods of time makes me realize that its not really worth it in the end and I have many better much better things to do in life than fall into that pit again.
Basically to sum it up in one line :
“I got rid of my addiction by keeping myself occupied with better things!”
I really hope to see You and everyone else out of this pit and into a brighter, more happier life.
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If it’s important enough for you, you will find a way.
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