Hi,
I am 43 yrs old. 40 days no FAP. My dick feels completely dead and numb. No sexual arousal whatsoever. I have had issues since my early 20s with ■■■■ and masturbation. Is it possible for me to recover?
I am going crazy. I would do anything to feel aroused. I am convinced i am broken and it is never going to get better.
I cant remember the last time i had a spontaneous erection or found someone attractive.
Yes, you still have a chance to recover, sir. Everyone has a second chance in life. As long as you want to , you will improve your life. The only thing that separates you from others is your experience. Use it to your advantage.
Reflect on your past mistakes and try to track your progress .
“Life can only be understood backwards but must live forwards.” - Soren Kierkegard
"Life is like a bicycle. In order to keep your balance, you must keep moving forward. " - Albert Einstein
SUCCESS IS NOT FINAL; FAILURE IS NOT FATAL: IT IS THE COURAGE TO CONTINUE THAT COUNTS.
WINSTON S. CHURCHILL
nevertheless, keep pushing forward towards your dream.
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. - Walnes 
It’s important to reassure you that recovery is absolutely possible, even after many years of addiction. What you’re experiencing could be the “flatline” phase, where libido drops, and you feel no arousal or spontaneous erections. This is a normal part of recovery, and though it can last for weeks or even months, it’s a sign that your brain and body are healing. Staying consistent with your no-fap journey is crucial during this time, as your brain is resetting its dopamine levels and sensitivity. To support your recovery, it would be helpful to adopt healthy habits like regular exercise, particularly running and resistance training, which can improve blood flow and overall physical health. You should also include Kegel exercises in your routine, as they can strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which are crucial for improving erectile function and sexual health.
Additionally, focus on a diet rich in protein and calcium to support muscle repair and bone health. Foods like eggs, lean meats, dairy products, and leafy greens can help your body regain strength and vitality. If the lack of arousal or spontaneous erections is causing distress, seeking guidance from a therapist who specializes in sexual health or addiction recovery can provide tailored support. Lastly, stay away from triggers that could lead to relapse and focus on building a healthy, balanced lifestyle. Recovery takes time, but with persistence, things will improve.
It’s important to understand that your symptoms are not unusual and can be explained scientifically. The brain’s reward system, particularly the dopamine pathways, are heavily influenced by excessive pornography use and masturbation. Over time, this can lead to a condition known as “■■■■-induced erectile dysfunction” (PIED) or reduced libido, where the brain becomes desensitized to normal sexual stimuli, causing a lack of arousal and spontaneous erections.
Here’s a scientifically backed approach to recovery:
Neuroplasticity and Rewiring: Your brain is incredibly adaptable through neuroplasticity, meaning it can “rewire” itself with consistent behavior changes. Quitting pornography allows the brain to reset its dopamine sensitivity, but this process can take time, which is why you may be experiencing a “flatline” period. This phase is temporary, and as your brain heals, sexual arousal and natural erections will gradually return.
Exercise and Circulation: Physical activities like running and resistance training are proven to increase testosterone levels, boost mood, and improve blood flow, all of which are vital for sexual health. Aerobic exercises, in particular, improve cardiovascular health and enhance nitric oxide production, which supports better erections by improving blood vessel function.
Kegel Exercises: Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which play a direct role in erectile function. Research shows that strengthening these muscles can help treat erectile dysfunction (ED) by improving blood flow and maintaining erections during sexual activity.
Diet and Nutrition: A diet rich in protein and calcium supports muscle growth, repair, and overall health, all of which are necessary during the recovery process. Protein helps build lean muscle, while calcium strengthens bones. Including foods like lean meats, fish, eggs, nuts, and dairy in your diet can provide the nutrients your body needs to function optimally. Additionally, certain micronutrients like zinc (found in foods like pumpkin seeds and shellfish) and magnesium (found in dark leafy greens and whole grains) are known to support testosterone production and overall sexual health.
Sleep and Stress Management: Adequate sleep is critical, as sleep deprivation can reduce testosterone levels and impair sexual function. Managing stress through mindfulness, meditation, or relaxation techniques can reduce cortisol (a stress hormone), which can negatively affect sexual performance.
Consult a Professional: If the issue persists, consider consulting a healthcare professional, such as a urologist or a psychologist specializing in sexual health. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and other therapeutic interventions have shown success in treating issues like PIED and anxiety around sexual performance.
This scientific approach addresses both the physical and psychological aspects of your condition. With patience and persistence, your body and brain can recover fully.
Bro tnx I also learned alot from you 
your the best 
Quote guy I also learned how to give motivation from you are the best 
Thank you all. I lterally feel broken like there is no escape from this. I just do not feel i can get aroused at all by a real person.
You will get over it , try L-arginine supplement, balanced diet consisting protein, zinc , magnesium and vitamins . Take sunlight and do Ashwini mudra (you will find it on YouTube in english) do it whenever you can and also try kalarisutram, these two are the best kegel exercises and do workouts regularly and never miss leg days. Take care sir and keep going 40 days streak , soon you will hit half century 
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