Please share your experiences.
For me I had lots of shame/anxiety after pmo’ing which in turn made me isolate myself more. That in turn made me think more. I’m a think machine now when I used to be a lot more social.
Porn > shame > anxiety > isolate > overthink
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sometimes overthinking gives anxiety which leads to pmo …
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I’m a big overthinker honestly, especially in social situations. After I talk to people, ill rethink the scenario over and over again, trying to perfect it for next time I assume. Or I’ll overthink my assignments, taking much longer than my peers, just rereading questions. Or I’ll overthink what I want to do on my free-time and end up not doing any of it.
I think its mainly because I’m a perfectionist. And people say that they are all the time, but I really am, and it bothers me sometimes. But other times I find it helpful.
I think PMO exaggerates my symptoms tho significantly. When I am in the throes of addiction, my anxiety spikes because my perfectionistic tendencies heighten (probably due to the fact that I keep failing something that I don’t want to fail at) which feeds into more PMO which feeds into more overthinking. And it gets worse.
However when I abstain from PMO for good amounts of time, I am able to harness that personality trait of mine to actually create really quality work and other things. I am able to control it and it is a good thing in my life. Its part of my personal work ethic.
PMO brings out the worst, it rots even the good things and turns them bad.
@staybusymymotto I’m curious tho, what was your interest in asking this question? Do you also overthink things? I’m interested in hearing your experience on it!
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Exactly. I’m also kind of perfectionist. And whatever you’ve described, I can relate with it. From what I’ve observed, PMO and overthinking is directly connected. More we PMO, more will our mind go berserk and will start overthinking. Overthinking is mind’s way of telling us that we aren’t at peace. To escape this overthinking we again do PMO. Its vicious cycle. One leads to other. I’m now 17 days MO free. Just have to stop watching porn now.
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It is indeed a vicious cycle. It provides no peace whatsoever, a strange hell where the body may be rested but the soul and mind are in an endless labor and pain.
Good for you on your streak tho, I wish you the best of luck going forward!
If you want to add me as a companion, my sharing code is a06153
Additionally, it would be cool to see you on the “Check In” Daily Diary challenge. I have found it amazingly helpful for me in keeping clean, especially for overthinkers like us because you can write it all out and it helps relieve a lot of the overthinking. I find that once I put thoughts out there, they lose their power over me and dissipate. I realize they are actually not a big deal.
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Alright I’ll start writing from today itself. Sending you a companion request.
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good work , all the best …
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From an energetic standpoint, MO leads to a heavy contraction of the energy in order to create the substance that inherents life, and so contracts the whole psychomental “body”. This leads to a mental densification of inherent Charakter traits.
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I feel the same as you. I feel bad about myself for not being able to sell this section
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Hey @Araceli !
I see this is your first post, so I just want to welcome you to the forums! They have been a great help for me and hopefully they will be for you too.
If I am catching you correctly, I know the feelings of self-loathing over my overthinking and perfectionism well.
It is a hard to escape those feelings. However, I have found that staying in them is the worst thing you can do for yourself. It only makes the overthinking and perfectionistic tendencies worse.
Instead, realizing your potential as a perfectionist or even an overthinker is important. Those can be really good qualities, they mean you’re a deep-thinker and want things to be done correctly. When I discovered this myself, and saw that I was in control of my feelings towards this, I was able to turn those feelings around and harness my qualities.
This was really a very recent change for me, but it’s been amazing. I think the change really came when I accepted who I am, realized my potential, let go of the things I couldn’t control, and of course, abstained from PMO for a good length of time.
What has been your experience with these things? Do you find yourself also doing the same things as me when you are relapsing frequently?
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welcome bro @Araceli
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This is a the first time I’ve seen over-thinking linked to PMO. I am more than willing to believe they are linked. The anxiety and instability that PMO causes removes a solid feeling that supports you being your best self. I’m on day 11 now, and I have less attention to minor details, less irritation, and a decrease in needless thinking and worry.
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This is a brilliant cause-effect insight! Thank you.
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Thank you for your comments, that’s right, I do the same in a relapse, I’ve been avoiding guilt, I think I should act more
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