okay so I’m 16 and I have been watching … since 2 years. It isn’t like a continuous thing but sometimes when I have a long day I just help myself. I’m confused whether it’s an addiction or not because when I’m at my grandparents house for a month,I do not have urges. Now my bran has linked stress with pleasure and every exam time I end up wasting time due to this.
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Welcome 
If you have an addiction, you definitely know that you do. You can tell whether you have an addiction if there’s a voice in your head telling you, “This isn’t good for me; it’s causing me problems such as X, Y, and Z; I need to stop it.” If you’ve heard that voice anytime in the last two years yet haven’t been able to stop, it’s an addiction. For example, you mention it being a problem regarding exam time. If you find it difficult to handle the natural stresses of exam season without resorting to pornography and masturbation, even with the desire to stop doing so, it’s an addiction.
There are various reasons why you wouldn’t get urges at your grandparents’ house: respect for their home, fear of getting caught in such a situation, and a loving family environment that makes you forget about pornography for a while. Sometimes, our body is aware that urges would be pointless in scenarios like this, so it doesn’t bother to send us any.
Thankfully, you’re young and gaining awareness now that this could be a problem. By the time you’re 18, this could be a distant memory. Pornography adds no benefit to our lives and we lose absolutely nothing by quitting it permanently. The pleasure we express is like the high of a drug addict, but it isn’t true pleasure. Real pleasure doesn’t leave us feeling empty or regretful afterwards. We don’t have to question whether enjoying a good meal, a happy time with our loved ones or listening to our favourite music is a bad thing. Those activities offer real pleasure with no side effects.
This is a very supportive community, we are here for you if you have any questions. You can beat this for good and enjoy the rest of your life.
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Choose the blue pill, you accept it’s not that harmful , do it occasionally and forget about it.
Choose the red pill and this community will show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.
What are you choosing?
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Quit it for a brief amount of time. If the situation is like you want to quit it but you are not able to, then it is an addiction.
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omg thank you so much, it means alot.
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the red pill.
but yeah for a long time I justified it by saying it’s okay to release you stress sometimes but it just feels worse now
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I suggest finding more healthy outlets for stress like going for a walk, video games, maybe watching a movie, or just finding a hobby. It’s ok to want to escape sometimes but make sure it’s something that will recharge you and not be destructive.
Hey let me tell a mind hack, if you consider you an addicted then you are. So don’t. Say that you are not.(you will fewl a different energy).Get the term out from your head. Cause if you do consider, you will blame your addiction for anything you will do. Instead, whatever you do, i know you feel bad when you are done, take the "responsibility " of the action you did.
Say that yes I did it myself and I know it is bad. But I did it to have some pleasure And I Can Stop Whenever I Want. Don’t feel soo guilty afterwards. And most IMPORTANTLY dont COUNT your days. Ever.Trust me. Weather you use this app or not. Just don’t. Live your life as normal. Don’t let this interfere in other parts of your life. Don’t try to just make it vanish. Cuse it won’t. Rather it will return again and again. Firstly try to lessen the frequency of it. Do it gradually. Little by little. Then it will be permanent and long lasting.Rather if you suddenly just fast for20, 30, 40… Days. You will end up being so hungry…
These things worked for me. Wish for the best.
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This simply means it’s not the right way to feel relieved.
Have you ever felt bad talking to friends, playing some sports or listening good music, watching your favourite shows as a means to relieve stress?
If it was actually beneficial in the long run, it would have never had consequences as harsh as feeling guilt, feeling tired, self doubts and all.
This community has shown me a lot of truth, and with time you will also see a lot of them yourself.
So, treating you as my younger sister, I want you to get rid of this. It won’t be easy but it is worth putting all the efforts for.
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Even if it is not an addiction, if its messes with your regular life and you end up thinking about it as a disturbing issue, then it is a problem. Be it on a psychological or physical level, if it’s bugging you, it has to be looked into.
hi taraa, no you are not addicated. Natural urges are not a reason to worry. Plus at this age your body is undergoing hormonal changes so sometimes you will feel extreme urge for it, but it’s not addiction. Don’t worry about it and take it as it goes. Yes if you feel the urge daily or some fetishes daily makes you do it then you have to think about it…
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