Thanks man that really gave me relief was really worried 
But one thing I was sure about it can be cured by doing NOFAP full celibacy mode like Swami Vivekanand said I canāt recall clearly one thought of a naked women can ruin ur creativity or productivity a lot ! 
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but still , have to stop pmoā¦
this solution can solve more problems than we thinkā¦ 
thats what happened to my friend ā¦because he was at his girlfriends house ā¦ and wad scared that her mom would come home anytimeā¦ so no erectionā¦
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Hi bro,
Here is some things to say but yet again since l too am here l too fail and an imperfect human being yet still l hope my words have some meaning
OK so if you drank alcohol and it caused you to lose your girlfriend and job and family what would you do in this situation. Hopefully you would give up. Now you gave alcohol up so the BIG QUESTION
WHY WOULD YOU DRINK THE THING THAT DESTROYED YOU? i put in caps not to yell but emphasis.
Same thing with porn. You need to have the right mindset. You give it up to be better. You can check to see how much you improved yet DO NOT check the very thing that you are trying to quit.
There are ways to see improvement but l donāt want to make this message any more long
OK so for this one this is what l think has happened.
The male biology in very basic format is to get a girl and plant that seed. Thatās the drive in us men. Think of porn like Hollywood. Now sure it seems real and yes it might be BUT there are so many cgi, edits and unrealistic scenes.
So what am l getting at. Well porn and in real life at its CORE is the same.
So your feelings and desire is normal HOWEVER what porn does is it makes this perfect delusion just like seeing the movies that you think l wish reality can do this.
Basically it comes down to dopamine and other stuff in your brain.
A healthy brain will find a girl, settle down, married and sex and all and live happy ever after.
Porn brain is like seeing a movie like why do l have to wake up to reality when l can watch ldk SUPERMAN and pretend l am the hero saving the day. Your brain is like that. It doesnāt know right and wrong just what feels good hence why youāre sensitive to porn and less into in real life.
Iām sorry if l confused anyone as Iām a bad teacher.
@rewire_user there is always hope tho. The brain is a powerful thing that just like learning something you can unlearn it. Porn and reality is the same in terms of capturing desire as desire is normal but porn tricks us in unatural ways and so the solutions is to abstain. When you abstain your feel good hormones will like reset and your erection will get stronger. If not go to a doctor as you might have low blood pressure or something else. This takes time so be patient and self control
Donāt beat yourself up please as l like to repeat what you are going through is normal itās just that with porn it uses whatās normal and twists it into a perfect delusional world for you. The mind = quality erection. You fix the mind you fix the hardness
All the best and Goodluck and sorry once again for my long and boring and hard message
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Am I your that friend (I was in the same situation)
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I guess I am late here . Everyone covered the things that I was about to say
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Late or not support is support so spread the love around everyone
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Man that was some great advice
Your explanation was awesome bro !
You have up skilled yourself a lot brother I can see !
Thanks a lot for this amazing post bro really helped a lot !
Stay Strong and Letās Fight this Addiction together !
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Iām always there and l recommend that you get a person you trust to actually have a voice chat or video chat as that makes it less anonymous and more vulnerable meaning more freer. Open up and talk not just text about sexual problems. Sexual venting or something like that. Give it a go
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You can always add some values or spice to the conversation bro !
There is always room for more knowledge
But Sincere Thanks to each and everyone 
9 Problems One solution :- NOFAP 
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Where is my manners. Thanks and your welcome and anytime you need help dm me
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This is a clear case of porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED). Plain and simple. The fact that you were able to become erect after recalling previous pornographic images is the proof.
You are not fully rewired. You did a great deal of damage in the past, like many of us have, and it will take a longer time away from PMO in order to heal from the damage. Greater damage means a longer time to heal, it could be a year or two years or even three years clean in extreme cases.
Keep staying strong brother, PIED is curable and reversible. It just takes time.
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Thanks brother ! That gives a relief I just have to keep doing good things and start building good habits
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Ok Iām here @rewire_user
A bit too late, i know, been caught up with work.
Letās break it down!
Step 1: Donāt let the girl know you have a limp dick!
I donāt know how far you guys went beyond kissing but Iām assuming neither of you hit third base. Letās keep it like that for now. Coz once she knows your Johnny doesnāt wake up, then anything could happen. Iām not saying sheād go ahead and dump you but hey, womenā¦ we can never tell. So priority is to keep her hands above the waist. You do have the freedom to go to third base with her but then she would want to do it as well and then youāll have a problem. Better keep it second base till further notice. Say some lame excuse like " itās too fast for that now" or " letās take it slow" or " Iām not comfortable with that yet". Does it make you sound like a bitch? Yes it does, but what other choice do you have?
The fact that i kept this as my step 1 may surprise you all, but if he doesnāt have a chick to come back to, then whatās the point anyway? Thatās his legit motivation 
Ok step 2: Actually abstain from PMO. LIKE ACTUALLY. ALL CAPS, DEAD ASS.
Your situation is something that i faced multiple times in my life. So i know itās fixable with abstinence. Iām not saying youāll have to go complete monk mode for 90+ days to fix it.( Its good if you can, but then you are at risk of the chick loosing interest in you)
What i suggest is you go classic nofap mode. No porn. No masturbation. But you are at liberty to do whatever you do with the chick till second base. But, you can reduce the frequency of this interaction. I donāt know how often you guys fuck off like this but whatever itay be, reduce it a little. Compensate it with actual dating and conversations. Make up excuses for not doing it more often if she asks.
The idea is for you to get dopamine from real life interactions and not porn. Forget whether you your Johnny doesnāt wake up or not. Youāre not gonna use it. Focus on the chick and everything you do. Take it slow.
I used to to what you did with my girlfriends. Used to rewind porn in my head to get little Rocky into big Rocky. That was before i found nofap. After nofap i didnāt get any bitches for a very long time so didnāt need to use it, so i kinda healed, i donāt know to what extent. But it works. Recently a similar situation happened and i did something similar but not exactly. I was going full on with a chick and big Rocky went back to little Rocky and stopped responding. I started picturing my ex girlfriend and it worked.
Why i told you this story is to show how your brain adapts to things you expose it to frequently. It can be porn or it can be a girl. So reducing that exposure can go a long way. When you stop supplying your brain with the usual levels of dopamine you give it, it will react to even minor stimulus. You have to be careful here however. Coz intimacy with a chick and not going all the way is more than enough triggers for you to wank off. Thatās why I said less frequently. If such interaction comes at a risk of you fapping to porn then Iād avoid that as well. You need to experiment and figure out what will work. Its not a textbook formula.
Step 3: Stimulate blood flow.
I wouldnāt say kegel exercises will fix it coz i personally havenāt done it so i canāt stand behind it. I have watched videos and it looks fucking stupid, i mean it basically looks as if you are vigorously fucking the floor. Imagine someone walking in on you doing that. Iād personally avoid, if you find value in it you can give it a shot.
What i can back up is actually exercise! Its not surprising that Iād recommend it but hear me out.
You need to increase blood flow to your Johnny, thatās how he gets big. Its simple biology. Increasing blood flow just to Johny is something we are all familiar with so Iām not gonna explain it. But now that you are abstaining, how do you get to blood to flow there more often? Answer is simple, lower body exercises. Squats and deadlifts is your go to exercises here. You can do upper body as well but go hard on your lower body. Focus on the pump. Iād recommend training till failure optimally. If you donāt have experience then go at a pace comfortable for you. Thatās one .
Second part: supplements!
Supplements that increases blood flow are the main ingredients in a pre workout. Thatās why we take it before working out. The compounds in them namely:
- L Argenine
- L Citruline
- Citruline Malate
- Creatine
Might wanna note it down. 1,2 and three are all compounds that increases Nitric Oxide in your blood which makes blood vessels widen and increases blood flow. We want that. Out of the three Iād suggest L Citruline or Citruline malate for you. All three have been found to help in ED. No joke you can look it up in YouTube. I use Citruline malate as of now as a pre-workout along with creatine. Creatine is important. Its cheap compared to the other three. So what they do is they increase blood flow in your muscles over all and creatine helps in increasing water volume in muscles making it larger. Combine the two and you have a good formula for a good pump and bigger muscles. This thickening formula also applies to little Johnny. I wouldnāt suggest you jump into buying these stuff immediately. Step 1 and 2 are more important. But step 3 is good for your general health overall so might wanna include it in your regular lifestyle. You can do your research on L Argenine and the rest, check the prices and then decide to buy.
Step 4: Find another chick as back up( optional)
Hey you never know when females loose interest so you might wanna keep your options open and ready.
Thatās about it for now. If you want more details about what Iāve suggested, tag me and ask. Or you can mail me at [email protected]
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