I’ve really tried and tried but everytime I just can’t control myself and do it again I really want to stop for my health and the health of my relationship
I hate it too. I really hate.
But you can do it. Just keep trying, everyday do something different, and add new strategies once in a while.
Eventually you will succeed, in a way you can’t imagine.
Maybe the key for us is to hate less. Be more patient. That’s very hard, I know.
But you can do it.
I think the same thing happens to me. When the temptation to masturbate comes to me, there is nothing that stops me, except a couple of things: Go out where there are people or if it is very late at night, convince myself that I am sleepy (even if I am not) and go to sleep.
by the way, welcome to the forum!
Don’t fight masturbation, it’s a losing battle because you can’t change the laws of physiology and the laws of your body.
It’s like drinking water and trying to fight back the urge to urinate, and that wouldn’t be a smart idea.
If you read books and do your own research on willpower, you’ll read about studies that show that trying to resist only drains your glucose and willpower and then leaves you unwilling.
Willpower is limited, and you do not have infinite periods of it, except that you have the ability to self-control.
If you learn more about exercise, you will pass on the phrase “train smarter, not harder.”
Professional athletes are very careful about how they use their energies because they want to get the maximum amount of progress without any excessive or compromising or direct their time and energies to training and acquiring good habits to get the best results.
If you fight masturbation you will burn your wastage of time and energy, and you have nothing to do to make it happen.
Instead, use your energy to install new habits in your life to build willpower such as sleeping early, exercising, eating enough calories, following a plant-based diet, drinking enough water daily, writing a diary, thinking positively, and extending rewarding relationships.
When you fight masturbation, it will definitely take your attention and anything that catches your attention will have power over you.
The best use of your energy is to be in good health, following the previous instructions, and not to try to resist disease.
For example, fruits and roots, do not waste your time picking bad fruits (masturbation is like bad fruits) because they have no end. Be smart and follow the fruits to their roots and then cut the roots and they are (the bad habit that produces bad fruits).
Note: I mean that you don’t focus on fighting masturbation and don’t waste your energy on thinking about time or fighting masturbation by saying, for example, I must stop, I must stop without real action to strengthen your will and actual change of your life from prayer, enough sleep, and enough healthy eating Drink plenty of water, exercise, think positive, write your diary, acquire new good healthy habits, and practice a hobby that you love.
Like the one who wants to lose weight when he says to himself, “I want to lose weight,” then puts his attention on words rather than actions.
What will happen?
He will remain following the diet instructions for two weeks, for example, then he will be lazy and lose his goal.
But if he makes his goal to say: “I will not eat the chocolate that I love, I will eat vegetables instead,” and makes his focus on implementing that for a while, and then he gets used to that to move to change another behavior from the wrong behaviors, such as leaving idleness and laziness and starting to exercise, and so on, it is inevitably He will advance and will not lose the goal and will not lose his energy and will.
We must measure our progress on the road to recovery by what we have done, what we have gained, and what we have implemented in this recovery plan. This is the real success.
But if we focus our attention and spend the day, for example, without porn or a secret habit, this is not real progress in reality.
Because you simply did not do anything to strengthen your will and change your life with it for the better by acquiring new healthy habits rich in new pathways in the brain that forget the brain pathways associated with pornography and masturbation.
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