I just can’t seem to stop after trying so diligently for years, I’m just tired it just doesn’t stop, i don’t even care now tbh, it’s ruined my life, my mind, im just done with everything. Fighting this monster has been a lonely buisness, I’m in my despite time, that’s why I’m reaching out to you ppl, to have someone to talk to about this, it’s suffocating.
I know i can’t give up, I’ll go on no matter what but at this very moment from past few days im just distraughted
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Are you ready to be free from porn and masturbation?
Ok what I’m about to say may come across as harsh, but it will hopefully motivate you or make sense to you. NoFap is like fighting a sumo wrestler in an arena every day. The more you lose the bigger he gets. He feeds off of your loss, the more you win the smaller he gets. If you lose the only person to blame is yourself. It is your job to work out and to get stronger and more agile so you can at least survive in the ring, and one day, to win. The sumo wrestler never forces you to lose, he never holds you back from working out or training, he’s just a small man that fed off of your choice and is now a lot bigger. In real terms, no one forces you to fap, no one takes your hand and puts it in your pants, that’s all you man. It is your job to practice and to push even when you don’t want to so that you stay above your desires. When you lose no one is at fault, but you. If you keep feeding your desires you are destined to lose one day. That’s all I’m saying. It’s up to you! You got this bro. I believe in you.
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@Delend23 please share with us a bit more of your struggle. Why you feel like you are loosing? You got tempted and masturbated again, that’s fine. Nothing wrong with that. You are not loosing. You loose once you stop trying.
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Well I’m in the same boat too. Max streak nowadays is 4 to 5 days . But I still try every time I fall. I’ll keep trying. One day I’ll defeat PMO. Meanwhile I keep learning from my mistakes and never give up.
Sure, I have times when Im done. I cry and have no hope left. But I get over it. 4 days back I broke down. Now I’m on day 3 and I faced a big urge today and won.
Just try your best to control, when you relapse, start controlling again.
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I understand all too well. I relapse every 2 days. But I have met and seen users on here go from where Im at to massive success.
The problem is they never share with me how to succeed so Im always left behind.
The best way to win is to avoid triggers. The brain wants those triggers because it thinks it can’t survive without it.
Yet we have streaks that go for a period of time before every relapse. That means we DO NOT NEED PMO to live.
You will succeed like the others.
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I’m sure a lot of people have shared one thing or another on this forum.
There is no one perfect method to succeed, if that’s what you are looking for.
People go through many hits and trials until they find something that resonates with them. Maybe it is one method. Maybe it is a combination of different methods.
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What do you say to my situation…
Started pmo after covid pandemic began.
Relapse every 2 days for 3 years. Best streak was 4 days. I have huge amounts of stress and no way to cope. No single women to meet and never had a girlfriend.
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I say to your situation that, you focus on one thing at a time.
Or if that’s not possible, then focus on fewer things at once.
Stop worrying about it for now, when you are wanting to nofap. That adds burden to your life, if you say that you already have too much stress then why add more worries?
If there are too many things on your plate, then stick to bare essentials for the moment.
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